Is going to a strip club considered cheating??

[goog]

Like JFur said "going is not cheating". Neither is a lap dance.
As far as time goes I think it's irrelevant, you cheat if you sleep with someone other than your significant other whether it's once or a dozen times, course she might be a little more forgiving once.

 

[Ciber]

Originally posted by: vi_edit
Can anybody on this board, that is married/engaged/intimately involved honestly say that they haven't looked at a member of the opposite sex and say - "damn, that's a fine piece of ass", that wasn't their significant other?

Of course people think these things, both men and women. as long as it stays at that level it's fine.

I find it very, very, VERY hard to believe that you haven't committed this "adulterous" act. And if you have done this, and you agree that strip clubs are indeed cheating, how do you differentiate between the two acts?

If you're going to strip clubs all the time then you might have some issues to work out with your bf/gf in my opinion. If you go to the club once or whatever with your friends then that's cool. now if there's any kind of touching then i think you're cheating, i see absolutely no damn reason for you to be touching someone else in a sexual way or letting them touch you when you're with someone else. if you want to be all over other people or want to let them be all over you then stay single.

 

[ohtwell]

Originally posted by: hammer09
I like you.

Originally posted by: ohtwell


Just because a guy goes to a strip club doesn't mean he is tired of looking at his wife or gf.

It's just tits and a*s. Nothing more.




: ) Amanda

I like you too.





: ) Amanda

 

[Stark]

Like JFur said "going is not cheating". Neither is a lap dance.

By that reasoning, your girl should also be able to give some random stranger a lapdance if she so chooses.

If you're married, it's cheating... cheating the family out of your time, your money, and your love.

If you're single it's not quite as bad... she still has a chance to dump you and find someone better without losing half her stuff.

 

[UltraQuiet]

Originally posted by: Stark

Like JFur said "going is not cheating". Neither is a lap dance.

By that reasoning, your girl should also be able to give some random stranger a lapdance if she so chooses.

If you're married, it's cheating... cheating the family out of your time, your money, and your love.

If you're single it's not quite as bad... she still has a chance to dump you and find someone better without losing half her stuff.

Thank you Rev. Graham

 

[Jfur]

Originally posted by: Stark

Like JFur said "going is not cheating". Neither is a lap dance.

By that reasoning, your girl should also be able to give some random stranger a lapdance if she so chooses.

If you're married, it's cheating... cheating the family out of your time, your money, and your love.

If you're single it's not quite as bad... she still has a chance to dump you and find someone better without losing half her stuff.

As long as I know where he is going it wouldn't bother me. I actually went to a really funny party at a Kahala Beach house where all of the women except me were exotic dancers (one of out exotic dancer friends invited us). The women (in general) are very insecure and the first thing one of them did when we walked in the door was grab my now-husband's head and jam it into her breasts. I grabbed it back, said "he prefers REAL ones" and laughed her off. It turned out to be quite a night!

 

[xirtam]

Is going to a strip club considered cheating??

Yes.

 

[NikPreviousAcct]

Originally posted by: xirtam

Is going to a strip club considered cheating??

Yes.

Yakko?

 

[NikPreviousAcct]

*ack*

double post :Q !?

 

[alphatarget1]

Is going to a strip club considered cheating??

yes

 

[LethalWolfe]

no

 

[vi edit]

maybe so :Q

 

[xirtam]

ffmcobalt, the way I look at it, it was a yes-or-no-or-in-vi_edit's-case-maybe-so.

 

[Vadatajs]

Originally posted by: vi_edit
Depends on why you are going there. If you are going there to have a couple brews with your buds, and watching some college girl shake her booty for tuition, no biggie to me.

But, if you are one of those hopeless bums, that go there with hardon in hand, dumping a couple hundred bucks a night on lapdances and actually get something out of it, then yeh, you just landed in cheatsville.

I could give a flying fart if my fiancee went to a male strip club to have a couple drinks and google at another man for an hour or two. I wouldn't be really happy if he gave her the male equivalent of a lapdance though.

I guess there's a difference between going out and gawking a little bit at members of the opposite sex - and going out and basically getting dry humped to the point of sexual release.

Well put, my thoughts exactly.

 

[Kadarin]

Interesting thread, as opinion is split, with valid reasons on both sides. To me it sounds like each couple involved needs to discuss the matter to establish ground rules, and then go from there. For example, whatever is ok for the guy to do is also ok for the woman to do (and vice versa). Your motivations for going are also a factor; for example, if you've got a friend visiting who wants to go and you're tagging along, that's a lot different than you going every weekend because you're not attracted to your significant other.

 

[canadianpsycho]

Interesting to see how many people think going to a strip club is cheating, but renting a movie because you think an actress is attractive or being a big anime fan isn't

I reckon there's a few hypocrites in the bunch.

Going to a strip club isn't cheating.

Taking the stripper home (without your wife's consent) is. If you get caught.

 

[Fritzo]

NEVER go to the nudie bar if you're married. We went to Windsor with another couple once, and the wives went to the male bar, we hit the girlie bar. I was actually embarrased to be in there A totally nekid olive skinned woman came and sat next to me, and started telling me how she was working her way through school doing this, how she was from Chile, etc. She couldn't tell me the capital of Chile (yeah...sure she's from there) and left after she found out I wasn't forking over money. Anyway...it was my wife's idea to go to the bar, and I STILL GOT IN TROUBLE!!!! She was mad at me for a week for "looking at other women". So, don't do it...you won't win

 

[ohtwell]

Originally posted by: Fritzo
NEVER go to the nudie bar if you're married. We went to Windsor with another couple once, and the wives went to the male bar, we hit the girlie bar. I was actually embarrased to be in there A totally nekid olive skinned woman came and sat next to me, and started telling me how she was working her way through school doing this, how she was from Chile, etc. She couldn't tell me the capital of Chile (yeah...sure she's from there) and left after she found out I wasn't forking over money. Anyway...it was my wife's idea to go to the bar, and I STILL GOT IN TROUBLE!!!! She was mad at me for a week for "looking at other women". So, don't do it...you won't win

Did she look at the men at the male bar? If so then she has no room to talk.





