I think my boyfriend is going to break up with me tonight. updated.

[AaronP]

If I get woken up at 3 in the morning by some emotional wreck of a crying girl and she asks me if I still love her, I say NO!

Back off, try to be more independent and not so damn needy and dependant on him. Or he'll drop you like a bad habit. Grow a spine and he'll respect you more.

 

[jorken]

ouch

 

[RaDragon]

AaronP you could be a little more sensitive to the matter even if your post makes sense -- the girl is going through hell right now.

 

[Noriaki]

Seriously what's with the back off on the needy clingy sh*t posts about? She's been going with this guy for years, and simply wants to hear that he still loves her.

Why is it so damn hard for guys to say "I love you", all girls want to hear it, it doesn't make her needy or clingy for wanting to hear him tell her he loves her.

Clingy and needy is wanted to be with you ever waking minute and for you to have no other friends, and not spend any time away from her except to sleep and work. That's clingy, wanting to hear "I love you" is not clingy. Love is a special thing, and not to be taken for granted, you guys think oh well they've been together 3 yers now, he doesn't need to tell her he loves her anymore? I don't think so....my room mates have been together 5 years, and are getting married soon, and I hear them tell each other they love each other at least 2-3 times a day, and qutie often the only time I'm with them is in the car to and from work.

Damn it...there is a girl I love, we've never even gone out, and I tell her I love her. I know she won't say it back, but I still say it, and it makes her smile. Girls enjoy hearing it, and if they need it to, well so what? You guys can pretend you have no hearts or feelings, personally I'd like to be told that I'm loved as many times a day as possible, and if a girl wants the same, I can hardly grudge her that.

I see many posts oh well maybe he's having to rough of a week to tell you he loves you. Did you ever think maybe *she's* having a rough week to, and just needs to be comforted a bit?

Ack ok now I'm ranting..I'm done....(for now)

 

[dennilfloss]

AaronP

Toute vérité n'est pas bonne à dire.

That French proverb applies here, particularly since you are generalizing your own experience to a young man about whom you know almost zilch. As for me, I never tire of telling the woman I love just how much I love her. If you don't believe me, just ask WombatWoman.

Pour Que Tu M'Aimes Encore (Céline Dion)

 

[Jalapeno]

Basically, LOVE sucks donkey balls.

<--- This guy talks experience - two marriages - neither one was successful.

Am going for &quot;low-level&quot; commitment from now on...

I wish all the best for you eakers!

 

[visgf]

Having been in this boat before, I can sympathize. I can also say that eakers probably won't be truly happy until you learn to love yourself by yourself and not part of a couple. This doesn't mean that you have to break up, not at all. You just need to find some time every day so you can be completely by yourself, doing something to pamper yourself or maybe exercise. Try going to a movie or out to dinner without taking anyone else along. It sounds wierd, but to be a happy, confident, secure person, you have to be comfortable with who you are, with or without the guy. You're a great girl and you need to realize that.

 

[unclebud]

although i think some of the advice here is bologna, i realize that i really don't come around often enuff to be taken seriously and offer my own. i also realize that all of it seems to be genuinely offered, and if people here care about you, it stands to reason people out there do also. nm
hey that was a good analogy dude had. i think i'm gonna go try it on my girl and see what hoppen
edit: my bad. i forgot to add that i wish that you find whatever's your hearts desire. gl dude

 

[Batti]

visgf, well said. To thine own self, be true.

 

[SuperGroove]

I found out that a girl that has admitted to liking me...doesn't like me anymore I've grown into &quot;too good of a friend&quot;.


eakers,

I hope everyting turns out okay. hang in there.


Paul
-Forever Disgruntled, Forever inept.

 

[DannyLove]

we haven't heard from her

*danny<------wonders if everything is okay?

 

[NutBucket]

Yep, Danny boy's got a point I think. If it had went down, she prolly would have told us by now.

 

[thereds]

I don't know you or anything...

but are we gonna hear the news?

*thereds<--needs sleep but still waiting for the outcome.

 

[Muadib]

Good luck eakers. But no matter which way things go, you should think about taking a hard look at yourself and your relationship.

 

[joohang]

Sorry for speaking out that quote, eakers.

&quot;Guys are evil&quot; also.

I hope he was just having a bad day/week and everything turns out well.

 

[ArkAoss]

yo eaks, whats the news?

 

[Double Trouble]

AaronP might not have said it quite the way I would have put things, but eakers you might want to start taking a hard look at why it is you feel he's the only thing worth something in your life, and why you 'have nothing' without him. That's waaaaaaaaaaay too needy.

In general, men like to feel 'needed', while women like to feel 'wanted'. It's a subtle difference, but very real. However, guys also like the chase of the hunt. If he feels like you are too dependent on him and need him for your own emotional strength, he's going to start distancing himself to create some emotional &quot;buffer zone&quot; between the two of you. What hunter wants to hunt Bambi if Bambi walks right up to him and licks his hand? It sorta takes the sport out of it doesn't it??

It's tough, but you're gonna have to make him feel like you're not completely dependent on him.

 

[eakers]

well folks here's the update (i didnt update sooner cuz i slept at his house last night)
we went to blockbuster and things were okay (except that the line up was like an hour long) so we left without a movie. went back to his place, went to his room, kissed for a while. then he got really sad and distant, then after like hours of just cuddling and holding eachother he started crying, i have never seen this boy cry before. so we talked kinda. it was weird how i was the strong one cuz i am not usually like that.
he loves me but he is starting to have doubts.

we cuddled and talked for hours. we love each other alot.
but then we just held eachother, and slept it was nice.

then at like 6 this morning i had a wierd dream about the periodic table and i woke up to apologize to him that i skiped Ne, then i relized what was happening and i started crying, he comforted me and told me it would be okay one way or another because i would always be in his life.

so thats that. we are getting together tonight for some drunken st. pattys day fun.

if that makes any sense to you, please let me know what the hell is going on. thankyou.

*kat. <-- not broken up.

 

[thereds]

Thats great.

It's nice for your bf to have someone so loving like you. Now where is that person for me?

*thereds<--will start searching soon.

 

[The Stigenator]

Whoo Hooo!!!
Eakers got laid
Ok maybe not but either case the problem is solved.

Now I have to find a gf like that. Thereds I think I will join you.

 

[joohang]

Very glad to hear that, eakers.

 

[nd]

eakers,

I believe I see the problem here with this relationship: Communication




Yep, too much communication.

 

[Czar]

fantastic

 

[Hanpan]

I heard a wise saying once.

&quot;Worry doesn't change anything. Only actions do. Don't worry, do something. What will happen will happend regardless of your worry. However your actions may change the outcomes. There is however a time to worry. When the sun fails to come up or the tides stop then worry. Until then rest assured that your worry will do nothing to change the course of events.&quot;

I am glad that everything worked out.

If you want to feel better just look at the first part of my sig. Always cheers me up.

On the other hand it serves as a solem reminder for those who have become complacent

 

[JohnnyTT]

Hanpan, excellent quote. Where's it from?

Thanks,