alkemyst
No Lifer
- Feb 13, 2001
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I have had good luck with online dating...if you know the kind of person you like make sure their online personality matches....I guess it's a hard art but I have only been let down 3 times out of about 10+ dates from online sources. Out of those 3, near the beginning risked no pic (bad move, not ugly but misrepresented themselves), another had plenty of 'recent' pics, but in reality recent was 5-10 years (and about 30-40lbs ago), and another was pretty but not like her online personality at all...the conversation kept dying because she had nothing to add or would give 1 and 2 word answers and when it got quiet she would say why don't you say something
A lot of the women I met were real lookers and cool, just tried of going to a club or bar and getting asked right off the bat "want to go somewhere", "want to see a movie sometime?", "what's your number?", etc without even saying Hi, I am .... first or asking their name....even worst were the guys that came up and 'told' them what they were going to do that weekend...like they had no choice. Plus tons of unwanted touching/groping at clubs...around here in West Palm Beach, I will agree, guys and girls are really aggressive and it's basically niteclub=hooking up with whoever you dance with if they dance back.
I find the easiest thing is to strike up a conversation...it's low pressure and you can tell their interest level easy. You have to be entertaining, but not necessarily a comedian. If they like talking and the conversation is fun, then suggest you continue it another day over dinner or something fun. If you get the number, try not to make a 'phone' date as you will use up most of those first date questions better done in person. I try to avoid the phone in the beginning as much as possible, as it's way to easy for either party to get distracted and you won't have enough of a common ground to share yet.
A lot of the women I met were real lookers and cool, just tried of going to a club or bar and getting asked right off the bat "want to go somewhere", "want to see a movie sometime?", "what's your number?", etc without even saying Hi, I am .... first or asking their name....even worst were the guys that came up and 'told' them what they were going to do that weekend...like they had no choice. Plus tons of unwanted touching/groping at clubs...around here in West Palm Beach, I will agree, guys and girls are really aggressive and it's basically niteclub=hooking up with whoever you dance with if they dance back.
I find the easiest thing is to strike up a conversation...it's low pressure and you can tell their interest level easy. You have to be entertaining, but not necessarily a comedian. If they like talking and the conversation is fun, then suggest you continue it another day over dinner or something fun. If you get the number, try not to make a 'phone' date as you will use up most of those first date questions better done in person. I try to avoid the phone in the beginning as much as possible, as it's way to easy for either party to get distracted and you won't have enough of a common ground to share yet.
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