Is going to a strip club considered cheating??

[amnesiac]

IMO, if you take the literal definition of cheating, it's not, really.
It would be similar to saying that freaking someone at a dance hall is "cheating" because it's pretty much the same action. At least one of you is clothed, there's no overt sexual contact in most cases, and unless you're slobbering all over the boobies or something, little skin-to-skin contact even.

But yes, I can see how it could be construed as cheating; I dated a stripper for a little while and it started to really bug me to think that she was making a living grinding on other guys' crotches.

In any case, strip clubs are still something I enjoy on rare occasion with the guys and if my g/f should have a problem with it, then it's her own insecurity because I'm staying faithful to her in my heart and mind even though some plastic woman is jiggling her jugs in my face.

 

[Fritzo]

If you're not single save yourself the trouble and stay out of strip clubs, chances are that even if your girlfriend tells you it's ok, most likely you will end up in trouble like fritzo, cause they might think they are ok with it at that moment but once you actually do it, they are like "I cant believe he actually went".

:::clapclapclap::: Well said! You've just graduated to a PhD in Womanology

 

[Geekbabe]

I think strip clubs are rather stupid but wouldn't have a problem with my dude having a couple beers with his buddies or entertaining clients at one.I mean just because you are on a diet doesn't mean you can't read the menu imho.The lap dances wouldn't be too cool with me,hell the kind of money you can drop on those,you could buy a new cpu/mb combo for

 

[Corn]

The lap dances wouldn't be too cool with me,hell the kind of money you can drop on those,you could buy a new cpu/mb combo for.

LOL, now that's thinking like a geek!!!!!!!!

 

[db]

MisterServer, I think it depends on why you go. If someone is not happy with what they are getting (well, not getting) at home, then maybe there is a communication or relationship problem that needs to be worked out.
If there IS a problem, it needs to be talked about and resolved to both party's satisfaction. Otherwise, you either move on to a different relationship, or live a life of unhappy compromise or cheating.

(edit for spelling.)

 

[BatmanNate]

Just a thought, but if you were entirely satisfied in your current relationship with the afformentioned significant other, why would you feel the need? Aren't there other ways to knock back a few with the buds? IMHO, she could be justified in feeling hurt over it if she interpreted that as you seeking satisfaction elsewhere that couldn't be had from her. (physically or psychologically) Then again, I just don't understand the allure of strip clubs to anyone other than desperate folks, perverts, young teenagers, and lonely old men.

 

[GasX]

Originally posted by: bmacd
tell her you already went. See how she reacts. Then use that as your basis for deciding whether or not you should go.

-=bmacd=-

This is HORRIBLE advice. Living you live in this way soon leads to you being a fat old man sitting in your easy chair in your underwear eating a tv dinner wondering why she left you. You can't have a relationship and do things only because she gave you permission.

 

[bjc112]

In any case, strip clubs are still something I enjoy on rare occasion with the guys and if my g/f should have a problem with it, then it's her own insecurity because I'm staying faithful to her in my heart and mind even though some plastic woman is jiggling her jugs in my face.

Well said..

 

[Stark]

Thank you Rev. Graham

Amen.

 

[WarCon]

I guess I have a pretty narrow view of monogamy or at least what I always wanted (Probably not a normal male perspective though). I kinda figured for a relationship to ever get to the point where 2 could become 1, you have to be on the same channels and focused on each other. Your wife/girlfriend probably isn't going to like you placing your thoughts (desires) on anyone but her. Nor should you feel happy about her fantasizing about the man bouncing his package inches from her face. I personally feel that if your bored with your wife, then there is a lack of effort in your relationship and if your not bored with your wife and are still going to strip clubs you need to examine why. (This is my perspective, which I am not pushing on anyone else.)

I do see though that society is not really making many marriages of this type anymore though, it really seems to be emphasizing the 2 should stay 2, but still try to foster love in a limited partnership type of arrangement. (Separate monies and separate entertainment with scheduled time together.) I don't mean this to be a burn to anyone who feels this to be OK, because its society that sets what is normal. I really see this to be the "norm", especially for younger people. From this viewpoint, it would probably be considered OK. Just make sure your girlfriend isn't the jealous type or you might be available again.

 

[Geagle]

Why not get your girlfriend to strip for you?

 

[NikPreviousAcct]

Originally posted by: Geagle
Why not get your girlfriend to strip for you?

Precisely the point. If in a healthy relationship, I don't think most would need/want a strip joint.

nik

 

[flavio]

Originally posted by: ffmcobalt

Originally posted by: Geagle
Why not get your girlfriend to strip for you?

Precisely the point. If in a healthy relationship, I don't think most would need/want a strip joint.

nik

Well that's BS, maybe if they are just uptight by nature.

 

[xirtam]

Originally posted by: flavio

Originally posted by: ffmcobalt

Originally posted by: Geagle
Why not get your girlfriend to strip for you?

Precisely the point. If in a healthy relationship, I don't think most would need/want a strip joint.

nik

Well that's BS, maybe if they are just uptight by nature.

I'm just going to smile, nod, pretend that made sense, and go to bed.

 

[Doodoo]

My gf and i go to the strip club every once in a while...i think she likes getting lapdances more than i do actually.....

 

[Woodie]

No. And more importantly, my wife says no too, although neither of us feels comfortable w/ the lap dance scenario. Look, don't touch.

There's the classic quote with regard to married people looking: "I'm marrried, not DEAD".

 

[Tangerine]

I wouldn't be with a guy who needed to go to strip clubs and get lap dances frequently. A once in awhile thing, like a bachelor party, special occasion, etc. wouldn't bother me though.

 

[StattlichPassat]

Originally posted by: MisterServer
Like the title says.. and i'm not talking about just watching the strippers do their shows but also lap dances, with full on boobie and crotch rubbage. i know i wouldnt want my gf going to male strip clubs but i wouldnt consider it cheating.. what's your opinion??

...uh, what does it sound like?!? YES. That's a no brainer. I hope.

 

[flavio]

Originally posted by: NightFlyerGTI

Originally posted by: MisterServer
Like the title says.. and i'm not talking about just watching the strippers do their shows but also lap dances, with full on boobie and crotch rubbage. i know i wouldnt want my gf going to male strip clubs but i wouldnt consider it cheating.. what's your opinion??

...uh, what does it sound like?!? YES. That's a no brainer. I hope.

You're a no brainer...we've alll seen that from your roomate problems.

 

[rubenswm]

Originally posted by: NightFlyerGTI

Originally posted by: MisterServer
Like the title says.. and i'm not talking about just watching the strippers do their shows but also lap dances, with full on boobie and crotch rubbage. i know i wouldnt want my gf going to male strip clubs but i wouldnt consider it cheating.. what's your opinion??

...uh, what does it sound like?!? YES. That's a no brainer. I hope.

its not a no brainer, and its not cheating to everybody. He was asking for everybodys opinions..

 

[absolutiza]

no, you're an idiot

 

[JetsFanatic]

Nope

in fact I ws just in one this afternoon

 

[propellerhead]

It doesn't matter where you get your apetite, as long as you eat at home.

 

[Sachmho]

i wouldn't say it is

 

[HKSturboKID]

Why would one considering going to a Strip club when you can get all the free porn you want at your finger tips over the internet! hehehe