if you're white, would you date a girl who has dated a black man?

[djheater]

Originally posted by: gururu
calling OP racist is stupid and ignorant. if u havent been the subject of racism, you dont know how to identify it. if a man wouldn't date an ex of mine cause I'm latino, believe me, it doesn't impact me or my race at all. If a man won't hire my wife cause I'm latino, well hello. everyone jumps in with a higher-than-thou WASP opinion thinking they understand racism because they wrote the book. there is NOTHING wrong with the way OP feels. everyone has things they look for in a mate, and this particular preference is benign.

Well, thank god a minority has spoken. Clearly his opinion trumps anyone's.
:roll:

 

[PlatinumGold]

Originally posted by: djheater

Originally posted by: gururu
calling OP racist is stupid and ignorant. if u havent been the subject of racism, you dont know how to identify it. if a man wouldn't date an ex of mine cause I'm latino, believe me, it doesn't impact me or my race at all. If a man won't hire my wife cause I'm latino, well hello. everyone jumps in with a higher-than-thou WASP opinion thinking they understand racism because they wrote the book. there is NOTHING wrong with the way OP feels. everyone has things they look for in a mate, and this particular preference is benign.

Well, thank god a minority has spoken. Clearly his opinion trumps anyone's.
:roll:

amazing how you so cavalierly dismiss everyone elses opinion but yours.

that is quite a talent you have there.

 

[djheater]

Originally posted by: PlatinumGold

Originally posted by: djheater

Originally posted by: gururu
calling OP racist is stupid and ignorant. if u havent been the subject of racism, you dont know how to identify it. if a man wouldn't date an ex of mine cause I'm latino, believe me, it doesn't impact me or my race at all. If a man won't hire my wife cause I'm latino, well hello. everyone jumps in with a higher-than-thou WASP opinion thinking they understand racism because they wrote the book. there is NOTHING wrong with the way OP feels. everyone has things they look for in a mate, and this particular preference is benign.

Well, thank god a minority has spoken. Clearly his opinion trumps anyone's.
:roll:

amazing how you so cavalierly dismiss everyone elses opinion but yours.

that is quite a talent you have there.

As a lifer I'm surprised you're not jaded to it.

Is there a reason you're taking this personally, or just a bad day at the office? Tell me, cause I care about you.

🙂

 

[PlatinumGold]

Originally posted by: djheater

As a lifer I'm surprised you're not jaded to it.

Is there a reason you're taking this personally, or just a bad day at the office? Tell me, cause I care about you.

🙂

that's my talent i always take everything and myself too seriously.

 

[Darkstar757]

I am pissed the mods have not shut this piece of Sh*& thread down

 

[moshquerade]

Originally posted by: Darkstar757
I am pissed the mods have not shut this piece of Sh*& thread down

i have to agree with you. there is a lot of denial going on in this thread. it reaks.

 

[djheater]

Originally posted by: PlatinumGold

Originally posted by: djheater

amazing how you so cavalierly dismiss everyone elses opinion but yours.

that is quite a talent you have there.

As a lifer I'm surprised you're not jaded to it.

Is there a reason you're taking this personally, or just a bad day at the office? Tell me, cause I care about you.

🙂

that's my talent i always take everything and myself too seriously.

[/quote]


OK - Brass tacks:

As a background I think (which means it's just my opinion) that Everyone, and I mean EVERYONE, has racist tendancies... I've even postulated that this is biological, in that the majority of people are sexually attracted to those whose genetic difference is not greatly dissimilar.

Additionaly I'm able to seperate my objective acknowledgement of that racism from the social negative connotation. Racism is by its nature an inflammatory and contentious issue, especially in America.

If I were to say that the OP's action were inspired by a groundless racial bias and that it would behoove him to reassess his reasons for that bias, would it be acceptable?

 

[Taejin]

Originally posted by: gururu
everyone who is calling OP racist has no clue. I'm not even white, and I have similar feelings. I'm latino, and if a latina dated a white, asian, or black before me, it would give me second thoughts about making a move. Now, if I were interested in a woman of another race, her past would mean little. Its weird, but that is the way it is. But as someone mentioned, a persons past with complete scumbags is an even more serious issue 😛

I agree.

 

[classy]

Originally posted by: Darkstar757
I am pissed the mods have not shut this piece of Sh*& thread down

This is NORMAL. But I'll lay money, if you say something even remotely about white people, you'll get a damn warning PM. BS threads like this are cliche. But its ok because its concerning blacks. Then you get all the ones who get in their little racial comments. These are the poster boys for Clorox.

 

[PlatinumGold]

Originally posted by: djheater

Originally posted by: PlatinumGold

Originally posted by: djheater


As a lifer I'm surprised you're not jaded to it.

Is there a reason you're taking this personally, or just a bad day at the office? Tell me, cause I care about you.

