This sounds selfish, but if I were in your situation, I would bail too. No doubt about it. One shouldn't go through life and be miserable with their significant other.
Originally posted by: SagaLore
I don't pay any child support because I don't make babies with women that aren't 100% committed to our marriage and vice versa.
WTF are u smok'in you think I went into two marriages thinking it wouldn't last?!?!
The only <FONT face=Arial size=2>guarantee you have in this world is death and taxes...
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GTaudiophile
Lifer
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GTaudiophile
Lifer
- Oct 24, 2000
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The mediator at your expense to prevent molestation? WTF?
As for the $130 to allowance/savings = very wise of you
$0 - I am still married and in love with the same beautiful woman I met 23 years ago. I love my two children still at home and my daughter, son-in-law and grandson. We argue very little and try to enjoy life together as much as possible. I guess we were meant to be together.
I have no kids and pay ZERO zilch nada.. 000000. BUUUUUUUUUUUT
You say don't give a flip about money. Put your kids well being first. Well thats good and all but lets face it.. We all
need money to survive, eat, pay bills and live comfortably. Unless your filthy rich then you have no choice but to worry about money.
ALSO.. You might be different but there are alotta women out there who just blow the money on
themselves and live lavish off their ex-husbands contributions.
My 2 cents added. I hope that I am NEVER in this situation!
This is a serious question to all the non-custodian parents out there: what is the court's attitude towards you? How willing is the county to negotiate a way for you to pay?
If anyone can remember, try and guess my job = )
If anyone can remember, try and guess my job = )
Originally posted by: GTaudiophile
The mediator at your expense to prevent molestation? WTF?
As for the $130 to allowance/savings = very wise of you
Well, she was showing signs of serious emotional distress right before having to go visit her dad and step mom (she would run fevers, throw up, etc) and she also started gaining a lot of weight so I took her to a counselor/social worker to find out what was going on. Keep in mind we are talking about a child who is a good student, responsible, and a joy to be around in general. It was pretty clear that something was wrong. At that point, she told us about a lot of the emotional/mental abuse she went through at her dad's and that she didn't want to go down there anymore.
Since we already had the counselor, I offered to cover family sessions because it would be part of my daughter's treatment. We already met the deductable, so it made sense to say, "Hey, we need to work these problems out together and there is someone who can sit there and help us do it sanely" but that was too threatening to them or something. They pretty much said, "No thanks, goodbye" after that. They wouldn't even discuss it. It was like, "Let's pretend nothing ever happened, period" and I was like, "Let's get help" and that was the end of that. *shrug*
Bear in mind that these are people who said I deserved the Ex-Wife of the Century Award and had their other daughter call me Momma Isla. I did everything I could to create a positive situation for all of us, but in the end, when I put my daughter's emotional and mental well being over being 'nice' and pretending like nothing was wrong, they freaked. I guess they were so used to me bending over backwards to make things work that when I took a stand on something important, they realized they mistook my kindness for weakness. When it comes to the well being of my kids, I don't mess around.
The good thing is that my daughter is doing just fine.
I am different.
And I have been very poor at times, but I was always able to make ends meet somehow.Money has a spiritual aspect to it that many people don't realize. Money doesn't rule over me, nor do material things. You are as rich as you feel.
I have custody of my 2 brothers, and 1 sister, and I get NOTHING from my parents.
I wish I could shotgun both of them in the face.
I wish I could shotgun both of them in the face.
The courts, and the child support office treat you like sh!t. They threatened me with jail because I was behind once. I told them to go ahead, it will be a nice vacation, but, if you do it, I will not have a job after.
My employer at the time did not pay it like they were supposed to, but they were putting it on my check as payed. They wrote child support a bad check, and I got fined for it. Their reply, "it is you responsibility sir, to pay it". BS, in Oregon they automatically start a garnishment. 8 more years. My daughter is worth it though!!!!!!!
My employer at the time did not pay it like they were supposed to, but they were putting it on my check as payed. They wrote child support a bad check, and I got fined for it. Their reply, "it is you responsibility sir, to pay it". BS, in Oregon they automatically start a garnishment. 8 more years. My daughter is worth it though!!!!!!!
Anubis
No Lifer
With some of the comments I have seen, it is no wonder many guys on here can't even get a date..sheesh. Let's all hope they never marry and certainly never father children!
As for all the comments about dumping a wife who gains weight, let's see how you look after bearing children! Not everyone is the same and if you can't look past the physical you are going to have a long, sad, and lonely life. What if your wife lost an arm or a leg? What if you did? What if she had to have a mastectomy? There are so many things that can change in a marriage that eventually your friendship is what is going to keep you together.
I think that so many marriages fail because we never delve into "who" they are instead of "what they look like". Of course, this eventually does catch up with us after the initial thrill has died down and everyday life takes over.
NOTE: This is not directed at the guy whose wife did gain the weight.....sounds like he has bigger issues in his marriage.
As for all the comments about dumping a wife who gains weight, let's see how you look after bearing children! Not everyone is the same and if you can't look past the physical you are going to have a long, sad, and lonely life. What if your wife lost an arm or a leg? What if you did? What if she had to have a mastectomy? There are so many things that can change in a marriage that eventually your friendship is what is going to keep you together.
I think that so many marriages fail because we never delve into "who" they are instead of "what they look like". Of course, this eventually does catch up with us after the initial thrill has died down and everyday life takes over.
NOTE: This is not directed at the guy whose wife did gain the weight.....sounds like he has bigger issues in his marriage.
As I said sometimes things happen in a marriage, but dang...you think this would be something she would have known before getting married!
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