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Is having sex with your good freinds EX-GF OK ?

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Originally posted by: ElFenix
bros before hoes dude.
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Agreed.

And my friend bagged my g/f just do irk me, yes I know. And it did, a bit. I was pissed at her, not so much him. It was one of those, be mad in a joking way. "DUDE! YOU BAGGED MY G/F!! AZZHOLE!!' *drink beer* *be happy*

Bros before hoes.
EVERY
SINGLE
TIME.
 
Originally posted by: Shockwave
Originally posted by: ElFenix
bros before hoes dude.
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Agreed.

And my friend bagged my g/f just do irk me, yes I know. And it did, a bit. I was pissed at her, not so much him. It was one of those, be mad in a joking way. "DUDE! YOU BAGGED MY G/F!! AZZHOLE!!' *drink beer* *be happy*

Bros before hoes.
EVERY
SINGLE
TIME.
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Word, but there are exceptions. If the friend is talking mad shiet behind your back, and you find out after, they brought it upon themselves. 😀

 
I hate to come down on the other side of the fence here but if the breakup was mutual than she is fair game. That's what a mutual breakup is. Whether it's your best friend she hooks up with or a complete stranger, you gave up your right to be pissed off at who she hooks up with when you decided to end the relationship. If she dumped you then that would be completely different IMO.

Just my 2 cents...
 
This has happened to me recently...I was more pissed off with my mate for doing this to me and not at the fact that they were going out, because I just don't find her attractive or interesting anymore...

My mate has been described as "hideous" by various women...and he often goes for girls who are best friends with his mates or ex's...he's a lowlife slime...

I don't blame you for feeling this way at all, things were done behind my back too!....but I at least have the advantage that most of our other mutual mates think those two are really sad....especially after instead of getting some (they haven't had sex yet)...she spent the night throwing up and then he said he loved her and she drove home immedietly without saying anything!...and now things are really on the rocks....just as I thought they would be....

Jamie
 
Originally posted by: Shockwave
Originally posted by: ElFenix
bros before hoes dude.
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Agreed.

And my friend bagged my g/f just do irk me, yes I know. And it did, a bit. I was pissed at her, not so much him. It was one of those, be mad in a joking way. "DUDE! YOU BAGGED MY G/F!! AZZHOLE!!' *drink beer* *be happy*

Bros before hoes.
EVERY
SINGLE
TIME.
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Shouldn't Bros before hoes have applied to your friend instead? I mean, HE's the one that slept with your girl. He's the one that should have backed off and respected that fact that you two are friends.
 
I'd be pissed at my friend but as far as your ex-girlfriend goes that's fair game if you broke it off mutually. Happens all the time on the rebound. If one of her friends offered you sex soon after the breakup would you turn it down?
 
Originally posted by: Tallgeese
The standing rule is:

EXs are, by default, OFF-LIMITS.

A GOOD friend, no matter what the situation, would not get involved with your EX, NO MATTER WHAT!
And for one simple reason, which is implied here in your situation: You and the EX might get back together someday!

BTW: My very best friend screwed one of my EXs nearly 15 years ago, and to this day, I have not forgiven him for it.
BTW2: And the fact that HE did it is much worse, IMHO, than HER.
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I totally agree with this, in HS I had a very good friend who wanted to start seeing a girl I had been seeing and was for all intents and purposes my first real girlfriend, well the day after I had broken up with her (over a heated incident) he asked me if he could start seeing her...being in an already enraged state I said "why should I stop you, I couldn't care less"...I never really thought about why he asked me the day after, or if anything had been going on before hand, or if he was calling and talking to her behind my back...but instead I tried to forget about it...to make a long story short it has now been eight years and I still haven't really talked to him, and I will never talk to her again..he tried emailing and calling, even went so far as to writing me a christmas card, but after I had time to mull it over I decided any *friend* like that wasn't worth having, and for her...well now that I think about it I couldn't care less.

I should also add that after they started dating he started talking behind my back to my other friends, saying how I never treated her right and was not nearly as good of a BF as he was to her...they on the other hand just reminded him he was getting sloppy seconds....

My take on it....forget the friend he isn't much of one if he isn't going to be honest with you sometimes not sharing the truth is ok, but not in this case, and especially forget the girl, heck you were broken up what reason did she have for not telling you?? plus getting back with the ex might be ok in the short term, but sooner or later you will remember why you broke up in the first place, and believe me no matter how much you tell yourself it wasn't just long distance...don't waste your time with it....

with the new gf...well if she blows you off for the bar I would say ditch her too or at least find out why she did?...good luck
 
Originally posted by: polm
I just found out that my Ex-GF was screwing my good friend after we broke up .

I am really really pissed/hurt .

Am I wrong to feel this way ?
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She's not yours, whats the problem?