🙂

that's my talent i always take everything and myself too seriously.

OK - Brass tacks:

As a background I think (which means it's just my opinion) that Everyone, and I mean EVERYONE, has racist tendancies... I've even postulated that this is biological, in that the majority of people are sexually attracted to those whose genetic difference is not greatly dissimilar.

Additionaly I'm able to seperate my objective acknowledgement of that racism from the social negative connotation. Racism is by its nature an inflammatory and contentious issue, especially in America.

If I were to say that the OP's action were inspired by a groundless racial bias and that it would behoove him to reassess his reasons for that bias, would it be acceptable?

my problem is:

1. as mosh said earlier there are degrees of racism and yes, in my opinion, there are acceptable levels of "racism".

2. the fact that most of the inflammatory remarks were made by supposedly enlightened people and all they could show is intolerance.

3. you can't get rid of racism by refusing to talk about it.

4. the comment by darkstar above is good example, his implication that only black people know what racism is. puhleease. many people have suffered. many cultures have suffered.



to really get to issues of racism, we have to be willing to discuss it not just shout insults at each other.

 

[PlatinumGold]

Originally posted by: classy

Originally posted by: Darkstar757
I am pissed the mods have not shut this piece of Sh*& thread down

This is NORMAL. But I'll lay money, if you say something even remotely about white people, you'll get a damn warning PM. BS threads like this are cliche. But its ok because its concerning blacks. Then you get all the ones who get in their little racial comments. These are the poster boys for Clorox.

you poor b1tches. i don't call you that because that's what i think you are. i call you that because that's what YOU think you are.

you poor unfortunate victims.

 

[Don Vito Corleone]

Originally posted by: classy

Originally posted by: Darkstar757
I am pissed the mods have not shut this piece of Sh*& thread down

This is NORMAL. But I'll lay money, if you say something even remotely about white people, you'll get a damn warning PM. BS threads like this are cliche. But its ok because its concerning blacks. Then you get all the ones who get in their little racial comments. These are the poster boys for Clorox.

I wouldn't agree with that - in fact I've seen you post racist things in the past without punishment. On the other hand, I've seen white racists perma-banned, at my request, on more than one occasion. As far as I'm concerned you're the most out-of-the-closet racist on this board.

FWIW, I think armatron and anyone who agrees with him are racist trash.

<--- white, have dated white, black, Asian, Indian, and Arab women

 

[CHfan4ever]

Originally posted by: Zim Hosein
<-- Patiently waits for the 1st penis joke! 😛

 

[Buck Armstrong]

Originally posted by: gururu
calling OP racist is stupid and ignorant. if u havent been the subject of racism, you dont know how to identify it. if a man wouldn't date an ex of mine cause I'm latino, believe me, it doesn't impact me or my race at all. If a man won't hire my wife cause I'm latino, well hello. everyone jumps in with a higher-than-thou WASP opinion thinking they understand racism because they wrote the book. there is NOTHING wrong with the way OP feels. everyone has things they look for in a mate, and this particular preference is benign.

Great post IMO. Thanks for setting all the "I'm white but feel your pain even though I have no idea what you're talking about" posters straight. 🙂

 

[Taejin]

There's a lot of "racism" crybabies on this forum.

Honestly, I personally have no problems with racism as long as it does not interfere with undue influence in what is supposed to be a "fair" situation.

I will date yellows and whites, but I do not find blacks attractive. I'm yellow. I have no problems with any race, period, and I am more likely to react negatively to someone's attire, posture, behavior and cleanliness.

So what if the guy is racist when it comes to his love life? Why does it freaking matter? I know we're not all bleeding heart liberals here, and I definitely do not see what the big deal is with him. He's entitled to what he likes and doesn't like when it comes to romantic feelings, and if he does not like chicks that date black men, that is his prerogative. If I can trust him on his word, then we can assume that in any other way, the guy is not racist.

To stand on your little pedestal and belittle him because he's making a personal choice that you don't like is ridiculous. There is more you can do to help him analyze his feelings and ideas other than to be exactly what you are trying not to be - a polarized, narrow minded fool who's thoughts and actions are so entrenched in habit that you cannot change them.

If he isn't hurting anyone, then there is nothing wrong. Not everyone has to subscribe to your view of reality, and your attempt to impose that on the OP is wrong.

Taej.

 

I have already.

 

[Gurck]

Originally posted by: bluemax
Bigger != better IF x> "too small"

Too big = bashing around uterus causing all kinds of pain and discomfort.


(Style + Performance) > Sheer Size IF x != "too small"

define "too small", varies according to female.

Solution, talk to female - aquire more information.

Ah, the things people tell themselves :laugh:

Originally posted by: classy
Man if your white, you can get away with just about anything here as long as its directed at blacks. This is the BS that just gets my blood boiling.

