How do I make sure my sister doesn't grow up into a slut?

[SNJ]

Honestly? Lead by example.

A young person subconsciously looks at those closest to them for cues on what "normal" is.

If they are surrounded by people who are cheerful and in healthy relationships (romantic or not), they will look for the same traits in others to bring into their life.

Live your life as good as you can, don't associate with trashy people (male or female), show her that you value the women you date for more than just their looks: How smart they are, how talented they are, kindness, etc... Drop little things every now and then like, "Man, I really like how smart *blank* is at XYZ." Or, "It's awesome that *blank* took time to travel to ABC and learned about their culture." and "*Blank* has got her life goals in check." Stuff other than how they look.

Use every opportunity you have to build up her self confidence. When she gets an A in a class, say something like "Man, my little sis is going to kick ass in college!". If she brings home an art project say something good about it! Wants to try a sport? Show up and cheer. Show her that she is a person, and should be appreciated for more than looking nice.

Do all that, and without thinking she will filter out all the sleazy people trying to get into her life.

Thanks, god bless you.

 

[SNJ]

Use the shitty lock adage.

You know a penis or key that can open a lot of locks is a good key or penis.

A lock or vagina that can be opened by a lot of keys is a shitty lock.

The problem with that is that most kids these days are almost brainwashed by the liberal indoctrination that happens in schools and colleges, and she might respond with something on the lines of "that's misogynist, men and women are the same"

You can't just teach kids old-school wisdom in its raw form these days.

 

[Imp]

...Bring her up in a culture where she'll wait for marriage?

Oh wait, she can just go to Vegas and be divorced by 17.

 

[Craig234]

Incest. Any woman you sleep with will not want sex again.

(Why am I harsh? Because your judgmentalism is a problem and you are about one step from the 'honor killers' who murder their sister for having sex from the sound of your post).

 

[Craig234]

"But I'd also train her "

Another example of my point. You should see a therapist and get advice probably.

 

[mikeymikec]

Have sex with all of her prospective partners. That'll show her that most males aren't to be trusted.

If anyone calls you a slut, then just say you're looking out for your sister.

 

[HamburgerBoy]

Op, are you Armenian?

 

[tortillasoup]

beat her with the ugly stick a few times and tell her not to get pregnant... that ought to be enough.

 

[waggy]

OP you are fucked in the head. You might want to get therapy.

Not helpful/not contributory/just an obscene attack.

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[TeeJay1952]

Are you serious? She's my sister, not some random person in the street. If I want her to live a good respectable life and not end up on Teen Mom, what's wrong with that?

Every random person on the street is someones brother or sister. You CANNOT control other people. Why are you the morality police? Does only your family have to measure up to your expectations or are the rest of us free to go live our lives?

 

[Ruptga]

The problem with that is that most kids these days are almost brainwashed by the liberal indoctrination that happens in schools and colleges, and she might respond with something on the lines of "that's misogynist, men and women are the same"

You can't just teach kids old-school wisdom in its raw form these days.

Oh shit guys, he's onto us. Time to convene the death panel.

 

[Ruptga]

Since you're a good ol boy I'll give you a personal example, I know you guys love those. One of my sisters started doing her boyfriends and having crazy parties with lots of alcohol when she was about 14 and I was off at college. Some in the family still call her "big party" after the one time our parents were out of town and she called over some friends who called over about fifty kids and enough alcohol to kill a bunch of them if they drank it all. Obviously the cops got called in on that one. She's also strongly hormonal, to the point that while on her period she once completely flipped shit when someone ate all the M&Ms that she had bought. After a couple years of that sort of thing Dad was literally ready to send her off to some boarding school, but he didn't need to because she learned how to manage her hormones and she grew out of the rest of it. Today she's in an accelerated graduate program and is happily married to some doofus she started dating in high school. He's a nice guy, but he is a dork, not that that really has anything to do with anything.

Bottom line: people grow up, and you can't control them. All the VBSes and bible camps we were all sent to from the time we could walk, all the parental supportiveness and parental asskicking, nothing my parents did really helped when she was in her wild phase, nothing except for finally getting the birth control she needed to moderate her hormones. Oh sure they tried, but ultimately it was up to her. I realize that runs contrary to all the conservative indoctrination you've obviously embraced, but that's life. You can't help someone unless they want it.

 

[slackerinabox]

This thread is super weird and old world. She's your sister, you are NOT her guardian or protector, and you do not own her. BACK OFF..Are you muslim or some other old world culture?

 

[slackerinabox]

Of course. But I'd also train her so as to keep the "messing up" part to a minimum.

"Train her?" Someone recommended therapy, I agree.

 

[Matthiasa]

OP just remember that every time you had sex, if you had sex and not just with yourself, there had to have been at minimum one other person involved.
If you were do anything it would be just to tell here to be careful, not to catch stuff or at least not the incurable stuff, not to get pregnant, etc. (but that really is a talk best left to your parents...)

Also if you have been with as many people you are worrying your sister will you are quite the hypocrite...

A sex-negative attitude will cause more problems then it will solve, and will likely cause what you are naively trying to prevent.

 

[Naer]

this thread made me cringe hard

 

[dave_the_nerd]

Explain to her that she's stupid if she doesn't charge, and that being a whore is better than being a slut.

 

[Humpy]

Really, it's in everyone here's best interest that your sister does grow up to be a slut.

Sluts are fun.

 

[MajinCry]

Your first mistake was asking for advice on a tech forum. What made you think that was anywhere close to a good idea? Go to a psychology forum or something.

Your second was acting rather controlling. The most you should do, is be there to support her, not "train" her, as you put it.