I need advice, my girlfriend is getting harrassed

[jyates]

I would just call the police and let them talk to him about his behavior.
Maybe filing some charges for assault would be in order and then after
he gets to go down to the police station and his family has to bail him out
he will figure out that what he's been doing isn't funny nor is it a game.

 

[rsd]

I would contact the Proctor of the dorm. RA's are just other college students, and while there to help, the Proctor is their immediate boss and the person in charge of that dorm. He can then tell you what to do or who else to contact.

 

[isekii]

first of all RA's ain't gonna do crap.
2nd if you really wanted to beat him up, you would've done it without posting about it.
It doesn't take much to open up a can of whoopass, just make sure it was in "self-defense".

I dont understand how you can put up with this type of sh!t especially when it's your girlfriend.

 

[TheAudit]

Get yourself a ball gag, a traffic cone and some peanut butter.
He'll never bother your girlfriend again.

 

[imported_Phil]

Er, Mace?

 

[rgwalt]

brass knuckles

R

 

[Doboji]

Originally posted by: 5489
My girlfriend is going to UC Berkeley and is currently being harrased by a guy that is in her dorms. Im not too sure what exactly, but he goes up to her and hugs her and squeezes until my girlfriend would scream and yell out to stop. Sometimes she leaves her dorm room open, and when it's open, he would walk in, and not leave for hours. He would jam his fingers up her ribs. There's more, but basically, he is causing pain, and just laughs it off when my girlfriend screams, or tells him to stop. Now she is afraid to keep her door open, or even walk in her own hall. When she is lying in bed trying to study, he would get in the bed and try to snuggle.

I am fvcking pissed about this, and ridiculously close to going up there and beating him to a bloody pulp, but if I do that, I know i would get in some sort of trouble. I dont really want to get in trouble so I was wondering what I could legally do to get this guy in trouble. My girlfriend does not really want to tell the proper authorities, but I will convince her to.

My question is, what would the legal way be to go about this situation? I am not letting this go, and I want him kicked out of the school. Do you think it would get that far? Who would I tell? The dean?

Any advice to how I should settle this would be nice.

If you are big and strong... go calmly sit down with him... and I'm not being sarcastic here... calmly tell him, my girlfriend does not appreciate you putting your hands on her. I would really appreciate you saving me further legal action by leaving her alone from now on.

If you catch him in the act (again if you are big and strong), you can feel free to punch him, kick him, and otherwise kick his ass.

If you are not big and strong... I would contact the RA of that dorm.

But man I have to ask you a question... why is your girlfriend not resourceful enough to handle this already?... I find myself very suspicious of your girlfriend.

-Max

 

[dquan97]

tell RA, then if problem persists, go to the housing director

 

[MacBaine]

I love how people need to post to receive advice that is common sense to almost every human on the planet.

 

[m2kewl]

i hear a beatdown on this fool is on order!

 

[TheAudit]

They?ll only give you a few years for vehicular manslaughter.

 

[DougK62]

Doesn't she have any guy friends at school? If one of my female friends was being bothered like that I'd sure as hell confront the dude.

Buy her some pepper spray if you haven't already. It's a requirement for women these days.

 

[Rainsford]

Originally posted by: DougK62
Doesn't she have any guy friends at school? If one of my female friends was being bothered like that I'd sure as hell confront the dude.

Buy her some pepper spray if you haven't already. It's a requirement for women these days.

Yeah...no kidding.

And the OP mentioned she "screams" for him to stop. I don't know how dorms at Berkeley work, but back when I lived in the dorms, if we heard a girl screaming for some guy to get off her, he would have had some MAJOR problems in about 30 seconds. Actually that did happen once...guys that take advantage of girls generally show much different behavior when 5 big guys show up. I doubt that was his favorite college experience...

Tell campus police, don't let them let the guy off with a warning, at the very least you'll have a record of him bothering her. File a restraining order. Arm your GF with something, like DougK62 said, pepper spray is effective and cheap. She must have guy friends in her dorm or at least at school, she should tell them what's going on and see if they can "help". Go visit her and have a little "talk" with the guy.