For once I agree with you. Look how many wrist-slaps McDunce got for all but dressing up in white sheets here, only finally getting banned for something which had little to do with racism (see sig).

 

[Taejin]

Originally posted by: Buck Armstrong

Originally posted by: gururu
calling OP racist is stupid and ignorant. if u havent been the subject of racism, you dont know how to identify it. if a man wouldn't date an ex of mine cause I'm latino, believe me, it doesn't impact me or my race at all. If a man won't hire my wife cause I'm latino, well hello. everyone jumps in with a higher-than-thou WASP opinion thinking they understand racism because they wrote the book. there is NOTHING wrong with the way OP feels. everyone has things they look for in a mate, and this particular preference is benign.

Great post IMO. Thanks for setting all the "I'm white but feel your pain even though I have no idea what you're talking about" posters straight. 🙂

Agreed. Most of the white people posting have no clue what it is like to really be discriminated against and belittled because of your race. All you have is a vague clue of how horrible it must be.

 

[Schneider879]

Wow, wtf I wouldn't care who they dated before. Unless, like a crack addict because then they probably had some too and don't want the babies to be screwed up.

 

[djheater]

Originally posted by: PlatinumGold

Originally posted by: djheater

Originally posted by: PlatinumGold

Originally posted by: djheater


As a lifer I'm surprised you're not jaded to it.

Is there a reason you're taking this personally, or just a bad day at the office? Tell me, cause I care about you.

🙂

that's my talent i always take everything and myself too seriously.

OK - Brass tacks:

As a background I think (which means it's just my opinion) that Everyone, and I mean EVERYONE, has racist tendancies... I've even postulated that this is biological, in that the majority of people are sexually attracted to those whose genetic difference is not greatly dissimilar.

Additionaly I'm able to seperate my objective acknowledgement of that racism from the social negative connotation. Racism is by its nature an inflammatory and contentious issue, especially in America.

If I were to say that the OP's action were inspired by a groundless racial bias and that it would behoove him to reassess his reasons for that bias, would it be acceptable?

my problem is:

1. as mosh said earlier there are degrees of racism and yes, in my opinion, there are acceptable levels of "racism".

2. the fact that most of the inflammatory remarks were made by supposedly enlightened people and all they could show is intolerance.

3. you can't get rid of racism by refusing to talk about it.

4. the comment by darkstar above is good example, his implication that only black people know what racism is. puhleease. many people have suffered. many cultures have suffered.



to really get to issues of racism, we have to be willing to discuss it not just shout insults at each other.

In response: (and I love you to pieces, so don't get mad)

1. There aren't acceptable levels of Racism, I think you know that. Are there acceptable levels of genocide? Acceptable levels of infidelity? Racism must be fought within ourselves and our actions wherever it presents itself.

2. Nobody has an "enlightened individual" card, so far as I know. Sounds like your taking conservative dogma and getting distracted by it. How are you determining that these people are 'enlightened'. anybody who's enligthened sure as sh!t wouldn't be posting on this board, that's for damn sure.

3. We are talking about it, hopefully we'll each be able to get rid of it in each other. 🙂

4. I agree. ++

 

[VirtualLarry]

Originally posted by: Arkitech
Actually its not a nature thing, there have been studies on this by observing young children. Young kids will play and interact with each other regardless of the color, but as they grow older based on their environment and upbringing thats when these suspicions and prejudices of other races creep in.

Have you seen how brutally prejudicial kids can be though, and how cruelly they will pick on, segregate, and torture, those that they view as "different"? I don't really think that you have. That segregation may not occur primarily along racial lines, true, it could well be anything. But to paint a picture that younger humans don't discriminate, is very incorrect. I think that perhaps in later years, they learn that other humans, are indeed "different" in ways, that also lie upon racial lines, that might explain further development of their discriminatory behavior along those lines later on as they grow up, although much of that may have to do with cultural backgrounds/traditions too, rather that purely skin color. (Things such as customs, clothing, religious observations/practices, etc.) Even as late as high school, sometimes those things can get you branded as "different" and discriminated against by your peers. (I used to get asked if I was Amish, as a matter of fact.)

 

[kreactor]

one girl told me that and i suddenly felt anxious

napoleon complex perhaps

 

[ribbon13]

Originally posted by: Specop 007
8 pages

That about sums it up nicely.

 

[platinumike]

if it was one of thoose gangster black guys, i would throw her to the curb. If the black guy treated her right, ID keep her

 

[Schrodinger]

It would cause me to stop and think about it (comparing my own preferences to hers), but it certainly wouldn't stop me or put me off from her.

If she had a history of douchebag boyfriends (regardless of race) then that would be a big turnoff. If she dated an abortion doctor... I'd never talk to her again.