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[manimal]

A 16 year old girl at my kid's school just committed suicide last week from bullying. It's really bad now because with social media, the harassment doesn't stop at school- it follows you home. It sucks to be a kid today. She was a pretty girl with a lot going for her too

http://www.13abc.com/story/25541917/friends-and-family-remember-anthony-wayne-teen

This shit not only breaks my heart but it pisses me off. So many young are losing their innocence or worse.

 

[JTsyo]

I personally have never been bullied and didn't see much bullying going on in HS. MS was in NYC and there was all kinds of crap. I remember when I first moved there and there was a kid that was a bit slow that would play with the bullies during lunch and they used to have fun with him. I don't know if he didn't realize or didn't care.

During MS years after school there were some kids that would try to mess with my friends and I while we were playing. They must have been stupid of something since there would be fewer of them than us. We would just chase them off and go back to our games/sports.

For those saying fight the bully, that's not the answer for everyone. It's OK to ask for help too.

 

[mrrman]

I was at an earlier age until I joined karate and won the provincial BC Winter Games with a gold medal. Never was hassled by anyone again.

 

[rudeguy]

Bullying is not an epidemic. Its human nature. Whether you believe in evolution or creation, man has always had a need to prove who the strongest is. It goes back to when we were sperm and it never stops.

The problem is that society now tells us that everyone is a victim. Instead of fighting back, we are supposed to lay down and die. That isn't how life works. If someone tries to prove their dominance over you, you either fight back or submit. Those are your only options.

When I was in middle school I got "bullied". Meaning kids would try to pick on me or start fights. Well it didn't take me long to put a stop to that. 1 or 2 punches to a bully's mouth and people left me alone. No one died, no one was traumatized. Compare that to the amount of suicides and people with permanent mental disorders because they can't fight back and you tell me which is a better solution?

 

[amdhunter]

Once got spit on by a guy in High School.

Let's just say a day later there was an article in the Daily News about him and Police picking out kids one by one the next morning as we walked into school.

I am sure he regrets spitting on me every time he looks in a mirror. And no, it wasn't me who did <whatever> to him, it was about 15 of my friends.

Damn I miss High School. I was pretty badass for a loser Indian kid.

 

[Sonikku]

People bullied me for my long flowing hair and beautiful, shaven face. Deep down I knew they were just jealous for being so damn ugly. After enough of that, one would start to attack me and one day I finally punched back. I thought it was over after that, but a day later he got his goons together to play the "strength in numbers" angle. My memory is a little hazy as for what happened next, but I'm confident that I had seen enough episodes of Batman by that point that I could handle those kinds of situations.

 

[CPA]

I grew up in the 80's, have a last name that ends close to the word "gay", so, yeah I was bullied. My solution: go along with it. When bullies see that it just bounces off of you and you make light of it too, they don't know what to do, so they give up. When it got physical, I just stood my ground, regardless if I got my butt whooped. That wore out the bullies, as well.

 

[mammador]

yes, because I was "bright" and people were resentful I was "too hard" (when the general rule was that anybody could be).. Don't care though, such is life...

 

[KeithTalent]

Nope. I honestly do not recall seeing any bullying at any of the schools I attended.

KT

 

[Train]

Was a smaller white kid in an almost 100% inner city black neighborhood.

Being a white kid was basically an invitation to get attacked. Was always pushed around by kids at school, besides the hit to my self confidence, that part wasn't really that bad. At least they didn't break bones or give me concussions.

The attacks from strangers on the street was the really scary part. Was basically mugged a dozen times through grade school. The last one, in 8th grade, broke my jaw from a sucker punch. Decided that was it, didn't take shit after that. Once I got to HS I wasn't really messed with anymore, outside of some hazing on sports teams. Was approached several times but because I stood my ground it didn't escalate.

 

[manimal]

Bullying is not an epidemic. Its human nature. Whether you believe in evolution or creation, man has always had a need to prove who the strongest is. It goes back to when we were sperm and it never stops.

The problem is that society now tells us that everyone is a victim. Instead of fighting back, we are supposed to lay down and die. That isn't how life works. If someone tries to prove their dominance over you, you either fight back or submit. Those are your only options.

When I was in middle school I got "bullied". Meaning kids would try to pick on me or start fights. Well it didn't take me long to put a stop to that. 1 or 2 punches to a bully's mouth and people left me alone. No one died, no one was traumatized. Compare that to the amount of suicides and people with permanent mental disorders because they can't fight back and you tell me which is a better solution?

bullshit


We are no longer cavepeople. Your second comment about everyone being a victim is bullshit as well. Parenting is active and requires involvement. Some kids are getting bad parenting and their taking it out on the sweet/ and innocent. I want my kids to protect themselves and they wont be victims but I refuse to just rationalize away the bad things in the world because they are too hard for simpletons to understand.

