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I think my boyfriend is going to break up with me tonight. updated.

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March 13, 2001
Dearest Michael,
As I am writing you this sincere letter of gratitude, I am talking to you on the telephone in my room. Even though the hurtfull words that we exchange between us leave a taste of hatred in my mouth, deep down inside I feel that I am coming to peace with our relationship. When we first broke up I felt as though I could never get over "us". Because you were patient with me and understood how I couldn't just break our relationship off "cold turkey", I see that it is okay to let go because you will still be there for me just as you always have been in the past. We have been through so much togehter. No other person in this world understands me like you. You have been there through the tears, laughs, trials, and tribulations. Only you know what I am most afraid of and what my true goals and dreams are in life. Your are my true best friend and confidant-thank you.
Thank you for opening my eyes to what type of person I want to be in life and what type of husband I want to spend the rest of my life with. I realize now that I need someone who is energetic, outgoing, and social, some of the charecteristics that we have found i need in a person.
Despite our many differences, we were brought together for a sole purpose- to be there for each other in not only our adolescent life, but also in the future. We have grown up together the past two years. Don't let it seem as if the elapsed time was nothing but a waste. Look back and remember all of the countless happy times that we have shared together. This isn't the end but only the beginning of our lives. Thank you for making my life worth living. When I am down, I can always look back on what we shared and I can smile. Thank you for being you!
With all my love,
Ashley



that letter just about sums up a teenage relationship... hope everything turns out okay, and remember, its not the end of the world... 🙂
 
ps i tried talking to him the other night on the phone about it.
i asked him if he still wanted to be my boyfriend and if he loved me he said "ofcourse"
usually he gets mad when i ask questions like that.

but i was in losing it when i called him, it was 3am he was asleep i was in tears. so he coulda been saying stuff just to calm me down.

*kat. <-- going to bed now really
 


<< if we broke up i would still want to be really close with you and cuddle and stuff&quot; >>


If he tries anything, just cut it off and teach him not to break up with you. Seriously quit worring about it, if he's wanting to break up with you than obviously there are some problems you are ignoring. There are other things in life.
 
eakers: First of all, nothing has happened yet, so try not to worry too much. Second, sounds like you two need to sit down and have a heart to heart about your relationship. Tell him that you feel he's been distant and you're worried. Relationships need communication in order to grow. With any luck, it's not a big deal.
 
One thing that is essential in relationships is try not to go too crazy and obsessive on your significant other. usually it scares them away. just try to act cool.
 
kat no!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! this cannot be!!!! you looked so cute together in that one pic. 🙁 im so sorrry to hear that. HANG IN THERE EAKSTER! cheer up hun! its just the fall down of the rollercoaster, it'll rise again!!!! come on!!!! cheeer up girl!!!!

btw: shes the one from CANADA!
 
Yes, TALK. I should know. My small mouth and talkative brain have gotten me screwed many times, and not the way I prefer. Man, puns are great!

*Thinking* Never been to Canada b4 😉
 
eakers, if it does happen, dont cuddle with him. Males are pigs, you should know that. We want one thing more than others, and we do base our life on it. Look at UnixFreak's post^. That just agrees with what i am saying.

He wants to know you will be there if he doesnt get his.
 
i agree with basara318. Thats how my last girlfriend from senior year was. she was comepletely obsessed with me and it seriously got to me. she cried over the phone and it didnt make it better, i began to get annoyed. its just the way i am, since they expect sooo much and then come to me in tears, as if everything is my fault. Easkers, please, dont cry and talk to him anymore. TRUST ME ON THIS ONE. you'll drive him away. if he leaves you than it wasnt meant to be but if he struggles then you know that this was meant to be. everything happens for a reason kat and you dont need to be going through this. dont be so forward even if you might say that thats the way you are. for this time dont cry in front of him. truuuuuustttt me!!!!!!!!!! ive been there and it really sucks. wish you well and keep up informed.
 
i am so scared.

That's natural no one wants to lose someone that they care deeply for.

if we brake up i will have nothing, he is my life.

