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How do I get my teenage son to shave?

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badmouse

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My son is trying to grow a gandalf beard. Do I need to tell you that he's 14?! He has dark, thick facial hair, but I doubt he'll succeed at that gandalf look any time soon. His beard gets bushier and bushier - put a pair of overalls on him and he'd be a perfect Mennonite farmer - my father's family is Mennonite so he comes by it honestly, tho it's not a hot look here in the expensive suburbs.

Do I ignore it and wait until he gets a serious girlfriend who'll set him straight (his current girlfried likes his look)?

Are there statistics somewhere telling what kind of people can grow that kind of beard? Google was no help.

Do I take away his computer & video games unless he's cleanshaven? I personally think that facial hair plus acne is a ridiculous look, but what do I know?

Am I making a big deal out of nothing?

Please, teenage and former teenage beard growers, tell me how you feel.
 
If he can actually grow facial hair it's really his call. If he's like I was at age 14 and it just makes him look like he has dirt on his face you should make him shave those areas where hair is sparse.
 
Tell him to shave, and mean it.

I swear, it pains me to see parents be such pussies these days.
 
There's only one way to solve this. Can't grow a beard without a head. *giggles*

Really though, just tell him to shave it. If he doesn't listen, find out what is important to him, and take it away.
 
Personally, I'd be proud of the little man for his individuality. Having a beard at that age is rather aberrant from the norm, so it suggests to me a pretty high level of confidence. I would encourage that. At least he's not dressed up in goth, or otherwise trying to conform to another group.

Let him find his place, imo.
 
I wouldn't go out with a guy that looks like that. To me it shows lack of responsibility and personal grooming. Also, if he doesn't care about himself more than that, what good would he be in a relationship? Just my two cents, I'm a teenager.
 
Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem
There's only one way to solve this. Can't grow a beard without a head. *giggles*

Really though, just tell him to shave it. If he doesn't listen, find out what is important to him, and take it away.
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No, if he doesn't listen, kick his insolent ass and shave him yourself.

If you cannot control this, you have lost all control and might as well give up.
 
Originally posted by: Chelsey
I wouldn't go out with a guy that looks like that. To me it shows lack of responsibility and personal grooming. Also, if he doesn't care about himself more than that, what good would he be in a relationship? Just my two cents, I'm a teenager.
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This coming from the girl who doesn't want her boyfriend to get a job?????

Mnementh
 
Originally posted by: Amused
Tell him to shave, and mean it.

I swear, it pains me to see parents be such pussies these days.
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You're not a parent, are you 😀? I have a lot of things I tell him and I mean it. The whole reason I'm asking this question here is that I personally don't care whether he has a beard or not, and I want to see if I need to expend my leet parenting skills on this matter, or if I can let it slide - looking for other people's opinions.

I didn't have a beard when I was fourteen, because I'm his mom. So I don't know whether it affects his whole teenage social life, or if it's unimportant. And I don't know what the "guy" thoughts are, okay? So, I'm asking.
 
Originally posted by: Amused
Tell him to shave, and mean it.

I swear, it pains me to see parents be such pussies these days.
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agreed. hard to tell who is who any more.

let your balls out DAD, and state the rules

JC
 
Originally posted by: Chunkee
Originally posted by: Amused
Tell him to shave, and mean it.

I swear, it pains me to see parents be such pussies these days.
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agreed. hard to tell who is who any more.

let your balls out DAD, and state the rules
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Originally posted by: badmouse
I didn't have a beard when I was fourteen, because I'm his mom.
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hahaha
 
Originally posted by: Amused
Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem
There's only one way to solve this. Can't grow a beard without a head. *giggles*

Really though, just tell him to shave it. If he doesn't listen, find out what is important to him, and take it away.
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No, if he doesn't listen, kick his insolent ass and shave him yourself.

If you cannot control this, you have lost all control and might as well give up.
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WTF?? Because he isn't sporting the look you want??

You and I both know that's wrong.
 
My father actually went along the lines of what Chelsey said... he basically told me the shave because I looked like a dirty little inner city hoody rat trying to look like an older man. He said it's lazy and unkempt to just let yourself go, and stupid to try to impress or fit in just because one can grow facial hair earlier than others.

I kind of do the GQ look these days 😉 I shave... then I let it stubble out for 2 or 3 days and then shave again. It's a blessing that stubbles have come back in style at least a little bit.
 
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