I am a marriage n00b *pic included*

[toekramp]

Over Thanksgiving a couple of my friends (one of them XietyCom) are going to be making a 8 day trip to Europe. I, of course, invited myself and my wife to go along since she loves Europe and I've never been. Well apparently she isn't allowed to take vacation days since she's a teacher and they get all sorts of breaks. So I said I would just go, which of course I got the response "What you'd rather spend Thanksgiving with them than me..." so i said "Well, yes it is Europe" Anyways she didn't like that...

Am I being unreasonable? Is this something I need to accept as part of married life? It's not a huge issue between us I'm just trying to adjust to this whole 'dependence' thing

cliff notes:

wife can't go to europe, i still want to
does that make me suck

edit:
me and the wife -> Justin/Hannah

 

[upsciLLion]

Should have reworded it, but honesty is the best policy.

 

[TitanDiddly]

She reads too much Cosmopolitan.

 

[The Stigenator]

yes.. she isnt being unreasonable..

once your married.. your fscked!

actually you seem like a newly wed.. but thanksgiving.. esp if its the first one.. you got to spend with family.

 

[Triforceofcourage]

Tell her to shut up and make you a sandwhich.

 

[toekramp]

Originally posted by: Triforceofcourage
Tell her to shut up and make you a sandwhich.

i said get in the kitchen and make me a pie...close enough?

 

[TechnoKid]

Originally posted by: toekramp

Originally posted by: Triforceofcourage
Tell her to shut up and make you a sandwhich.

i said get in the kitchen and make me a pie...close enough?

:beer:

 

[bobbybe01]

Too bad I'm not a lawyer, otherwise I would be working on your divorce papers in a few years.

 

[DAGTA]

I'd rather wait and go with my wife some other time, so I could experience Europe with her.

 

[toekramp]

Originally posted by: bobbybe01
Too bad I'm not a lawyer, otherwise I would be working on your divorce papers in a few years.

yes because a disagreement = divorce...

 

[Triforceofcourage]

Originally posted by: toekramp

Originally posted by: Triforceofcourage
Tell her to shut up and make you a sandwhich.

i said get in the kitchen and make me a pie...close enough?

Yeah, its close enough.
always add the word bitch to the end of the demand, women love that.
For example, Make me a pie bitch.

 

[nmcglennon]

Tell her you'll only be swayed by the amount of sex you have between now and Thanksgiving... then go to Europe anyways.

 

[toekramp]

Originally posted by: nmcglennon
Tell her you'll only be swayed by the amount of sex you have between now and Thanksgiving... then go to Europe anyways.

brilliant

 

[cronos]

nah, you don't suck. but yes, you're a n00b.

 

[spunkz]

Originally posted by: toekramp

Originally posted by: nmcglennon
Tell her you'll only be swayed by the amount of sex you have between now and Thanksgiving... then go to Europe anyways.

brilliant

if you had a poll, i'd vote for this

 

[Klixxer]

First of all, you invited both of you without checking with her, that was your first mistake.

Second mistake was your wording, you COULD have said that you are going to spend the rest of your lifes together, what is 8 days compared to a lifetime.

Third mistake was asking for marriage advice on ATOT.

 

[toekramp]

Originally posted by: Klixxer
First of all, you invited both of you without checking with her, that was your first mistake.

Second mistake was your wording, you COULD have said that you are going to spend the rest of your lifes together, what is 8 days compared to a lifetime.

Third mistake was asking for marriage advice on ATOT.

noted, noted, and noted

ty

 

[Iron Woode]

Show her this:

http://pics.bbzzdd.com/users/IronWoode/good_wife.jpg

 

[vi edit]

There's no "I" in marriage. Well. There is. But it's silent or something.

 

[y2kc]

does it make you suck? maybe

does it make you a selfish marriage noob? absolutely.

you are screwed either way now, you've lost major points and she WILL NOT forget this...

 

[mobobuff]

If the genders were switched in this question, you'd have 50 people calling you an insecure controlling prick.

Aside from that, what I DO think is weird is that you still want to go when your wife can't. You're gonna be a third wheel. I think it only works if you're a package deal with you and your wife and your friend and his wife. If it's a couple + 1 it's gonna be awkward. Unless you'd be pretty separated. In that case, being alone in Europe COULD be pretty cool.

 

[Ameesh]

Originally posted by: Iron Woode
Show her this:

http://pics.bbzzdd.com/users/IronWoode/good_wife.jpg

hahaha, i think most women would beat you if you should them that.

 

[Epoman]

You're selfish you choose your friends over your wife.

 

[Barnaby W. Füi]

What does this have to do with marriage? You act like you never knew each other, and all of a sudden got married and here you are, confused and asking for help on atot.

Disagreement certainly != divorce, however, if you have to ask for help with such basic issues, then damn... not sure what to say.

 

[mobobuff]

Originally posted by: Epoman
You're selfish you choose your friends over your wife.

He didn't choose his friends over his wife... he chose EUROPE and his friends over his wife.