Is having sex with your good freinds EX-GF OK ?

[p0ntif]

Ex's are taboo.
Bro's before Ho's.
Simple words filled with aons of wisdom.

Briefly: Ex's a re taboo because any friend of yours that you were with has a high probability of feeling dejected/despondent/hurt. Think of your friends before you do something stupid, otherwise you won't have many friends left.

 

[blakeatwork]

christ... if you gys dated for anything less then a year... then there's no residual "ownership" on this Kelly girl, unless you're in High School and still like to play the BF/GF for life crap... I think she's free to make whatever choice she wants... if your "friend", whom has done this before (?) didn't at least say "Hey dude, I'm scoping your ex... yay or nay??", then yea, I'd be a mite pissed as well... but what's done is done... you say you've got a new girl on the horizon... just ignore Kelly, and worry about this new one...

Kids these days...

 

[WinkOsmosis]

Having never been in this situation, I would say yes, it's okay. How do you know they aren't in love?

 

[Angrymarshmello]

Why not? You're not going out with her anymore

 

[Scarpozzi]

Same thing happened to me, but it was my roommate that was screwing my exgf. Not that I really care....she wasn't wife material anyhow.

 

[Aceshigh]

Originally posted by: rgwalt
Funny... A good friend of mine and an ex hooked up shortly after our breakup, but didn't end up having sex. It only happened once. She told me about it a week and a half later. Needless to say, I was pissed. To this day, he doesn't know that I know, but we haven't spoken in years and probably never will again. Looking back on that stage of my life, it was really, really messed up.

Ah well, I'm on to better things. Good luck in Israel. Sometimes leaving people and problems behind is the best way to solve things.

Ryan

How do two people "hook up" without having sex? And what only happened once? Supposedly you are saying they didn't have sex.

 

[polm]

Originally posted by: Angrymarshmello
Why not? You're not going out with her anymore

I wanted to. And I actually think it was about to happen. Then this...oh well.

 

[dquan97]

:camera:?

 

[FacelessNobody]

Wow man that sucks. I don't know how socially attached you are to them, but they need to be cancelled from your life, if you can do it. Remember them for what they're worth, but don't continue caring about them or seething over what they've done. You can't drive a car forward by looking in the rear-view mirror.

 

[masterxfob]

what about having your friends sister as a fvck buddy? is that ok?

 

[Pliablemoose]

The truth is, it sounds like it very much not ok with you... Not a thing wrong with feeling that way, it's your life, if you choose to be hurt by this it's your decision.

Live your life the way you want to, if it's something that you can't get over you need to not see the girl (woman) again.

Just from reading your post, it seems as though their behavior has hurt you, break it off with her and find another friend.

Move on & be more selective about who you sleep with & who you call your friends in the future.

I've had lots of GF's & never had this happen, usually, I hooked them up with another guy (on purpose) & let them (GF) dump me. I ahd a streak once where I married off 3 GF's in a row to the guys I introduced them to.

Glad I'm married now & don't have to work so hard to keep from hurting anyone's feelings after I slept with them

 

[Feldenak]

Originally posted by: masterxfob
what about having your friends sister as a fvck buddy? is that ok?

Depends...I was seeing my best friend's sister when I was in HS, he told me I'd be better off using her for what she's good for then getting rid of her. :Q

 

[Shockwave]

I could nto be friends with 98% of the people here.

With me and my friends, you HAD to hook up with the ex. it was considered bad form not to. Hell, we encouraged it! "Yeah man, hell I'm done with her, go get it"
Jeez, what a bunch of emotional spineless people we got here. Sure, if there were feelings involved we'd wait a few weeks...But ex's arent just fair game, their targetted game!!

 

[NaughtyusMaximus]

She's not your property, if she wants to fvsk your friend thats her own damn choice.

As for him, ya, it would have been nice for him to ask you first, but why the hell did you break up if you were worried about other people being with her? How is his fvsking her any different than any other guy? Afraid he'll laugh at the secrets she'll share?

 

[yoda291]

Originally posted by: Shockwave
I could nto be friends with 98% of the people here.

With me and my friends, you HAD to hook up with the ex. it was considered bad form not to. Hell, we encouraged it! "Yeah man, hell I'm done with her, go get it"
Jeez, what a bunch of emotional spineless people we got here. Sure, if there were feelings involved we'd wait a few weeks...But ex's arent just fair game, their targetted game!!

