How do YOU ask someone out?

[SpiderX]

Most of my relationships started because we were friends first. It's always easy to make that transition. But I'm kinda interested in seeing how other people handle the casual dating thing.

Do you ask if they are single first? Thus avoiding the embarassing rejection if they aren't.

Or do you just ask if they'd like to go out sometime?

 

[jonmullen]

WIDWIO just kidding just get some balls and go up and introduce yourself and start a conversation than say you want to go out/get some drinks/see a movie/whatever some time, than await the response.

 

[Schadenfreude]

I cower while I even consider asking them out, then my quivering becomes noticable to the desired female, so she naturally gets weirded out and leaves.

Then I go home and masturbate vigorously thinking about her.

 

[The Stigenator]

dont do what this guy did today. Calls vanessa and asks her stuff like her sign, her age, what she is majoring in and stuff.. (all because he wanted to buy a book off her - but then why all this questions).. anyway it finallly comes out.. he wanted to go out with her.. she turned him down.

What did he do.. he asked her "Do you have a boyfriend?" and she said yes and soon after that he said "i got to go" and hung up..

Anyway 3 hrs later he called to confirm..

not the availablity of the book but rather if she still had a bf.

 

[Bateluer]

Me, being a loser, met a cool young lady online way back. Never really had to approach her, she chased me. That does not usually happen. I am the person who stayed home from HS dances to play StarCraft.

 

[AreaCode707]

I have this weird tendency to get to be friends with people and hang out with them in groups. Odd, I know. I hypothosize (from no real life experience, mind you, I wouldn't dream of actually leaving the computer) that it's really easy to ask someone to go get ice cream or coffee or something when you've been doing that for a few weeks or months.

 

[Muck]

I say, "Well.....it's not gonna suck itself."

 

[amnesiac]

WTH is with all these people asking date advice on this forum?

For Pete's sake, look who we have here to help you -- StormRider, LordJezo, Walleye, Polm, etc...

In any case, just sack up and ASK.
If she has any interest in you what-so-ever, and she's single, she'll give you a marginally positive response.

If she's dating someone or your breath smells like cat food, you'll either get a bad excuse, the "I'm taken" or a flat out "no."

And yes, presentation does matter. If you look like crap, smell like crap, act like a fumbling feeb (not in the cute way -- cute fumbling feebs get chicks), then even if you WERE a potential candidate at one point you have ruined your chances.

 

[SpiderX]

Originally posted by: amnesiac
WTH is with all these people asking date advice on this forum?

For Pete's sake, look who we have here to help you -- StormRider, LordJezo, Walleye, Polm, etc...

In any case, just sack up and ASK.
If she has any interest in you what-so-ever, and she's single, she'll give you a marginally positive response.

If she's dating someone or your breath smells like cat food, you'll either get a bad excuse, the "I'm taken" or a flat out "no."

And yes, presentation does matter. If you look like crap, smell like crap, act like a fumbling feeb (not in the cute way -- cute fumbling feebs get chicks), then even if you WERE a potential candidate at one point you have ruined your chances.

I'm not asking for advice. I'm just curious as to what other people do.

 

[Geekbabe]

I don't know

 

[kami333]

BF, GF, married, whatever, doesn't matter, just ask her out. That's my philosophy. She says she's taken, just say I just want to go get a drink as friends. So what if she's taken, you can still go out for a drink, just don't do anything stupid. She might have a friend or sister she might introduce you to. You gotta start making connections somewhere.

 

[Occifer]

I wait around for them to ask me out, then when they don't, I go into the corner and cry. Each day I die a little more.

 

[Eli]

Well, my girlfriend and I are definately the minority.. We didn't go through the normal means.. We just kinda hooked up.

Nobody ever popped the question. After our first 48 hours together, it was just assumed by both of that we were going out.

 

[Bateluer]

What y'all opinion of online relationships?

 

[Walleye]

bhitb

 

[notfred]

I forget.... it's been 4 years.

 

[Ameesh]

"sup bitch, date?"

 

[Turkish]

me & my ex. kinda got hooked up by nobody....
we met at a dinner, then swapped cell #, later that night we were just text messaging, and i suddently just felt like it, and typed "you know, that dinner would have sucked if you weren't there"... so it just began there... and yes, the food really sucked.

 

[Syringer]

Originally posted by: Ameesh
"sup bitch, date?"

You stole my line you bastaRD@!

 

[ElFenix]

"nice shoes, wanna fvck?"

 

[stormbv]

Here's my method: When I really want to ask a girl out, I'll sit around for a few weeks and suffer with anxiety over whether I really want to do it. Eventually the possibility of future rejection that I may experience seems better than the current insomnia, depression, and an ulcer. I guess you could call that hopelessness.

Then I hoard scraps of paper and old shoeboxes.

 

[Zugzwang152]

wow that makes me feel pathetic. Although the two girls I've dated have turned out to be my two best friends of the opposite sex, after the breakup. Pretty weird. Anyway, I'm sitting on going for the third, I've already established she's not going out with who I thought she was with, although I had no idea if she's single or not. No doubt after this is all over there will be YAYAGT for me to post

 

[ElFenix]

Originally posted by: stormbv
Here's my method: When I really want to ask a girl out, I'll sit around for a few weeks and suffer with anxiety over whether I really want to do it. Eventually the possibility of future rejection that I may experience seems better than the current insomnia, depression, and an ulcer. I guess you could call that hopelessness.

Then I hoard scraps of paper and old shoeboxes.

i dunno man, the ulcer keeps me thin

 

[ThaGrandCow]

Ok... for the first time in a while I'm not bothering to read the responses to this thread. GROW SOME BALLS AND FVCKING ASK HER OUT MAN!!! Jeebus!!! It's really not that hard! "Would you like to get some lunch some time/get some drinks sometime/hang out sometime" As long as you aren't hanging your tongue out of your mouth, stalking her, and proposing marriage and children at the same time she'll probably say yes. Asking out != asking for marriage, it's asking to hang out, and maybe hang out just the two of you. It's not asking for sex, kids, a steady relationship, marriage, a house together, or even the same last names... it's just asking to chill together and see if you are compatible to be more than just "yeah, I know that guy, he hangs out sometimes at this place I go to" friends.

If the person is already taken, they'll say that they have a boy/girlfriend, but you can still chill together. No, you won't get laid from this person. What you might get is another friend.

 

[stormbv]

Originally posted by: ElFenix

Originally posted by: stormbv
Here's my method: When I really want to ask a girl out, I'll sit around for a few weeks and suffer with anxiety over whether I really want to do it. Eventually the possibility of future rejection that I may experience seems better than the current insomnia, depression, and an ulcer. I guess you could call that hopelessness.

Then I hoard scraps of paper and old shoeboxes.

i dunno man, the ulcer keeps me thin

I already have a tapeworm for that, and it doesn't hurt like an ulcer does.