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anxi80
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im not going to condone taking revenge or not, but if you go through with it, dont soften up halfway through, and also, dont involve the parentals. its between you and her, despite what her parents think of you. honestly, i say take the high road on this one, but ive been in the position before, and its so damn tempting. good luck to you in your future endeavors.
Schadenfreude
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Wow, Davi, I'm sorry it all had to happen that way, but at least you're moving on . . . however, that conniving ex of yours doesn't seem to:
question:
Why didn' you just log off when she IM'd you?
question:
Why didn' you just log off when she IM'd you?
yup. gotta go with the rest of the people here.
Just let it go. There is no point in messing with her anymore since it will just fvck up your life.
I have been in a similar situation, and trust me it took a long time to get over it. The best way i think is to just cut her off completely. We can easily tell she is pretty immature from her actions and the way she is talking to you.
So just let it go. Go have a :beer: with some of your friends (not the one she fvcked, as a matte rof fact did you ever kick him in the b@lls for that). Try to just forget her.
Just let it go. There is no point in messing with her anymore since it will just fvck up your life.
I have been in a similar situation, and trust me it took a long time to get over it. The best way i think is to just cut her off completely. We can easily tell she is pretty immature from her actions and the way she is talking to you.
So just let it go. Go have a :beer: with some of your friends (not the one she fvcked, as a matte rof fact did you ever kick him in the b@lls for that). Try to just forget her.
my stuff meaning my personal stuff that i left at her place. I used to stay there alot and she'd borrow my clothes/jackets...
ALso, According to People's Court. I get to keep the engagement ring since it was a contract and she never went through the contract, i think..
Don't even get me started with the stuff i GOT her. countless pairs of bras, shoes, clothes, stuff for her family, their kids, her diamond earrings, rings , chains.....car stereos', phones......just don't....paying for her friends....my family giving her cash everytime she came over....paying her gas for who knows how long.....
lets jsut say that she had NO $$ worries while she was with me....now she does.
And i literally let her go for the whole last month. On my b-day i told my self never again. As soon as I move i'm going to change my phone number and everything else. I've had it for 6 years and can't really change it in a month. I rather her not contact me.
i'll have a friend pick up my stuff (my jacket and some shirts and other perosonal stuff that belongs to me)
And it's hard to 100% get over things like this. 4 years.... But i'm trying....my freinds help.....you guys help :beer::heart:
all these drama queens and their chick posts. let me spell it out for you.
if you dont want the drama, dont communicate with the ex. plain and simple. the fact that you still talk to her only invites it, and you must like it, or you wouldnt subject yourself to it. if you dont like it, dont play.
how anyone can let all these "psycho b!tches" get them riled up is beyond me. if i didnt know better, i would think it was 2 women with all the drama.
no offense meant to the OP. just move on.
if you dont want the drama, dont communicate with the ex. plain and simple. the fact that you still talk to her only invites it, and you must like it, or you wouldnt subject yourself to it. if you dont like it, dont play.
how anyone can let all these "psycho b!tches" get them riled up is beyond me. if i didnt know better, i would think it was 2 women with all the drama.
no offense meant to the OP. just move on.
Schadenfreude
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Whut the hell kinds thinking is "Whatever you gave her is hers" . . .?! You must be one cold-hearted b****!
If I were a girl I would cheat on you with someone who could spell worth a damn. And then I would royally mind-fvck you and leave you crying in the gutter until you got at least a basic grasp of proper english.
TuffGirl
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I'm thinking that gifts are gifts. I've given a number of costly gifts to my exes (including a new PS2) that I would never imagine asking for back as a matter of principle. Now the OP clarified that the things he wants back from his ex are actually his belongings, which is different of course.
Schadenfreude
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PowerEngineer
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Davi, you really need to let her fall by the wayside. Neither one of you seem to have gotten what you were looking for from your relationship. Time for both of you to move on. Time for you to block her on your IM. Time for you to work on that apathy for her that you mentioned. Let her think what she wants. What she thinks is no longer of any interest or importance to you. Water under the bridge.
Sorry.
WHEW!! There is something wrong with that woman. I agree with others here. Just let it go. Revenge will do more harm than good.