It 's obvious he's still got feelings for this girl. It's not like she b|tched him out of the relationship or made him hate her. So it's not even about who is with who and who should get over what. It's more about the fact that his "friend" purposely put him in a very uncomfortable position. It's like if I held a friend of mine at gunpoint for the fsck of it and didn't put down when he got spooked. I didn't shoot, why the fsck should he care? It's still an as$hole thing to do tho. If his friend asks and he gives the affirmative...go for it. But there's a reason why it's considered bad form to take the ex out if you aren't sure how things are gonna turn out.

 

[redheadednurse]

That is soooo not cool! What kind of friend is that?

 

[Shockwave]

Originally posted by: yoda291

Originally posted by: Shockwave
I could nto be friends with 98% of the people here.

With me and my friends, you HAD to hook up with the ex. it was considered bad form not to. Hell, we encouraged it! "Yeah man, hell I'm done with her, go get it"
Jeez, what a bunch of emotional spineless people we got here. Sure, if there were feelings involved we'd wait a few weeks...But ex's arent just fair game, their targetted game!!

It 's obvious he's still got feelings for this girl. It's not like she b|tched him out of the relationship or made him hate her. So it's not even about who is with who and who should get over what. It's more about the fact that his "friend" purposely put him in a very uncomfortable position. It's like if I held a friend of mine at gunpoint for the fsck of it and didn't put down when he got spooked. I didn't shoot, why the fsck should he care? It's still an as$hole thing to do tho. If his friend asks and he gives the affirmative...go for it. But there's a reason why it's considered bad form to take the ex out if you aren't sure how things are gonna turn out.

My and my friends looked at women differently then most people. And like I said, if there were feelings involved, we'd wait a little while to give it a cool down period. But still.....The sights would be set

 

[yoda291]

Originally posted by: Shockwave

Originally posted by: yoda291

Originally posted by: Shockwave
I could nto be friends with 98% of the people here.

With me and my friends, you HAD to hook up with the ex. it was considered bad form not to. Hell, we encouraged it! "Yeah man, hell I'm done with her, go get it"
Jeez, what a bunch of emotional spineless people we got here. Sure, if there were feelings involved we'd wait a few weeks...But ex's arent just fair game, their targetted game!!

It 's obvious he's still got feelings for this girl. It's not like she b|tched him out of the relationship or made him hate her. So it's not even about who is with who and who should get over what. It's more about the fact that his "friend" purposely put him in a very uncomfortable position. It's like if I held a friend of mine at gunpoint for the fsck of it and didn't put down when he got spooked. I didn't shoot, why the fsck should he care? It's still an as$hole thing to do tho. If his friend asks and he gives the affirmative...go for it. But there's a reason why it's considered bad form to take the ex out if you aren't sure how things are gonna turn out.

My and my friends looked at women differently then most people. And like I said, if there were feelings involved, we'd wait a little while to give it a cool down period. But still.....The sights would be set

but if vengeance and petty cruelty are your game...there are so many options that are infinitely more fun!. Not sure if I can post them here tho.

 

[Grasshopper27]

Originally posted by: redheadednurse
That is soooo not cool! What kind of friend is that?

No friend at all, it is just backstabbing, nothing more...

: ( Hopper

 

[Shockwave]

Well, heres an example.
I was in HS, and dating this younger girl. She was a virgin and I was playin Rico smooth and takin my time. Now, we had been dating for around a month. Well, she was drunk at a party one time, and my friend went over to her. I qoute "Wanna fvsk?" Off to his car they went. He worked her 9 ways to Tuesday. She was broke in good.
Now, a week ago he had said he was gonna break it in before me. i said dude, its MY g/f, I doubt it. He surely did though.
Yeah, i was a bit pissed. But, he's my FRIEND. I aint losin a friend over a bitch. Its that simple. NO BITCH IS WORTH A FRIEND. Period. End of story. Case close. Book burned. Bridge crossed.
My wife is a different story. But then again, my group of friends respects a wife status. Now, my example above is a bit extreme. But, I had no particular feelings for the girl past her needin a test drive. Serious g/f's we dont do that too. UNtil of course there single. Then we give it a few weeks cool down, and take it for a test drive ourselves.
I cant believe you guys lose a friend over a chick man.......Crazy........

