How do I make sure my sister doesn't grow up into a slut?

[SNJ]

I have a little sister who turned 12 last month. Now that she's no longer the kid she used to, and is approaching puberty, obviously there are going to be physical ans well as mental changes.

You all must have seen the girls at your school/college who are labelled as "sluts". They'll sleep with loads of guys, have no self respect, are full of themselves and stuck up. I don't want my sister to turn that way. (BTW, she quite a cute girl, i can tell that by the time she turns 18 or 19 she'll be a very beautiful woman(hot, if you will).

So my question is, as her elder brother and guardian(we do have parents, but they both work and she's kinda close to me), what should i do that she grows up to be a good girl with morals and gets good grades and not one one of those sluts/bitches..

 

[DrunkenSano]

Lock her in her room and get her lots of cats.

 

[CraKaJaX]

lol

 

[PliotronX]

Girls will rebel the harder you push them in their teenaged years. I don't look forward to that era when my 2 y/o gets there. Just stay aware and look for signs and don't pass judgement indiscreetly about her boyfriends. Be available for her whenever you can for advice. If your guys' father is as busy as I am afraid I am and will be when my daughter hits that age, you may have to help fulfill the role of showing her how a lady should be treated.

Or just do this or this.

 

[nageov3t]

sex is fun, what's wrong with having a lot of it?

 

[PliotronX]

sex is fun, what's wrong with having a lot of it?

STDs, pregnancy, association with abusers of women and drugs perhaps? As the adage goes, with a son you only have to worry about one penis, with a daughter you have to worry about all penises.

 

[Markbnj]

You should encourage her to use lots of social media, so she has the support of her peers.

 

[FerrelGeek]

Tell her prospective bfs:

I'm not afraid to go to prison (sadly you're to young to make the phrase 'back to prison' work)
Whatever you do to my sis, I'll do to you - think about it.
I have a good friend who has a 100 acre property. Mess with my sis and they'll never find your body.

The effect of the above can be enhanced if you're cleaning a gun or sharpening a nasty looking knife.

On a (somewhat) more serious note, treat your sis with lots of love and respect, keep the communication going, show her how a guy should treat her, guide her towards things that will enhance who she is on the inside, let her know she's more valuable that what she's got going on down her pants, give her insight into how guys think.

 

[WiseUp216]

How many men has your mom slept with?

We'll need to know if she's genetically predisposed to this type of behavior.

 

[mmntech]

Show her pictures of Mayne's sister? Scared straight.

 

[TeeJay1952]

Quit thinking about other people's private lives and judging them from afar.
Now add your sister to that.

 

[squirrel dog]

change is coming , coming fast . All you can do is hold on . Join the Navy . You'll be gone for six years , then the worst will be over .

 

[JulesMaximus]

She isn't your responsibility.

 

[Ken g6]

It seems like you might be predisposed toward this. That seems like something to avoid. Building up her self-esteem based on her actual strengths (not participation trophies) seems like a better idea to me. But I don't have a sister.

 

[ElFenix]

Lock her in her room and get her lots of cats.

That's a sure-fire way to make her post pictures of herself to the internet

 

[nakedfrog]

STDs, pregnancy, association with abusers of women and drugs perhaps? As the adage goes, with a son you only have to worry about one penis, with a daughter you have to worry about all penises.

Education is key.

 

[NesuD]

Your her big brother. Your only responsibility is to protect her. Teaching morals and values is your parents job. Some guy mistreats her open a can of whupass on em. Someone starts spreading ugly rumors do the same. Your only job is to defend her from people that may want to hurt her nothing more. Try to be the parent and she will hate you. Let her hate your parents we live for that kind of stuff.

 

[SNJ]

Tell her prospective bfs:

I'm not afraid to go to prison (sadly you're to young to make the phrase 'back to prison' work)
Whatever you do to my sis, I'll do to you - think about it.
I have a good friend who has a 100 acre property. Mess with my sis and they'll never find your body.

The effect of the above can be enhanced if you're cleaning a gun or sharpening a nasty looking knife.

On a (somewhat) more serious note, treat your sis with lots of love and respect, keep the communication going, show her how a guy should treat her, guide her towards things that will enhance who she is on the inside, let her know she's more valuable that what she's got going on down her pants, give her insight into how guys think.

