How to persuade someone to dump their partner?

[Deeko]

Originally posted by: Gaard
You guys believe in fate/destiny too much. If you see something you want, go for it. You might just miss your soulmate because she happens to be in a relationship when you see her.

Actually I don't believe in fate, or destiny, or soulmates. It isn't only disrespectful to the guy she is with, it is disrespectful to her as well. You are saying "hey look, I know you are comitted to someone else, but I don't care about that decision you made." Its bullsh!t.

Oh, and don't think this has anything to do with my ex and I. No one had anything to do with us breaking up, and we have been apart for over a month and she still isn't seeing anyone else, so I'm not saying this because I am bitter because it happened to me. It didn't.

 

[eakers]

if a person in a relationship cheats then there is something very wrong with the relationship.

how is their relationship the single persons problem? its not.

if they want to cheat they will, wether its with one person or some other.

 

[Gaard]

Maybe I'm fvcked in the head? I've never been put off by the fact that a girl is seeing someone else. As long as her b/f isn't a friend/relative/acquaintance and I think we might hit it off, I ask her out. If she says no, I say ok. If she says ok, then we go out.

 

[chemos]

jeez.. this discussion is like the geek version of "As the World Turns".

Lonyo>
Don't. if you're interested in her, just come right out and say it already. and if that's the case, just be there for her. let nature take its course or you might be the one hitting the door, right before her b/f.

 

[NikPreviousAcct]

Originally posted by: Gaard
Maybe I'm fvcked in the head? I've never been put off by the fact that a girl is seeing someone else. As long as her b/f isn't a friend/relative/acquaintance and I think we might hit it off, I ask her out. If she says no, I say ok. If she says ok, then we go out.

Why would you care if it was someone you knew or cared about? Because you respect them or care about how it would effect them? Why would it be different for someone that you didn't know? Because you just don't respect them?

 

[Gaard]

Originally posted by: ffmcobalt

Originally posted by: Gaard
Maybe I'm fvcked in the head? I've never been put off by the fact that a girl is seeing someone else. As long as her b/f isn't a friend/relative/acquaintance and I think we might hit it off, I ask her out. If she says no, I say ok. If she says ok, then we go out.

Why would you care if it was someone you knew or cared about? Because you respect them or care about how it would effect them? Why would it be different for someone that you didn't know? Because you just don't respect them?

Yeah, that's probably it. If I don't know him how can I respect him?

 

[NikPreviousAcct]

Originally posted by: Gaard

Originally posted by: ffmcobalt

Originally posted by: Gaard
Maybe I'm fvcked in the head? I've never been put off by the fact that a girl is seeing someone else. As long as her b/f isn't a friend/relative/acquaintance and I think we might hit it off, I ask her out. If she says no, I say ok. If she says ok, then we go out.

Why would you care if it was someone you knew or cared about? Because you respect them or care about how it would effect them? Why would it be different for someone that you didn't know? Because you just don't respect them?

Yeah, that's probably it. If I don't know him how can I respect him?

And if you want to get to know her, disrespecting her decision to be with someone else is a great first step, isn't it.

 

[SnapIT]

Originally posted by: Deeko

Originally posted by: Gaard
What's with all this 'respect the relationship' crap? If you're attracted to a girl, ask her out. She'll either say yes or no. What's the problem?

You may want to think twice about it if she's wearing a ring.

If you had a girlfriend, would you want other people asking her out? Of course not. Granter she will say no if the relatinoship means anything to her, but you still just don't fvck with other people's relationships.

Would i care if other people asked my GF out? Flattered maybe that she is so wanted....

What REALLY matters is her response... if she goes out with the guy, well, better to find out sooner than later what your girlfriend is like...

 

[SnapIT]

Originally posted by: ffmcobalt

Originally posted by: Gaard
You guys believe in fate/destiny too much. If you see something you want, go for it. You might just miss your soulmate because she happens to be in a relationship when you see her.

Just because you don't try RIGHT NOW AT THIS VERY SECOND!!!! (omg!) doesn't mean you won't have another chance. If someone's in another relationship, be a friend and that's it.

Yes, because becoming a friend with a woman is such a great way of starting a relationship.... (/sarc)

 

[SnapIT]

Originally posted by: ffmcobalt

Originally posted by: Gaard

Originally posted by: ffmcobalt

Originally posted by: Gaard
Maybe I'm fvcked in the head? I've never been put off by the fact that a girl is seeing someone else. As long as her b/f isn't a friend/relative/acquaintance and I think we might hit it off, I ask her out. If she says no, I say ok. If she says ok, then we go out.

Why would you care if it was someone you knew or cared about? Because you respect them or care about how it would effect them? Why would it be different for someone that you didn't know? Because you just don't respect them?

Yeah, that's probably it. If I don't know him how can I respect him?

