Hmm aparently I owe an extra $800

[Deeko]

So I owe my parents money on my car. I've given my dad $1300 so far this summer, in addition to the $2000 I gave him originally for the car(the car cost $3000)...he keeps trying to tell me that I owe him $1800, which is total garbage. I looked over his numbers, he has it on two seperate sheets. The one starts at $2000, and with insurance and other expenses ends up at $2800, then you subtract $1300, and another $500 because they weere supposed to give me an LCD monitor for graduation but didn't, so they took it off my debt. $1800, so $1000 left. The only reason I'm getting that $500 is cuz they bought my brother a $500 computer when he went, so since I already have one, its only fair that I get something. So my dad showed me the other sheet, the one he is going by, it somehow ends up at $2800 after my payments. I complain about it being wrong, cuz he seems to have charged me for insurance twice(it looked like the second sheet started where the first one stopped), he was like no I just rewrote it to be more clear, I was like oh ok so why did you start at $2838 instead of $2000? He didn't have an answer, but he still thinks I owe him that extra $800. Agh I hate that man

 

[Goosemaster]

hell of a parent.....

 

[Viper GTS]

and another $500 because they weere supposed to give me an LCD monitor for graduation but didn't, so they took it off my debt. $1800, so $1000 left. The only reason I'm getting that $500 is cuz they bought my brother a $500 computer when he went, so since I already have one, its only fair that I get something.

Jerboy, is that you?

Viper GTS

 

[PsychoAndy]

Do you have reciepts?

-PAB

 

[Deeko]

Hey, I wouldn't be saying that about the monitor if they hadn't bought one for my brother. Why should he get money that I don't? Oh wait, he does...they outright GAVE him $1000 towards his car, they GAVE him all of the money for college that his financial aid won't cover(I have to take out all the loans I can, they will pay for like half my books and thats it), they GAVE him the money to repair his car when it died(a good $900 repair too). I didn't get any of that money. I wouldn't be complaining if they hadn't given him so much, and me so little.

 

[JimmyEatWorld]

So you and your dad have a "business" type of relationship?
regardless, its really stupid, I think, for a parent to nickle and dime their child....thats the whole freakin' point of having a child, is to provide for them, not the other way around.....


maybe you should report him to the BBB

 

[PsychoAndy]

BTW, the only thing you're entitled to for birthdays/graduation is a swift kick in the ass.

I went almost 17 years without birthday or christmas presents. If I can live with it you can.

-PAB

 

[Viper GTS]

Originally posted by: Deeko
Hey, I wouldn't be saying that about the monitor if they hadn't bought one for my brother. Why should he get money I don't? Oh wait, he does...they outright GAVE him $1000 towards his car, they GAVE him all of the money for college that his financial aid won't cover(I have to take out all the loans I can, they will pay for like half my books and thats it), they GAVE him the money to repair his car when it died(a good $900 repair too). I didn't get any of that money. I wouldn't be complaining if they hadn't given him so much, and me so little.

It's got to be Jerboy.

And JimmyEatWorld...

If they have an agreement, it's only reasonable that they stick to it. I'm not saying his dad is right on his figures necessarily, but expecting a child to fulfill their financial obligations is not "nickle and dim(ing)" them.

This whole situation just stresses the importance of keeping good records.

Viper GTS

 

[Deeko]

BTW, the only thing you're entitled to for birthdays/graduation is a swift kick in the ass.

I went almost 17 years without birthday or christmas presents. If I can live with it you can.

Hey, like I said, I wouldn't be complaining about the money if they hadn't given my brother over $5000 over the last couple years. I only asked for a 10th of that. I wouldn't consider that being greedy.

 

[gotsmack]

SOLUTION: Scrap the existing papers and redo the numbers.


as for your brother getting more money, maybe he's going to a better school? I know when I have kids I'd give more to the one who is going to a tier 1 school as opposed to the the one who was going to a tier 3...

 

[XMan]

See that? <rubs fingers together> It's the world smallest violin player playing, "My Heart Bleeds For You."

 

[Deeko]

Actually my brother is going to Millersville, a state college. I am going to Drexel, a much better private school. My school costs about 3x his, but with my financial aid it only ends up $1000/year more than his. He is paying nothing. I am taking out all the federal and state loans I am allowed. They said they will pay for half of my books. Wow.

 

[pyonir]

Originally posted by: Deeko
Actually my brother is going to Millersville, a state college. I am going to Drexel, a much better private school. My school costs about 3x his, but with my financial aid it only ends up $1000/year more than his. He is paying nothing. I am taking out all the federal and state loans I am allowed. They said they will pay for half of my books. Wow.

maybe they can afford to pay for your brothers school, and drexel is a private school and more expensive. Your school costs 3 times his? well then it is pretty obvious that you are both getting the same amount then huh?

