It sounds to me like you're nowhere near READY to live on your own. Trust me on this one, once you get out on your own you'll be wishing you had a nice place to live where you didn't have to bust your ass 40+ hrs a week so at the end of the pay period you can give up over 80% of your income just to cover your bills and basic needs.
Ok I never had a problem working hard to have my own life. I would rather work two jobs and have my own place and rules then live at home and have to put up with overbearing parents (if his are in this case we do not know). But I have lived with manipulative, overbearing parents and it's not fun either.
If you feel you are really being wronged by your parents (and not just bitching), do this:
1) find a good job, work at it for 2 months, save as much as you can. Open your own bank account and tell NOONE.
2) Locate a good apartment and hopefully a roommate. Splitting bills is easier when u first start. Remember to live as far below your means as you can without putting yourself in jeopardy.
3) Move out when your parents aren't around. Don't give them your new number or address. Continue doing the same thing for a year, then arrange a meeting with your parents (like a lunch).
4) Show your parents how you have been responsible and you don't need their help. Thank them for the work they did to get you where you are (you owe them this much), but keep them at a distance. Don't give out your contact information, just tell them you will call them from time to time that you are doing ok. All parents worry, even the overbearing ones. They have earned that right at least.
5) Some day 5-10 years from now when you have established your own career, family, and life and have forgiven them,, go back to your parents and discuss your childhood. You may find common ground and friendship but you need time to let the wounds heal first.
That's your best plan.