 
I don't really know why it would make you feel bad, but then, I've not had a girlfriend yet, so I've never really been in this situation.
 
Ex are not off limits. What kind of law is that? This is bull crap! People are not objects. You don't own someone forever.

That said, most people won't do it because it's taboo in their opinion.

And you're right to be hurt, but nothing you can do about it except either accept it and still hang out with her... or don't accept it.

Remember, it takes two people to have a consensual relationship. If you have to blame someone, you have to blame your friend and ex.
 
Originally posted by: polm
sorry for the lapse in conversation, but I had to go smoke a cigarette to cool off.

So the story is that after Me and Kelly broke up (pretty soon after) , her and Shane (good friend of mine) start fusking. No strings attached, just casual sex. They both decide it must be kept a secret.

Now this was the only girl I have ever had deep true feelings for. We broke up mutually because of Long Distance issues.

I have been cheated on in the past, and it has really hurt me. In-fact my best freind screwed my very first major GF while we were dating.

Kelly knows how much being cheated on hurt me. She knows how much more it hurt that it was my close friend.

So me and Kelly have not been really talking for about a year. All of a sudden she calls me, and over the past 2 weeks we have really been hitting it off again. She was coming in town, and we were gonna hang out.

Well tonight I happened to be joking about Her and Shane hooking up.....she paused....."We did" she sais. She said she couldn't lie to me, so she had to tell me.

I am really hurting right now over this.

I can't beleive Shane did this to me. I can't beleive Kelly did this to me.

I have been hurt so bad by this in the past, you would think I would be able to handle it. But I am really upset.

To make things even worse, I am dating a girl right now, we were supposed to meet tonight at 8:00. She just called me drunk from a bar and told me she wont be here till 10:00.
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Does the girl that you're dating now know that you were going to "hang out" with your ex-gf who is "the only girl you ever had true deep feelings for"? If she doesn't, then you are wrong to feel hurt. Suck it up and stop being a hypocrite.
 
Originally posted by: polm
I just found out that my Ex-GF was screwing my good friend after we broke up .

I am really really pissed/hurt .

Am I wrong to feel this way ?
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"After" being the key word. Now "before" would have been a big deal. "After" is not. Get over it.

edit: just read your later post. dude, if you don't like being cheated on, you gotta stop going after the sluts and get a quality woman. Hate your friend all you want, but your EX is a slut, she was your EX at the time, and he was just doing what came natural.
 
As a general rule, ex's should be off limits. And yes, I've broken the rule, but it didn't ruin anything. Whoops.

-geoff
 
Originally posted by: mjquilly
Originally posted by: Tallgeese
The standing rule is:

EXs are, by default, OFF-LIMITS.

A GOOD friend, no matter what the situation, would not get involved with your EX, NO MATTER WHAT!
And for one simple reason, which is implied here in your situation: You and the EX might get back together someday!

BTW: My very best friend screwed one of my EXs nearly 15 years ago, and to this day, I have not forgiven him for it.
BTW2: And the fact that HE did it is much worse, IMHO, than HER.
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couldn't agree more w/ that.
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Originally posted by: masterxfob
what about having your friends sister as a fvck buddy? is that ok?
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Depends what your friend thinks about having a sister like that ... fvck buddy = ho.

 
Originally posted by: dquan97
:camera:?
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damn, two pages. was wondering why everyone was lagging on this.

Finished watching Road Trip again. If you are in different area codes or different states, it's not cheating. LoL.
 
Originally posted by: rh71
Originally posted by: masterxfob
what about having your friends sister as a fvck buddy? is that ok?
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Depends what your friend thinks about having a sister like that ... fvck buddy = ho.
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This just leads to problems....not a good idea IMHO
 
Originally posted by: Shelly21
Ex are not off limits. What kind of law is that? This is bull crap! People are not objects. You don't own someone forever.

That said, most people won't do it because it's taboo in their opinion.

And you're right to be hurt, but nothing you can do about it except either accept it and still hang out with her... or don't accept it.

Remember, it takes two people to have a consensual relationship. If you have to blame someone, you have to blame your friend and ex.
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Shelly yes you are correct, we should not objectify anyone as no one is "property", however with that said I will add that FRIENDS SHOULD KNOW BETTER, and execute some common sense...even if they are in love they should have the decency to tell *you* as the friend first about their feelings and let you know instead of doing things behind your back....also I feel that any good friend will give the situation some TIME before moving in, if they are truly in love then what will a little cool down time hurt??

Like I said I have been in a very similar situation and it is painful and annoying...you think you are friends with someone and can trust them only to find out the whole time you were friends with them they were just eyeing your significant other like a piece of meat, waiting for things to fail (heck maybe even helping the situation as in my case) so they can move in.

If they were a true friend they would have let you know about it before anything happened, and they would have kept your feelings in mind...obviously this guy didn't and IMHO he is not a true friend.
 
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