TuffGirl
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Dang you need to calm the fvck down. I read over her highlit IM's and they appear to be calm and apologetic to me, not blaming for chrissake. So she said that you caused her pain. It seems like you're taking that as the converse, that she's denying she caused you pain which she didn't state, and who are you to tell her how she feels? Women hate that when men tell them how they feel. All that does is get them defensive and riled up, major no no.
The best thing to do is to wash your hands of her like you vowed to do on your birthday. Your friends convinced you that apathy is the opposite of love. Stick to that. Don't give her the satisfaction of allowing her to get on your nerves. Anyway as I stated before I think it's understandable that you're all angry and emotional over this and I think it's a good idea to let it out. I'm just trying to talk sense to you.
The best thing to do is to wash your hands of her like you vowed to do on your birthday. Your friends convinced you that apathy is the opposite of love. Stick to that. Don't give her the satisfaction of allowing her to get on your nerves. Anyway as I stated before I think it's understandable that you're all angry and emotional over this and I think it's a good idea to let it out. I'm just trying to talk sense to you.
If I could find a woman who would let me use her like that, I would do it too.
Let me clarify.
There is always a certain amount of give and take in any relationship, a reasonable amount of financial overlap, trust between parents and SO, etc. What has occurred between you and her is completely over any line I could have set. Not to mention your knowledge of her lack of academic integrity and your knowledge of her history. You stayed with this woman far past any point I could ever have dreamt someone doing so. You made the choice to take her back after her infidelity, you made the choice to intermingle your finances, you made the choice to propose to her with all of this knowledge in mind.
I cannot feel sympathy for a decision made in such a manner. Your desire for revenge only further highlights your immaturity and lack of clear thinking.
On the offchance that you haven't ignored my deliberately assholish post, I would do exactly what others have said: wash your hands of her. Cut off communication, minimize your losses then move on.
Let me clarify.
There is always a certain amount of give and take in any relationship, a reasonable amount of financial overlap, trust between parents and SO, etc. What has occurred between you and her is completely over any line I could have set. Not to mention your knowledge of her lack of academic integrity and your knowledge of her history. You stayed with this woman far past any point I could ever have dreamt someone doing so. You made the choice to take her back after her infidelity, you made the choice to intermingle your finances, you made the choice to propose to her with all of this knowledge in mind.
I cannot feel sympathy for a decision made in such a manner. Your desire for revenge only further highlights your immaturity and lack of clear thinking.
On the offchance that you haven't ignored my deliberately assholish post, I would do exactly what others have said: wash your hands of her. Cut off communication, minimize your losses then move on.
twist the knife some there dude......
i tend to stay away from anything serious... i know im not ready for it and from the looks of things neither are you two. my advice, cut your losses... what goes around comes around even though it might not be on your time table, she will get hers in the long run. pull up stakes and drop it dude its COMPLETELY TOTALLY NOT WORTH IT. But if your convinced that revenge is in order you better have a bullet proof defence and plan. whatever your route is, sh1t or get offa teh pot!
Revenge doesn't do anything but make you realize that you wasted your time. Can't blame someone for making your life miserable, if there's something that bothers you, then stay away from it. Most of our problems come from the fact that it does bother us, don't let it and life will be a lot happier. I guess that falls in the lines of apathy. It'll just take stime to realize that what most ppl are telling you here is true, it's up to you if you wanna believe them.
Adul
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Originally posted by: TuffGirl
Dang you need to calm the fvck down. I read over her highlit IM's and they appear to be calm and apologetic to me, not blaming for chrissake. So she said that you caused her pain. It seems like you're taking that as the converse, that she's denying she caused you pain which she didn't state, and who are you to tell her how she feels? Women hate that when men tell them how they feel. All that does is get them defensive and riled up, major no no.
The best thing to do is to wash your hands of her like you vowed to do on your birthday. Your friends convinced you that apathy is the opposite of love. Stick to that. Don't give her the satisfaction of allowing her to get on your nerves. Anyway as I stated before I think it's understandable that you're all angry and emotional over this and I think it's a good idea to let it out. I'm just trying to talk sense to you.
I would just forget herm unless she refused to leave u alone then maybe you should do something about it.
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