And if you want to get to know her, disrespecting her decision to be with someone else is a great first step, isn't it.

But... wouldn't her decision be to go out with someone else than her boyfriend? Or do you think us evil men lure them innocent women into it?

 

[NikPreviousAcct]

Originally posted by: SnapIT

Originally posted by: ffmcobalt

Originally posted by: Gaard

Originally posted by: ffmcobalt

Originally posted by: Gaard
Maybe I'm fvcked in the head? I've never been put off by the fact that a girl is seeing someone else. As long as her b/f isn't a friend/relative/acquaintance and I think we might hit it off, I ask her out. If she says no, I say ok. If she says ok, then we go out.

Why would you care if it was someone you knew or cared about? Because you respect them or care about how it would effect them? Why would it be different for someone that you didn't know? Because you just don't respect them?

Yeah, that's probably it. If I don't know him how can I respect him?

And if you want to get to know her, disrespecting her decision to be with someone else is a great first step, isn't it.

But... wouldn't her decision be to go out with someone else than her boyfriend? Or do you think us evil men lure them innocent women into it?

Asking someone else out while they're currently dating someone else is disrespectful to them and to their significant other. Simple as that. I don't see how hard that is to understand.

 

[SnapIT]

Originally posted by: ffmcobalt

Originally posted by: SnapIT

Originally posted by: ffmcobalt

Originally posted by: Gaard

Originally posted by: ffmcobalt

Originally posted by: Gaard
Maybe I'm fvcked in the head? I've never been put off by the fact that a girl is seeing someone else. As long as her b/f isn't a friend/relative/acquaintance and I think we might hit it off, I ask her out. If she says no, I say ok. If she says ok, then we go out.

Why would you care if it was someone you knew or cared about? Because you respect them or care about how it would effect them? Why would it be different for someone that you didn't know? Because you just don't respect them?

Yeah, that's probably it. If I don't know him how can I respect him?

And if you want to get to know her, disrespecting her decision to be with someone else is a great first step, isn't it.

But... wouldn't her decision be to go out with someone else than her boyfriend? Or do you think us evil men lure them innocent women into it?

Asking someone else out while they're currently dating someone else is disrespectful to them and to their significant other. Simple as that. I don't see how hard that is to understand.

I get your point and agree somewhat, but my opinion when someone has tried to make a pass at my gf has always been that if it doesn't bother her, it doesn't bother me...

In other words, go for it, she might slap you silly, or she will just enjoy the attention, i don't care either way...

 

[NikPreviousAcct]

Originally posted by: SnapIT

Originally posted by: ffmcobalt

Originally posted by: SnapIT

Originally posted by: ffmcobalt

Originally posted by: Gaard

Originally posted by: ffmcobalt

Originally posted by: Gaard
Maybe I'm fvcked in the head? I've never been put off by the fact that a girl is seeing someone else. As long as her b/f isn't a friend/relative/acquaintance and I think we might hit it off, I ask her out. If she says no, I say ok. If she says ok, then we go out.

Why would you care if it was someone you knew or cared about? Because you respect them or care about how it would effect them? Why would it be different for someone that you didn't know? Because you just don't respect them?

Yeah, that's probably it. If I don't know him how can I respect him?

And if you want to get to know her, disrespecting her decision to be with someone else is a great first step, isn't it.

But... wouldn't her decision be to go out with someone else than her boyfriend? Or do you think us evil men lure them innocent women into it?

Asking someone else out while they're currently dating someone else is disrespectful to them and to their significant other. Simple as that. I don't see how hard that is to understand.

I get your point and agree somewhat, but my opinion when someone has tried to make a pass at my gf has always been that if it doesn't bother her, it doesn't bother me...

In other words, go for it, she might slap you silly, or she will just enjoy the attention, i don't care either way...

If you don't care about being that disrespectful, that's your choice. I have been, and am currently dealing with, people who harass my girlfriend. They won't leave her alone. They're interested in her and won't take no for an answer. If you don't care enough in the first place not to ask, what's stopping you from letting it progress? Just don't let it get to the point it has and is now at with two people currently. You might find yourself on the receiving end of a fscking pissed off boyfriend with a bad temper.

 

[SnapIT]

Originally posted by: ffmcobalt

Originally posted by: SnapIT

Originally posted by: ffmcobalt

Originally posted by: SnapIT

Originally posted by: ffmcobalt

Originally posted by: Gaard

Originally posted by: ffmcobalt

Originally posted by: Gaard
Maybe I'm fvcked in the head? I've never been put off by the fact that a girl is seeing someone else. As long as her b/f isn't a friend/relative/acquaintance and I think we might hit it off, I ask her out. If she says no, I say ok. If she says ok, then we go out.

Why would you care if it was someone you knew or cared about? Because you respect them or care about how it would effect them? Why would it be different for someone that you didn't know? Because you just don't respect them?