No he is a boy who you seem to care for. There are lots of other boys out there. If it happens (Which we all hope it doesn't) there will be other boys that come along. You will get over it though it will take time. Unfortunately things like this are just part of life.
 
eakers,

If I were you I wouldn't get upset about it, better yet, just don't show him you're upset. And don't keep bugging him about the &quot;I love you, do you love me&quot; stuff every 5 minutes. Guys get freaked out if a chick is constantly bugging them. If you think he is seriously &quot;tuning out&quot; of the relationship you need to talk to him, ask him what's up. If he refuses then you shouldn't just be &quot;fine&quot; with it.

Regardless you should really evaluate this relationship and any patterns (has he done this before?). I know it's tough to end a relationship with someone you really love, but it makes you into a better person once you've gone through it.

i know he wouldnt have sex with me if we werent together because hes simply not like that.

Oh baby, if he knew you were still interested in him it wouldn't surprise me one bit if he tried to get-some.
 
It's all about communication, I know it sounds hard cause you are emotional about the situation but try to stay composed and get real answers not just ones that you might have a doubt in your mind he is just giving you to shut you up.
Also, worst case senerio and ou do break up, he isn't your life, I know it sounds harsh but it's true, if you aren't together then you weren't meant to be together and even though you won't see it at first trust me later it will be clearer.
From my late teens, to early/mid 20s I was in a almost 5 year relationship, I really thought it was the way things were supposed to be, she broke it off over a phone call one night, talk about being thrown for a loop, I thought the world was going to end, but with time (a lot of time) and a clear mind I realized how wrong she really was for me, and it wasn't sour grapes either.
Either way I wish you the best of luck, and as everyone else said, keep you head up.
Daniel
 
Ohh get over it. If you were a man, I'd get up and scream and shake you like Marlon Brando the Godfather did to Johnny Fontane.

Johnny Fontaine: What should I do Godfather?
Godfather: YOU CAN ACT LIKE A MAN!
 
firstly i would just like to thank everyone for the support. you guys are the best, seriously.

secondly i wish i couldnt be like this with the crying and jumping to conclusions but thats the way i am, any feeling other than happy i cry, even if i am really angry i cry.

he should be home anytime now... but with toronto rush hour it could be much longer.

im really scared.

*kat. <-- 🙁
 
Damn it, if one more of you makes a pass at her I think I'm going to be sick. Can't you boys keep your hormones in line for 3 minutes??? I'm sure it's meant as a joke, but I'm just as sure it's not quite what she needs at the moment.

I have no advice for you eaks, I'm single and always have been (and hope to stay that way for some years yet) so I have no useful insights to relationships, sorry 🙁.

But I'm sure things will work out to the better for both of you, and remember no matter what happens, you're our sister here in AT and we all still love you!!! (AT's all one big family right??)

Good luck.
 
Well if he breaks up with you will survive. Its not the end of the world. Go ahead and get your cry out if it happens. Then you'll feel better. You'll be fine 🙂
 
yeah guys just so you know
pming me asking for my pic is not a good move.

especially when im upset.

*kat. <--🙁
 


<< pming me asking for my pic is not a good move. >>


:disgust:

Some of you guys make me sick.


Don't worry too much about it right now, eakers. You'll just make yourself feel bad. Like others have said - you need to sit down with your boy and talk about it.
 


<< pming me asking for my pic is not a good move. >>

:| 🙁 :|

eakers,
could you maybe gives us a few of the LOWLIFE SCUMBALLS names that tried to take advantage while you're feeling down?

I think there may be a few HUNDRED 'friends' that would like to explain to them (in PMs back) just why that's wrong.
 


<< pming me asking for my pic is not a good move. >>



Whoever did this, you should be ashamed of yourself. Consider yourself the lowest of the low.

Kat, my advice to you, is to remember that everything happens for a reason. If he wants to break up with you now, at least you found out before you got married you know? It could be a lot worse, just take life in small strides, not giant leaps. I noticed you mentioned earlier that he's your entire life, but try to look at it as a growth opportunity if anything negative happens. Your life is only as good as you want it to be.

dm
 
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