: ) Amanda

 

[Fritzo]

She said both of them got grossed out and left early. I think she was mad because they came back early and we ended up being 10 minutes late (we actually left early too, but thought they were in the casino. We looked all over for them, then finally checked back at the room and found them. Women :roll

 

[ohtwell]

Originally posted by: Fritzo
She said both of them got grossed out and left early. I think she was mad because they came back early and we ended up being 10 minutes late (we actually left early too, but thought they were in the casino. We looked all over for them, then finally checked back at the room and found them. Women :roll

The point is that it was her idea. It's not as if you lied to her and went to the strip club. If I told my husband that he should go to a strip club and he did I wouldn't have the right to treat him like crap because he did. Like I said before, it's just tits and arse. Nothing more.

It doesn't really matter now though. More than likely all has been forgiven in your case.





: ) Amanda

 

[Fritzo]

Originally posted by: ohtwell

Originally posted by: Fritzo
She said both of them got grossed out and left early. I think she was mad because they came back early and we ended up being 10 minutes late (we actually left early too, but thought they were in the casino. We looked all over for them, then finally checked back at the room and found them. Women :roll

The point is that it was her idea. It's not as if you lied to her and went to the strip club. If I told my husband that he should go to a strip club and he did I wouldn't have the right to treat him like crap because he did. Like I said before, it's just tits and arse. Nothing more.

It doesn't really matter now though. More than likely all has been forgiven in your case.

: ) Amanda

OK...you're now seeing the whole point of my complaint. It's a woman thing. I always thing twice before she "lets" me do something now

 

[ohtwell]

Originally posted by: Fritzo

Originally posted by: ohtwell

Originally posted by: Fritzo
She said both of them got grossed out and left early. I think she was mad because they came back early and we ended up being 10 minutes late (we actually left early too, but thought they were in the casino. We looked all over for them, then finally checked back at the room and found them. Women :roll

The point is that it was her idea. It's not as if you lied to her and went to the strip club. If I told my husband that he should go to a strip club and he did I wouldn't have the right to treat him like crap because he did. Like I said before, it's just tits and arse. Nothing more.

It doesn't really matter now though. More than likely all has been forgiven in your case.

: ) Amanda

OK...you're now seeing the whole point of my complaint. It's a woman thing. I always thing twice before she "lets" me do something now

Please don't say that it is a "woman" thing. I am a woman and I don't agree with what she did.




: ) Amanda

 

[dman]

Is going cheating?
To me: No
To my Wife: Yes

And I feel the same (NOT Cheating) about her going to a male strip club.

So, I haven't been in a LONG time and doubtfully ever will again.

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[EDIT]I do appreciate Kassy's argument though. Before I used to say and think it was harmless--however, I certainly would be upset if my wife wanted work at a club (even on rare 'occasion'). Thus, it can't be as harmless as I wanted to think it is/was. However... I don't think going and looking is the same as going and performing. I guess my argument is that watching men/women "degrade" themselves isn't the same as degrading oneself (and I don't think the watching is degrading).

I still don't think watching (and even the obligatory lap dance -- because it's protocol) is cheating (in both cases: for me or if my wife went to one to watch). Yet the opposite, (me or my wife) going to strip and giving lapdances to strangers for money... that would bother me for sure! I still wouldn't think it's actually "cheating" but it's worse than going/watching.

Doesn't matter, I respect my wifes opinion, I don't miss going and neither of us will ever be performing for anyone but ourselves . [/edit]

 

[datalink7]

If my GF (should I ever get one ) want to go to a male strip club every once in a while, I wouldn't have too much of a problem with it.

"Lap Dances" are getting close to crossing the line. Not sure how I would react. Looking is alright (heck, everyone looks at other attractive people).

Of cource, if my GF went every night that would also be a problem.

 

[Ciber]

Originally posted by: ohtwell

Originally posted by: Fritzo

Originally posted by: ohtwell

Originally posted by: Fritzo
She said both of them got grossed out and left early. I think she was mad because they came back early and we ended up being 10 minutes late (we actually left early too, but thought they were in the casino. We looked all over for them, then finally checked back at the room and found them. Women :roll

The point is that it was her idea. It's not as if you lied to her and went to the strip club. If I told my husband that he should go to a strip club and he did I wouldn't have the right to treat him like crap because he did. Like I said before, it's just tits and arse. Nothing more.

It doesn't really matter now though. More than likely all has been forgiven in your case.

: ) Amanda

OK...you're now seeing the whole point of my complaint. It's a woman thing. I always thing twice before she "lets" me do something now

Please don't say that it is a "woman" thing. I am a woman and I don't agree with what she did.




: ) Amanda

You're one of VERY FEW that actually think this is ok. most women will have a cow if their man is going to a strip club.

"why is he going there, doesnt he find me attractive"?
"what did he do there anyway? did he touch those women? were they touching him?"

while this doesnt bother you, it will bother most women and definately get their imagination going.

If you're not single save yourself the trouble and stay out of strip clubs, chances are that even if your girlfriend tells you it's ok, most likely you will end up in trouble like fritzo, cause they might think they are ok with it at that moment but once you actually do it, they are like "I cant believe he actually went".

most women are pretty unpredictable so you're pretty much gambling on how they will react once you actually do it.