Originally posted by: ergeorge
Originally posted by: spidey07
Originally posted by: Doggiedog
Missed this thread with so many of them floating around. None of them any less important though.
You have my condolences for your mom. Having all this happen at once must have been unbearable. But its good to see that things went somewhat smoothly and you've seen her for what she is and detached relatively quickly. It would have killed me to have gotten a check from her with her new husband's name on it but it seems like you took it in stride (at least on ATOT).
I find it amazing how quickly things turned around on you and her though. Did you suspect nothing? Is she just a very capricious person? I think you mentioned she did this before with her ex-husband? What happened there?
Anyhow, good luck with everything.
Been doing some reading. There are women who jump from relationship to relationship, marriage to marriage always riding on the "in love" high and never really knowing what a true loving relationship is or means. It called repetative behavior and they'll continue it forever until they "fix" themselves and find out who they really are. Her jumping right into another without any healing or soul-searching is about the worst thing you can do - I do still love her and really feel sorry for her.
Been there, doing that
good luck to you. These things seem to follow a suprisingly regular pattern. My wife took a trip very similar in circumstances and outcome to you ex's cruise. I bet if we compared notes in detail, you've heard, almost word-for-word, some of the same things I have. I've found that with several people now.
yeah, I've talked to a lot of other men (married, etc) and funny thing is a lot of them have a similar story.
girl goes on vacation, meets guy, leaves. Something about how they are on vacation and carefree happy that when they meet someone (especially if there is any underlying trouble) they figure "Gee, I'm awfully happy with this person...I don't feel this way with my husband...guess I'll jump. He makes me feel special." Well no sh!t shirlock - you've got the met somebody new and there's sun and fun and what not...why deal with reality?
As painful as a lesson as it is I fear I will
NEVER let a SO or wife go on a tropical vacation by herself. Sounds bad and a lack of trust but i think my attitude is justified. You just don't put yourself in that situation.
To me when I'm truly commited and love someone I won't put myself in situations where I'd be tempted. I've had plenty of opportunities to cheat but realized what they were and where they were headed and just said "I'm outta here. My wife at home loves me."
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