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How do you tell future in laws to GTFO...

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Like everything in life, the answer lies somewhere in between. Everyone is telling the OP to man up and tell them to GTFO, but no one is telling the OP to give a little. If this thread was on a Latino forum (do they exist), the replies would be polar opposite. Even if you tell them to GTFO and they can not come at all unless invited, or that they must ask permission within some predetermined acceptable time frame, it will always be an issue that you'll have to deal with. I'm thinking that you'll never be happy. I'm betting that if they ask to come for a weekend visit 3 months from now, you'll still be unhappy for some reason or another.
 
alkemyst said:
I was being honest with you, not being a dick.

You will be lucky to lasts 5 years in a marriage if you literally have this hate for her family.

YMMV, but this is one of the major deal-breakers for most. Add money problems into the mix and you are doomed.

Personally I haven't always liked my in-laws. I say kill them with kindness though.
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So you've been cheating behind your wife? How the hell does Gibson know about you? It's bit scary how you guys take this forum seriously, geez.
 
All I can say is, if you're having problems like this now, it only gets worse. Divorce may be in your future.
 
Zeze said:
So you've been cheating behind your wife? How the hell does Gibson know about you? It's bit scary how you guys take this forum seriously, geez.
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I have never cheated on my wife nor anyone. I have been honest about my life here, which is how people know things.
 
alkemyst said:
I was being honest with you, not being a dick.

You will be lucky to lasts 5 years in a marriage if you literally have this hate for her family.

YMMV, but this is one of the major deal-breakers for most. Add money problems into the mix and you are doomed.

Personally I haven't always liked my in-laws. I say kill them with kindness though.
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You're not one to give marriage advice? Didn't you get divorced once, and even cheated on your current wife?
 
PimpJuice said:
You're not one to give marriage advice? Didn't you get divorced once, and even cheated on your current wife?
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What does divorce have to do with anything? My ex-wife had broke her neck and got hooked on pain-killers. She wanted to spend $50-100 per day on them, I could not afford that. She wanted to move on to find those that would support her habit so we agreed to end things. That said, 15+ years later and her claim to fame is some college and working as a bar maid.

I have never cheated on anyone. You guys have an extremely child-like perception of adult-relationships.

Just the fact of this thread shows childishness and an extremely unrealistic view of what a relationship entails.
 
alkemyst said:
I have never cheated on anyone. You guys have an extremely child-like perception of adult-relationships.
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Oh wait, that's right - you had "permission". Because that's the sign of a healthy and stable relationship and all. 🙄
 
Man, thankful I really like my in laws.

Two important things going on here. 1) the fact she won't deal with it and wants you to and 2) you need to lay the law down regardless of how she feels.

#1 is important because it speaks volumes of your relationship for the long term, you have to decide how you want to handle this
#2 because it's your house, your rules, you can't let anyone walk over you in your own house.
 
alkemyst said:
What does divorce have to do with anything? My ex-wife had broke her neck and got hooked on pain-killers. She wanted to spend $50-100 per day on them, I could not afford that. She wanted to move on to find those that would support her habit so we agreed to end things. That said, 15+ years later and her claim to fame is some college and working as a bar maid.

I have never cheated on anyone. You guys have an extremely child-like perception of adult-relationships.

Just the fact of this thread shows childishness and an extremely unrealistic view of what a relationship entails.
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Wow. You pulled a John Edwards on your wife?
 
Gibson486 said:
That is what I said. She wants me to be there when she tells them. F no. I have been exposed to more than enough drama in the past week.
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Do it. The confrontation will be her against her dad and brother, and she wants some support to event the numbers out. In fact, let her blame the whole thing on you. I tell my fiancee that she's allowed to use me as an excuse with her family any time, as long as she lets me know about it so I don't get sandbagged. She's the one you have to keep happy, not them.
 
well...did not turn out good.

Long story short....we told them 3 days ago...the dad and brother were pissed...

Today...he got admitted into the hospital for a heart attack....
 
Gibson486 said:
well...did not turn out good.

Long story short....we told them 3 days ago...the dad and brother were pissed...

Today...he got admitted into the hospital for a heart attack....
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A confirmed heart attack or a "suspected" heart attack? They might be trying to guilt you guys.
 
Now you've done it! I can see it all now. The gf runs back to Mamas/Sisters/Tia's place and Gibson486 is left with the hospital bill. I recommend getting drunk. 😀
 
IndyColtsFan said:
A confirmed heart attack or a "suspected" heart attack? They might be trying to guilt you guys.
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Not sure, but not really thinking about that at the moment. For now, I am putting everything behind...

It's not like I "kicked them out" either. I said that we wanted the days before the wedding to be alone so we can concentrate on the final planning, so i suggested they get a hotel on May 2.
 
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While they're there to witness it, smack their offspring in the mouth so hard for no apparent reason at all that even they feel it.

That'll get the message across... 😛
 
Gibson486 said:
Not sure, but not really thinking about that at the moment. For now, I am putting everything behind...

It's not like I "kicked them out" either. I said that we wanted the days before the wedding to be alone so we can concentrate on the final planning, so i suggested they get a hotel on May 2.
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So what happened (and what did they say) after you told them to GTFO, but before the "heart attack"?
 
Gibson486 said:
well...did not turn out good.

Long story short....we told them 3 days ago...the dad and brother were pissed...

Today...he got admitted into the hospital for a heart attack....
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Sounds like something Redd Foxx would do to get his way. Yeah, I knew it wouldn't go well. Hope it turns out ok for ya. :\
 
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