Yeah, that's probably it. If I don't know him how can I respect him?

And if you want to get to know her, disrespecting her decision to be with someone else is a great first step, isn't it.

But... wouldn't her decision be to go out with someone else than her boyfriend? Or do you think us evil men lure them innocent women into it?

Asking someone else out while they're currently dating someone else is disrespectful to them and to their significant other. Simple as that. I don't see how hard that is to understand.

I get your point and agree somewhat, but my opinion when someone has tried to make a pass at my gf has always been that if it doesn't bother her, it doesn't bother me...

In other words, go for it, she might slap you silly, or she will just enjoy the attention, i don't care either way...

If you don't care about being that disrespectful, that's your choice. I have been, and am currently dealing with, people who harass my girlfriend. They won't leave her alone. They're interested in her and won't take no for an answer. If you don't care enough in the first place not to ask, what's stopping you from letting it progress? Just don't let it get to the point it has and is now at with two people currently. You might find yourself on the receiving end of a fscking pissed off boyfriend with a bad temper.

Did you read what i wrote at all? "if it's ok with her, it's ok with me"

I think that there is a difference between asking someone out on a date and harassing them... Of course, if someone harassed my girlfriend after she told them she was not interested, i would put my foot down, but in my experience most guys don't go any further than that first question...

If a boyfriend can't take a guy asking his gf out on a date, he's just insecure if you ask me...

 

[WyteWatt]

Sick.

 

[Gaard]

Originally posted by: ffmcobalt

Originally posted by: Gaard

Originally posted by: ffmcobalt

Originally posted by: Gaard
Maybe I'm fvcked in the head? I've never been put off by the fact that a girl is seeing someone else. As long as her b/f isn't a friend/relative/acquaintance and I think we might hit it off, I ask her out. If she says no, I say ok. If she says ok, then we go out.

Why would you care if it was someone you knew or cared about? Because you respect them or care about how it would effect them? Why would it be different for someone that you didn't know? Because you just don't respect them?

Yeah, that's probably it. If I don't know him how can I respect him?

And if you want to get to know her, disrespecting her decision to be with someone else is a great first step, isn't it.

I don't see it as disrespecting her at all. If I continue to ask her after she has already told me no would be disrespecting her.
Remember...If she says no, I say ok. If she says ok, then we go out.

 

[johnjohn320]

Originally posted by: Lonyo
Well, it's Christmas time, how would you persuade a girl to dump her boyfried at this time?

You seem awfully interested in romantic affairs that are not yours. This is not good, I say.

 

[NikPreviousAcct]

And if that's the way you perceive respect, then that's the way you perceive it.

 

[ElFenix]

wtf? just cuz you go out on a date with a girl doesn't mean shes your girlfriend. it might be a while before shes your girlfriend. and during that time you have the ability to go out with other girls and she has the ability to go out with other guys. you know why? shes not your girlfriend!

 

[WyteWatt]

I can't believe how people fight over girls. Its so funny and seems pretty useless. You all can fight over all the girls in the world as far as i care. Heck you can talk them all.

 

[johnjohn320]

Originally posted by: ffmcobalt

Originally posted by: MichaelD

Originally posted by: Deeko

Bah. If I don't know you, if I have no idea who you are, then it's not my problem that your GF wants to give me the panties. Now, if you're my buddy or my coworker or even if I've seen you once or twice and know who you are, then that's different. That would be messed up.

That's bullsh!t. I hope you get married some day and your wife cheats on you. its all good right??? After all, the other guy doesn't know you!!

Listen little man, you've never even had sex, so STFU.

ffm has a girlfriend does he not? I don't know what he's done with her, but sex is irrelevant, he knows what its like to be in a relationship and thus has a valid opinion here.

Whatever Deeko. You're the one who can't keep a GF no matter what, so I don't think you're particularly qualified to give advice either.

Atleast he's not a cheating bastard asshole.

Haha. I was gonna offer my opinion, but I see it's already been said.

 

[SnapIT]

Originally posted by: ffmcobalt
And if that's the way you perceive respect, then that's the way you perceive it.

Or someone just has a different opinion of what is disrespectful and what isn't...

 

[johnjohn320]

Originally posted by: Gaard
What's with all this 'respect the relationship' crap? If you're attracted to a girl, ask her out. She'll either say yes or no. What's the problem?

You may want to think twice about it if she's wearing a ring.

He's not just talking about asking her out, he's talking about getting her to break up with her current boyfriend.

 

[ElFenix]

Originally posted by: imtim83
I can't believe how people fight over girls. Its so funny and seems pretty useless. You all can fight over all the girls in the world as far as i care. Heck you can talk them all.

more for me

 

[WyteWatt]

ElFenix yeah but you are not the only person out there for them. I can't believe how people fight over these things.