LOL
100% sure fire way to make sure you kid finds it elsewhere
He's gonna be surfing the internet for hardcore porn by 16.
I'm pretty sure i was finding the free pics and videos a few years before 16 (on dial-up no less). I also got drunk for the first time at 15.
I must have been some kind of evil wild child intent on disrupting peaceful society and causing as much mayhem as possible.
Seriously, I'm going to emulate my parents if and when I have kids. As long as me and my older sister maintained a trusting relationship with my parents, we were essentially free. We weren't shielded from anything, I was watching R rated movies before I was 10. Granted, parents weren't always around, and that's the joy of having an older sibling and cousins.
My parents censored content for me once. That was the (first?) Smash Mouth cd that I got for christmas. They hadn't seen the Parental Advisory label when they bought it, but saw it once it was opened. They heard one of the songs and took it away. I was so pissed. lol
Just listened to it at a friend's house instead (he had it too).
I never really ran into the M rated video game issues until I was around 15, and my parents weren't censoring me then. Prior to that, never really had any games out there that warranted censoring, besides Conkers Bad Fur Day which I never got into. We did have Mortal Kombat II with SNES, but really... that's like Disney compared to most M rated games.
Unless kids are subject to relentless helicopter parenting that prevents them from even being with friends without parents, they are going to be exposed to stuff.
And that's when problems can erupt. With such intense helicopter parenting, when kids finally get a chance to break free, some do, some don't. The ones that do, wow can it be insane to witness. I'd say it's more of a gamble to helicopter parent than it is to build a working trust-filled relationship with your kid. When trust gets broken, you crack down. Otherwise, ease off on the censorship because psychologically speaking, it can be pretty damaging. Easing a kid at a young age into the complexities of the real world and letting them experience things on their own (unless you control a kid's choice of friends, they WILL find things out through that route), can help cement a stronger mental base for them to understand things. Teenagers are a mess with hormonal fluctuations, when they get bound tight and are kept on a tight leash, it can get bad. Sometimes such methods will be successful in preventing such a child from ever "doing evil", but this can cause social problems once they get into the world on their own, unless they can find such similar unaware young adults.
(sidenote: I am pretty focused on this, most of my degree and major is filled with the various 'ologies of the mental type, philosophy, psychology, sociology. Most of it is security related, but criminal and behavioral theories are pretty much universal, just the texts are focused on their application to specific subjects. No expect by any means, but my experiences, what I have witnessed, and the education... you would be surprised how much it matches up. humans are predictable in most cases /long sidenote)
I won't go into some of the other things I really want to say, because I don't want this to be a personal attack.
But there's a lot of things I witness that I find completely backward and that I do not agree with, things that are actually readily correctable. But humans are human, social issues are a plague and it worries me for future society. Society keeps technologically advancing yet makes no true social progress in terms of inter-relations.
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