Do these things in that order.

 

[Aharami]

man if someone was harrasing my girl like that, i wouldnt wait till the next morning. i'd start driving as soon as i heard about it...2am or 10am. skip a day of classes...go spend a day with ur girl. if ur girl seems like she is defending him, she is doing him. time to find a new girl

 

[kaizersose]

Originally posted by: Chronoshock
Pretty easy, just have your GF complain about sexual harassment. He'll get his ass handed to him by the administration, possible suspension/expulsion.

best route, they will be on him like stank on a monkey. if not, you can always kick his ass.

 

[Nitemare]

Originally posted by: 5489

Originally posted by: Nebor
What the fvck? First person to talk to about it is him. Tell him to cut it out, and stay away from your girlfriend, and that if he touches her again, you'll be back to see him. If he does it again, beat the fvck out of him.

I swear, straight people waaay overcomplicate things.

I dont want to do this, because I dont want to give him the chance to stop, or calm down. I want to take him out, and take him out now.

kick his ass then

 

[eakers]

why hasn't she spoken to her ra about this already? he'd be off her floor by now.

 

[MercenaryForHire]

Originally posted by: MacBaine
I love how people need to post to receive advice that is common sense to almost every human on the planet.

 

[yllus]

What the bloody hell. Is she a mute or something? Talk to the RA or the police and get that creep out of there.

 

[MercenaryForHire]

Originally posted by: 5489

Originally posted by: tantos
Tell your gf to get some balls and tell the creep off...damn man..if she lets it go on no wonder the dude is always at it. If she can't? time to show up with the boys and do some intimidating.

dont you think she's been telling him to? she does all the time.

So she hasn't bothered to escalate it by talking to the police or rounding up a posse? Again, no wonder he's going at it.

If every single girl reports him, he will be out of the school in no time. And if they're too "scared" or whatever other bullsh!t they try, just round up a few angry boyfriends and pay him a visit in person. Inform him in no uncertain terms that if he does not leave your girlfriend(s) alone voluntarily, you will remove the desire at the physical level. Bring a rubber band, sharp knife, and a ball gag to reinforce your point.

- M4H

 

[GreasyBurger]

Call the cop

 

[MercenaryForHire]

Originally posted by: eakers
why hasn't she spoken to her ra about this already? he'd be off her floor by now.

Originally posted by: yllus
What the bloody hell. Is she a mute or something? Talk to the RA or the police and get that creep out of there.

I know. This thread shouldn't even exist; it should be either "Guy was kicked out for harassing my girl" or "Posting from jail after beating the fvck out of guy who was harassing my girl"

- M4H

 

[BD2003]

All this talk about kicking his ass is all great and lovely, and the obvious thing to do, but it will probably get you in more trouble in the end, and make it worse for your girl and you. That kind of stuff is remembered.

Either report his ass (easy way), have a "conversation" with him and bring your nine so he knows your serious (dont bring it loaded, seriously), or give your girl some pepper spray (could get her hurt).

He's probably a big guy if he has the balls to do this. This isnt unhead of, a friend of my GF's was constantly bothered by some guy, and while I'd have liked to have kicked his ass, the plain and simple fact is that I'm not going to beat down a football player.

Just remember, he doesnt know you. You could be crazy. So act like it.

But seriously, just report him.

 

[user1234]

Originally posted by: nan0bug

Originally posted by: BurnItDwn
She should light him on fire. Or at least burn him with a lighter. Maybe scorch the creeps hair ... hair burns well.

Best response yet.

Tell her to spray him with a hairspray flamethrower.

I wonder if you get these sick ideas from personal experience...

 

[Ameesh]

Originally posted by: 5489

Originally posted by: SuperTool
This is retarded. She doesn't want to tell authorities because she likes the attention more than she dislikes the discomfort.

Well I just conviced her to tell authorities.

All three of you need to be tazered in the head, why would it take convincing?