How to persuade someone to dump their partner?

[Woodchuck2000]

Does anyone else get the feeling that this forum is populated largely by teenage boys?





And for a laugh, My $0.02:
Don't mess with the relationship. If you're interested, she already knows it so don't meddle any further. Also, you don't get to be the knight in shining armour if you instigate the break-up

 

[Gaard]

Hell, I'm spoken for and even though all the ladies know it, they keep badgering me. Sometimes I get a little tired of it, but most of the time it doesn't bother me.

 

[NikPreviousAcct]

Originally posted by: Gaard
Hell, I'm spoken for and even though all the ladies know it, they keep badgering me. Sometimes I get a little tired of it, but most of the time it doesn't bother me.

You never return my phone calls you bastard :|

 

[SnapIT]

Originally posted by: Woodchuck2000
Does anyone else get the feeling that this forum is populated largely by teenage boys?





And for a laugh, My $0.02:
Don't mess with the relationship. If you're interested, she already knows it so don't meddle any further. Also, you don't get to be the knight in shining armour if you instigate the break-up

And you seem to be one of those teenage boys... How will she know if she's not told or shown?

In my experience, many guys are waaaaay to suddle when it comes to showing their interest, women are not mind readers and they rarely understand us any better than we understand them...

 

[Lonyo]

She knows I like her, and she likes me, but she doesn't want to break up with her boyfriend a few days before Christmas, even though she doesn't care about him as much anymore and their relationship is going downhill.
I just want to get it over with.

 

[Dudd]

You know what they say, all's fair in love and war. So, unless she's got a stone on her hand, you can do whatever you want. Just don't be surprised if she does the same thing to you. But, don't become a friend, or you might become, as Chris Rock would say, trapped in the friend zone.

 

[SnapIT]

Originally posted by: Lonyo
She knows I like her, and she likes me, but she doesn't want to break up with her boyfriend a few days before Christmas, even though she doesn't care about him as much anymore and their relationship is going downhill.
I just want to get it over with.

Then be a man and wait it out or go find yourself someone else to cuddle with in the mean time...

 

[Lonyo]

Originally posted by: Dudd
You know what they say, all's fair in love and war. So, unless she's got a stone on her hand, you can do whatever you want. Just don't be surprised if she does the same thing to you. But, don't become a friend, or you might become, as Chris Rock would say, trapped in the friend zone.

LOL!!
It was only because we talked as friends that we ended up with mutual interest in each other. Seems I managed to jump the gap between the ladders
Plus, if you become friends, there's less risk of finding out the person is really evil, but then there's the risk of being unable to jump ladders .

 

[Siddhartha]

Originally posted by: Deeko
You don't. You stay the fvck out of other people's relationships. I don't care what your reasoning is. If it is because you want her, well tough sh!t, you stay out and maybe she will be single later. If it is because you don't want her but you think he is bad for her, that's not your fvcking decision. Maybe she sees things you don't. Maybe he isn't a "jerk" to her. You just stay the fvck away from someone else's relationship.

 

[Gaard]

Originally posted by: SnapIT

Originally posted by: Lonyo
She knows I like her, and she likes me, but she doesn't want to break up with her boyfriend a few days before Christmas, even though she doesn't care about him as much anymore and their relationship is going downhill.
I just want to get it over with.

Then be a man and wait it out or go find yourself someone else to cuddle with in the mean time...

I say be a man and ask her out. Are you a hunter or a gatherer?

 

[SnapIT]

Originally posted by: Gaard

Originally posted by: SnapIT

Originally posted by: Lonyo
She knows I like her, and she likes me, but she doesn't want to break up with her boyfriend a few days before Christmas, even though she doesn't care about him as much anymore and their relationship is going downhill.
I just want to get it over with.

Then be a man and wait it out or go find yourself someone else to cuddle with in the mean time...

I say be a man and ask her out. Are you a hunter or a gatherer?

She has already told him she doesn't want to break up with her boyfriend atm...

Women usually likes guys who know what they want and try to get it, but very few women like insensitive jerks...

 

[Hammer]

this thread rawked!

 

[johnjohn320]

but very few women like insensitive jerks...

