I lack faith that I can move my life forward

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AdamK47

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In order to get a better understanding, please list all of the choices you've made in life that you now regret.
 

SlitheryDee

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Whatever your problem is, you'll probably feel better once you get started on the path to fixing it. If by "moving my life forward" you mean career-wise or monetarily, you need to identify what it is that is holding you back and start working on that. Do you lack education? If so, then that's always a good place to start. Once you start, you'll feel better about things. It's inaction that tends to make people sink into despondency and defeatism. Act.
 

BurnItDwn

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Take one step at a time. A step may be only a step, but its still a damn step. You have to get off your ass and take a step. Keep taking more steps. You will die eventually. This is the only way to allow for the chance of success. The rest is luck.
 

Naer

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I regret turning to atheism as a response to being unpopular in catholic school

I regret not varying my friend pool in catholic school
 

nakedfrog

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I just don't believe I can achieve my goals. Feel like I'm doomed to mediocrity
That's what happens when you consider yourself an "unemployable artist" living off the government teat. Get off your arse, get a job, and if you really think you're an artist, either improve your art until others agree, or finds those that agree that your current output qualifies as art.
 

Newell Steamer

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I have a doc but he's busy, don't feel like bothering him

A good part of you getting better comes from you wanting and actually doing something to get better. Sounds like you don't want to be helped.

Nonetheless, hope you figure it out.
 

Naer

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That's what happens when you consider yourself an "unemployable artist" living off the government teat. Get off your arse, get a job, and if you really think you're an artist, either improve your art until others agree, or finds those that agree that your current output qualifies as art.

i do believe Im unemployable. What reason have I not to believe this?
 

Naer

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I have an idea about how I can be more liked in my area but I'm afraid of it going unappreciated. Print outs of art from various artist and having a sign "free art" Thoughts on this idea?
 

SlitheryDee

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I just don't believe I can achieve my goals. Feel like I'm doomed to mediocrity

What's wrong with that? I thought about that quite a bit when I was younger. The idea of being an exceptional person that everyone remembers is a good one, but the nuts and bolts of making that happen are definitely not for me. If I could just have the end result without any of the work or drawbacks involved in doing that it would be just perfect, but that would never happen. It turns out that for me, being a so called "great man" isn't worth the hardship involved. If it were, I would obviously be endeavoring to become one.

So I'll have to settle for mediocrity as well. That's ok though. Plenty of mediocre people have good jobs, good friends, hot wives, decent houses, and generally acceptable lives. If I can just join their ranks that'll be enough for me. Even that takes a measure of work, but it's more in the range of what I'm willing to deal with. I just did a general assessment of what I realistically want in life and what I'm willing to do to get it. Some things are just out of range for me, so I've put them out of my mind in favor of more modest goals.
 

SlitheryDee

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I have an idea about how I can be more liked in my area but I'm afraid of it going unappreciated. Print outs of art from various artist and having a sign "free art" Thoughts on this idea?

Are you going to make sure it's ok with all these "various artist" that you give their work away? Just a thought.

A lot of your ideas for being "more liked" seem to center around placing yourself in a public place and setting up a situation where you come in contact with people on your terms. Not a terrible idea I suppose, but you run the risk of being "the weird guy who gives away art in the park" to most people who see you. I think it would be better if you got involved with a mutual activity with other people. People tend to like you better if you are doing something "with" them rather than "at" them, if you get my meaning. Bowling leagues are fun and you can be a great asset to your team even if you aren't very good. Joining a gym can put you in contact with people and improve your self esteem simultaneously. Charity work is something I never did, but it seems like an equally good way to rub elbows with people who will instantly respect you for joining their ranks.

There are so many ways to get people to like you that are better than setting up shop in an open area and giving stuff away.
 

Naer

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Are you going to make sure it's ok with all these "various artist" that you give their work away? Just a thought.

A lot of your ideas for being "more liked" seem to center around placing yourself in a public place and setting up a situation where you come in contact with people on your terms. Not a terrible idea I suppose, but you run the risk of being "the weird guy who gives away art in the park" to most people who see you. I think it would be better if you got involved with a mutual activity with other people. People tend to like you better if you are doing something "with" them rather than "at" them, if you get my meaning. Bowling leagues are fun and you can be a great asset to your team even if you aren't very good. Joining a gym can put you in contact with people and improve your self esteem simultaneously. Charity work is something I never did, but it seems like an equally good way to rub elbows with people who will instantly respect you for joining their ranks.

There are so many ways to get people to like you that are better than setting up shop in an open area and giving stuff away.

What if I ask for an email adress in exchange for the art? As for other people's art, I'll be getting prints myself from online

The bowling sounds nice tho, may look into that instead
 

Iron Woode

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Hiya folks.
Ya say ya lost your job today?
Ya say its 4 A.M. and your kids aintt home from school yet?
Ya say your wife went out for a corned beef sandwich last weekend - the corned beef sandwich came back but she didnt?
Ya say your furniture is out all over the sidewalk cause ya cant pay the rent and ya got chapped lips and paper cuts and your feets all swollen up and blistered from pounding the pavement looking for work?
Is that whats troubling ya fellow?

REFRAIN

Well lift your head up high and take a walk in the sun with dignity and stick-to-it-ness and ya show the world, ya show the world where to get off.
Youll never give up, never give up, never give up...that ship!

Hey there friend.
Ya say your radiators never worked all winter and now that its summer they started up again and ya cant turn them off?
Ya say your wife sent your light weight suits to the cleaners and that means youll have to wear your itchy tweeds this morning when they say itll hit 106 and ya gotta meet an important business man in an hour and your bridge just broke and ya pasted it together with bubble gum and ya hope it dont fall apart while youre doing some fast talking to this man?
And - and your shoelace just busted and ya opened a big cut on your cheek trying to even out your sideburns and your daughters going out with a convict and your wife just confessed she gave your last sixty dollars as a deposit on an air plane hanger?
Is that whats troubling ya, friend?

REFRAIN

Hey there, cousin.
Ya say ya cant pull your car out of the mud and youre in the middle of nowhere and its pouring rain and ya cant get the top back up and your paychecks all blurred and your foot went right through the gas and your girls screaming bloody murder shes scared of the dark and a stroke of lightning splits your motor in half and your suits shrinking up fast and ya start up the windy road on foot and sixty yards barbed wire hits ya right smack in the puss and ya both fall down in the mud and then a wild animal comes over and runs away with your shoes and your car blows up suddenly and your windshield-wiper ends up in your mouth and ya cant move and the muds rising up to your nostrils and youre sinking fast and ya dont hear your girl screaming anymore?
Is that whats on your mind, cousin?

REFRAIN

And now, this is the old philosopher saying, so long, folks.
 
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olds

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Just Do It©

Plus realize life is a journey from one disappoint to the next disappointment. With a little fun thrown in every once in a while to get your hopes up so life can laugh in your face.
 
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Naer

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cant say I've aliened anyone in my life considering I've never had anyone