OH! I forgot!! I'm surounded by nerds. You guys live and die for the 1 woman you manage to get in the course of 9 years......

j/k!

 

[yoda291]

Originally posted by: Shockwave
Well, heres an example.
I was in HS, and dating this younger girl. She was a virgin and I was playin Rico smooth and takin my time. Now, we had been dating for around a month. Well, she was drunk at a party one time, and my friend went over to her. I qoute "Wanna fvsk?" Off to his car they went. He worked her 9 ways to Tuesday. She was broke in good.
Now, a week ago he had said he was gonna break it in before me. i said dude, its MY g/f, I doubt it. He surely did though.
Yeah, i was a bit pissed. But, he's my FRIEND. I aint losin a friend over a bitch. Its that simple. NO BITCH IS WORTH A FRIEND. Period. End of story. Case close. Book burned. Bridge crossed.
My wife is a different story. But then again, my group of friends respects a wife status. Now, my example above is a bit extreme. But, I had no particular feelings for the girl past her needin a test drive. Serious g/f's we dont do that too. UNtil of course there single. Then we give it a few weeks cool down, and take it for a test drive ourselves.
I cant believe you guys lose a friend over a chick man.......Crazy........

OH! I forgot!! I'm surounded by nerds. You guys live and die for the 1 woman you manage to get in the course of 9 years......

j/k!

well, the principle of the matter is still the same for non- "nerds". You even said you got pissed. Honestly, I think sometimes it's more the fact that they went after the one girl who you were with than anything else. At last check, there is no shortage on the femal population. It's not all THAT difficult to find someone of the opposite sex. Heck, if all you're looking for is a quick pop and go, 20 bux will go far in some areas. But here's the kicker...of all the women that he coulda went after, he picked the ONE that was most likely to irk you. Ain't that wild?

 

[Mill]

Originally posted by: Shockwave
Well, heres an example.
I was in HS, and dating this younger girl. She was a virgin and I was playin Rico smooth and takin my time. Now, we had been dating for around a month. Well, she was drunk at a party one time, and my friend went over to her. I qoute "Wanna fvsk?" Off to his car they went. He worked her 9 ways to Tuesday. She was broke in good.
Now, a week ago he had said he was gonna break it in before me. i said dude, its MY g/f, I doubt it. He surely did though.
Yeah, i was a bit pissed. But, he's my FRIEND. I aint losin a friend over a bitch. Its that simple. NO BITCH IS WORTH A FRIEND. Period. End of story. Case close. Book burned. Bridge crossed.
My wife is a different story. But then again, my group of friends respects a wife status. Now, my example above is a bit extreme. But, I had no particular feelings for the girl past her needin a test drive. Serious g/f's we dont do that too. UNtil of course there single. Then we give it a few weeks cool down, and take it for a test drive ourselves.
I cant believe you guys lose a friend over a chick man.......Crazy........

OH! I forgot!! I'm surounded by nerds. You guys live and die for the 1 woman you manage to get in the course of 9 years......

j/k!

Your case is a tad different. He fvcked your gf and not your EX-GF. That is grounds for murder and no court in the world would convict.

 

[joohang]

Why not?

 

[rgwalt]

Originally posted by: Aceshigh

Originally posted by: rgwalt
Funny... A good friend of mine and an ex hooked up shortly after our breakup, but didn't end up having sex. It only happened once. She told me about it a week and a half later. Needless to say, I was pissed. To this day, he doesn't know that I know, but we haven't spoken in years and probably never will again. Looking back on that stage of my life, it was really, really messed up.

Ah well, I'm on to better things. Good luck in Israel. Sometimes leaving people and problems behind is the best way to solve things.

Ryan

How do two people "hook up" without having sex? And what only happened once? Supposedly you are saying they didn't have sex.

I don't know for a fact that they didn't, but to this day I would trust this girl with my life. Sounds weird, but since she owned up to what happened and was honest, I trust her. I don't trust the sneaky little bastard though... Anyway, people can "hook up" without having sex. I could tell you what they did, but suffice it to say they did everything up to sex, but no further. Like I said, I have no proof, but I have no doubt in my mind that they did not sleep together.

Like I said, my life was pretty messed up, as was hers. Now I'm on a different track in life. I packed up shop and left everything of my previous social life behind when I went to grad school. Things are much better now, and life goes on.

Ryan

 

[ElFenix]

bros before hoes dude.