 

[Deeko]

No, you missed the part about my financial aid making mine only cost $1000 more than his.

 

[waggy]

lets see you are mad that your parents wont pay for all of your school? you go to a MORE expensive school then your brother (3x as much) and you are complaining that they wont pay for all of yours?

uhh maybe you should go to a less expensive school and stop the b*tching.

Now about the figures yeah redo them WITH your dad. he may have made a mistake. I wouldnt count the $500 for the monitor you are owed it weither or not you think you are.

 

[Deeko]

This has absolutely nothing to do with college. Or the monitor. He subtracted the $500. And I am paying for the college, no problem. This thread is about the fact that he is $800 over, and refuses to look over his numbers again. I looked at them, I was right, he said no you aren't and won't go over them himself.

 

[Deeko]

And you guys are making it sound like they are spending alot of money on my college. Whats so hard to understand that a) my college cost is only $1000 more than my brothers, regardless of the initial price and b) they pay about $2000 a year towards my brothers, and are paying for half of my first term books, which is maybe a couple hundred. They are not paying for the difference in price between schools. The fact that I earned a scholarship is.

 

[WarCon]

Take him to the peoples court............

 

[mcveigh]

contact the trollhunters!

 

[waggy]

Originally posted by: Deeko
And you guys are making it sound like they are spending alot of money on my college. Whats so hard to understand that a) my college cost is only $1000 more than my brothers, regardless of the initial price and b) they pay about $2000 a year towards my brothers, and are paying for half of my first term books, which is maybe a couple hundred. They are not paying for the difference in price between schools. The fact that I earned a scholarship is.

good thing you are learning this now. LIFE AINT FAIR.

though i do have to say i was in your shoes at one point. My father would spoil my sister and treat me like crude. she would get stuff like cars, huge down payment on a house, nice stuff for x-mas while i got pepsi (honestly my dad got her a new Ford ranger 99 and i got 3 cases of pepsi and a pair of jeans). Well finally i got tired of it and asked my dad why he is doing this. he siad that since my sister cant handle money she needs help (we both recieved a lot of money when my grandpa died). she has claimed bankrupcty twice and cant keep a job. Well after talking to him and pointing out how he treats and her he finally started doing it fairly. heh now she gets crap also every year =)

 

[Jfur]

Originally posted by: Deeko

BTW, the only thing you're entitled to for birthdays/graduation is a swift kick in the ass.

I went almost 17 years without birthday or christmas presents. If I can live with it you can.

Hey, like I said, I wouldn't be complaining about the money if they hadn't given my brother over $5000 over the last couple years. I only asked for a 10th of that. I wouldn't consider that being greedy.

My parents really spoiled the crap out of my younger siblings (I'm talking 10's of thousands each) and "borrow" (without repayment) money from me. I simply remain satisfied that I have not been spoiled and try not to have hard feelings about it. It does seem unfair, but when you think about it they don't owe us anything, and in the long run you are going to "receive" strength and self-reliance from it

 

[Deeko]

Yea, its not fair, it hasn't been my whole life, I'm used to it...once again, your missing the point of the thread though. The point is, he is trying to add $800 to what I owe him, and I don't owe it. That's not just not fair, thats just plain wrong.

 

[Jfur]

Originally posted by: Deeko
Yea, its not fair, it hasn't been my whole life, I'm used to it...once again, your missing the point of the thread though. The point is, he is trying to add $800 to what I owe him, and I don't owe it. That's not just not fair, thats just plain wrong.

Well, you have two options:

1) do nothing

or

2) demand a review or take it to court.

I am assuming you live at home at least during the summers, so the latter is probably not a smart idea. Have you clearly made a spreadsheet that demonstrated your calculations and shown it to him? If so, I'd just live with it. I find it hard to say my parents "owe" me anything, so maybe just chalk it up as interest and learn not to borrow money from them again.

 

[Gomce]

just drop school and go live on a beach somewhere

 

[Jfur]

an elaboration:

Deeko, don't actually go to court, but prepare documents as if you were. For example, did you sign something, is there anything in writing. Write down what you think you agreed on, make a list of payments you made (any by check?) and dates paid. because it's family, you may have no paper trail, but anything could help. Make a very clear list that is easy to follow and present this to your father as maturely as possible (I'm not saying you aren't but be as businesslike as you can). Present your evidence. If he still doesn't budge than there's not much to be done, unless you DO have actual docuements and are really willing to pursue it in court.

The reason I never try to borrow from family is because there are often complications. The one time I did I was 14 and I borrowed $5.00 from my mother. She made me sign a document saying I would eat 1 lb. of dog sh!t out of the yard if I did not repay it within two weeks