Thanks a lot.

 

[Newell Steamer]

There isn't anything wrong with sex.

There is something wrong with having sex for the wrong reason (attention), having unprotected sex and being naive.

So, if your sister a drama queen already? Is she an aloof idiot? If not, then treat her with respect and be honest.

Also, let your parents talk to her about safe sex. I understand they work, but they are her parents after all. When she gets her period, are YOU the one who is going to show her how to use a tampon / maxi pad? I would hope not...

 

[SNJ]

Girls will rebel the harder you push them in their teenaged years. I don't look forward to that era when my 2 y/o gets there. Just stay aware and look for signs and don't pass judgement indiscreetly about her boyfriends. Be available for her whenever you can for advice. If your guys' father is as busy as I am afraid I am and will be when my daughter hits that age, you may have to help fulfill the role of showing her how a lady should be treated.

Or just do this or this.

Thanks. I'm not a working person, but i'll leave for college after 2-3 years, and then she'll be on her own. That's the time i'm worried the most about.

 

[SNJ]

Quit thinking about other people's private lives and judging them from afar.
Now add your sister to that.

Are you serious? She's my sister, not some random person in the street. If I want her to live a good respectable life and not end up on Teen Mom, what's wrong with that?

 

[SNJ]

There isn't anything wrong with sex.

There is something wrong with having sex for the wrong reason (attention), having unprotected sex and being naive.

So, if your sister a drama queen already? Is she an aloof idiot? If not, then treat her with respect and be honest.

Also, let your parents talk to her about safe sex. I understand they work, but they are her parents after all. When she gets her period, are YOU the one who is going to show her how to use a tampon / maxi pad? I would hope not...

Not saying there's anything wrong with sex. However, promiscuity, doing drugs to come across as cool, being an instagram slut is not something i'd associate with a respectable person.

She's not a drama queen. Aloof... well, i wouldn't say aloof, but she's def a little shy.

Yeah my mom will probably be the one to give her "the talk", but the thing is that they're usually very busy. They aren't as much involved in her life as much as a parent should be IMO. They rarely ask her about her day, or how her school is going. They didn't do it when I was her age too.

 

[Newell Steamer]

Not saying there's anything wrong with sex. However, promiscuity, doing drugs to come across as cool, being an instagram slut is not something i'd associate with a respectable person.

She's not a drama queen. Aloof... well, i wouldn't say aloof, but she's def a little shy.

Yeah my mom will probably be the one to give her "the talk", but the thing is that they're usually very busy. They aren't as much involved in her life as much as a parent should be IMO. They rarely ask her about her day, or how her school is going. They didn't do it when I was her age too.

I wouldn't start with the words/sentence: "Don't be a slut/whore/tramp/druggie/bitch/etc."

I take it you are already speaking to her about respectable behavior. So, build off of that when she starts to develop.

Plus, you treat women in a respectable manner as well, right?

 

[SlitheryDee]

Explain to her how differently guys view sex than girls do. I think one of the most common misconceptions girls have about sex is that everyone who engages in it automatically catches feelings for the person they have it with. They think that because they feel that way about it, but they don't realize that guys can have sex with a girl and feel absolutely nothing for them afterwards. It's such an alien concept to them that they resist believing it even when you tell them.

These so-called "sluts" are girls who never figured that out, so they think that they are going to wrangle a guy by luring him in with sex. It takes a long string of disappointments before they get the idea, and by then it's already too late. They're also probably suffering from some other kind of trauma as well. Alcoholic or drug addicted family members, childhood physical or sexual abuse, and anything else that tends to foster an unhealthy attitude toward sex can make a "slut". To that end the best thing you can do is provide a stable and loving home life free from dysfunctions of that sort.

 

[NetWareHead]

Are you serious? She's my sister, not some random person in the street. If I want her to live a good respectable life and not end up on Teen Mom, what's wrong with that?

There is nothing wrong with your attitude and dont let anyone here shame you for being concerned about your flesh and blood family. :thumbsup:

I also did the same thign for my sister and let her know how guys think, gave her the older brother talk and tried to give her a head start as she went into high school.