You'd think so wouldn't you?

 

[mpitts]

How about you stay out of other people's relationships? Probably best, wouldn't you think?

 

[PistachioByAzul]

Blah blah blah, stop insulting the guy, he's just doing what most guys would have done at some point in their lives, or perhaps still would if given the chance.

The reason you don't want to speed up the breakup process is because that kind of manipulation is a dangerous basis to start a relationship on.

 

[PistachioByAzul]

I guess some of us are maybe also insecure about our own latent/repressed lecherous nature, we're worried about that guy on the other end trying to draw the girl away from us because we see (and deny) that intent in ourselves.

 

[NinjaGnome]

First question from me would be do you want a long relationship from her or some action?

If you want a long relationship with her then just wait until they break up and then ask her (this will be a firm base for a long relationship)

If you just want to play and play in a hurry then rush the break up (This might not be a good idea for a longer term relationship since deception is involved)

I've been in situations like this and have tried both of the above.
The thing about rushing a breakup is that you will eventually feel bad if you have any form of conscience for the guy you took the girl away from.

All the hot girls are pretty much taken so either have to get them to break up with their boyfriends or wait it out. Waiting it out has been my choice as of late because of the conscience thing.

 

[Dulanic]

Hey ever think maybe she told you she doesnt want to break up with him now because just maybe she is letting you down easy and not just telling you know? Women are weird like that, youll meet someone theyll act intrested, and then never call back when ya call them, or give fake numbers, crap like that. For some reason alot of them have a thing against saying no, and just lying.

If your a crappy enough person to force something SHE DOESNT WANT RIGHT NOW, like breaking up with her boyfriend, you are one shitty person, and IF she really is going to break up with him eventually, youll probably RUIN any chance you had by going in and forcing something she doesnt want! Dont be a prick, dont screw with someones relationship.

 

[MercenaryForHire]

Originally posted by: MichaelD
Take her out for food/drinks. Get cozy. If she gets cozy back, make a pass at her and see what happens. If she's into you (or you get into her.......) the nasty work will take care of itself. She'll call up Mr. Long Distance Penis and dump his @ss. Then you slide right on in....until some other guy does to you what you did to that dude. What goes around comes around.

But that hasn't stopped me in the past. Go for it...the hell w/Christmas Spirit. You want 'Tang, Tarzan? Then Tarzan go get 'Tang!!!!

Listen to the wise man.

If all you want is a little "Christmas Cheer" this season, by all means go for it. Don't expect it to last too long, but it'll be great while it does. And yes, expect to get the same thing done to you later on.

To all of you trashing on Lonyo for considering this - wrap your minds around this one.
What kind of relationship is she in right now if she would go after him? Obviously not a very strong one, and not one worth keeping if she's willing to cheat or break up with her current boyfriend to take on a newcomer.

Originally posted by: Lonyo
Well, it's Christmas time, how would you persuade a girl to dump her boyfried at this time?

Rum and eggnog. Now go "ring in the new year" with her ...

- M4H

 

[Dulanic]

To all of you trashing on Lonyo for considering this - wrap your minds around this one.
What kind of relationship is she in right now if she would go after him? Obviously not a very strong one, and not one worth keeping if she's willing to cheat or break up with her current boyfriend to take on a newcomer

And in my eyes, someone who is cheating with someone while they KNOW that person is with someone else it JUST as bad as the person cheating. I hate cheaters, I hate dishonest people. Their weak people, plain and simple.

 

[johnjohn320]

Originally posted by: EngineNr9
I guess some of us are maybe also insecure about our own latent/repressed lecherous nature, we're worried about that guy on the other end trying to draw the girl away from us because we see (and deny) that intent in ourselves.

I can confidently give that a emphatic "nope" for me.

 

[MercenaryForHire]

Ahem.

Updates?

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Come on, I searched back a bit for this, and it's three days old now. Something must have happened. I demand closure!

- M4H

 

[Orsorum]

Originally posted by: MercenaryForHire
Ahem.

Updates?

Text?

Pics?

Come on, I searched back a bit for this, and it's three days old now. Something must have happened. I demand closure!

- M4H