 

[Train]

We are no longer cavepeople. Your second comment about everyone being a victim is bullshit as well. Parenting is active and requires involvement. Some kids are getting bad parenting and their taking it out on the sweet/ and innocent. I want my kids to protect themselves and they wont be victims but I refuse to just rationalize away the bad things in the world because they are too hard for simpletons to understand.

You gave a politically correct answer, but it is not a factually correct answer.

Bullies have little correlation with their parenting. Some bullies came from the picture perfect parents. Some from a lack of parents.

Bullying IS natural. Some kids will just do it. There is really nothing you can do to stop it. If you are a helicopter parent, all your are doing is delaying the bullying, it will come out later. And the later it comes out, the worse it will be for the victims.

 

[brandonb]

I was bullied mildly throughout school (who wasn't?)... When I think back upon it, they were being snarky, and not really bullies. Making stupid comments about my name, or my shoes, or my hair, etc. While I didn't like it and considered it bullying back then, now that I'm older I don't consider it bullying at all.

As the saying goes, sticks and stones...

However, when I was in high school, someone 'bullied' me quite a bit, mostly just verbally, but then one day the same guy pushed my face into the drinking fountain while I was drinking, and my teeth smashed the metal dispenser, and while I didn't get a chipped tooth or anything else, I remember being furious. I went up to that dude, grabbed him by the neck and said "If you want to go, let's go..." He said "I'm just playing with you man." I let him go. He never bothered me again, and never had any trouble in school after that, verbally or physically.

In some fashion, I believe people should learn how to deal with bullies and learn how to cope with it. As the world doesn't get any easier as you grow up. In some way I believe people just learn how to cope better.

 

[NetWareHead]

To the people here saying that if you stand up for yourself, the bully will stop. I say BS to that. My bully in middle school fought several times with me. Each time it resulted in suspension for the both of us as well as injuries. One day he was gone from school for maybe 2 weeks or so. When he came back, the word spread that he had a case of appendicitis. He figured he had 2 weeks of bullying to make up for. We started fighting again and this time I was going straight for the jugular. I kicked him in the stomach in roughly the location where I suspected the surgery location to be. He went down like a sack of potatoes and began bleeding through his shirt. Ambulance eventually had to be called and he missed another 2 weeks of school. Fuck that guy...

 

[manimal]

You gave a politically correct answer, but it is not a factually correct answer.

Bullies have little correlation with their parenting. Some bullies came from the picture perfect parents. Some from a lack of parents.

Bullying IS natural. Some kids will just do it. There is really nothing you can do to stop it. If you are a helicopter parent, all your are doing is delaying the bullying, it will come out later. And the later it comes out, the worse it will be for the victims.

Whats factually correct is if a child bullies to the extent that a kid needs to kill themselves their parents are bad parents. Parents need to know what their kids do and how they treat other. What you think is a good parent and what I think is a good parent is two diffent things.

What I find is funny is people lumping in kids being kids to real bullying. If your OK with this then you dont really understand the issue. Kids will tease and taunt. That is natural. To gang up and ostracize and make kids feel worse than a pariah and feel like they can never escape it is a form of torture. Fuck you if you think thats ok.

 

[Imp]

Yep, and if I could go back, I'd break their legs and take the suspension.

Dumb twats who did it to me were regularly suspended or in trouble. Teachers caught them many times too and I actually protected them. I didn't want "trouble".

 

[Imp]

To the people here saying that if you stand up for yourself, the bully will stop. I say BS to that. My bully in middle school fought several times with me. Each time it resulted in suspension for the both of us as well as injuries. One day he was gone from school for maybe 2 weeks or so. When he came back, the word spread that he had a case of appendicitis. He figured he had 2 weeks of bullying to make up for. We started fighting again and this time I was going straight for the jugular. I kicked him in the stomach in roughly the location where I suspected the surgery location to be. He went down like a sack of potatoes and began bleeding through his shirt. Ambulance eventually had to be called and he missed another 2 weeks of school. Fuck that guy...

That advice is too generic. It depends how much you hate each other, mental issues, and how opportunistic the prick is. If he's a sociopath/ psychopath, nothing will stop him including being arrested. We had one of those in elementary school -- constant fights, even punched a teacher, it didn't stop him.

 

[HumblePie]

Bullying never goes away, it just changes when we reach adulthood. I've seen bullying in the work environment, just not the same was as when I was a kid.

As far as being bullied as a kid growing up... I got stories to tell that would take far to long to type out. Let us just say I endured far more than taunting words, pushes, and an occasion punch. When you guys come back to me with being burned, stabbed, hit with shovels, and shot at with a gun... then we'll talk about how bad bullying can be from kids.

 

[MrDudeMan]

Have you ever been hated or discriminated against? I have. I've been protested and demonstrated against.

 

[Remobz]

I grew up in the 80's, have a last name that ends close to the word "gay", so, yeah I was bullied. My solution: go along with it. When bullies see that it just bounces off of you and you make light of it too, they don't know what to do, so they give up. When it got physical, I just stood my ground, regardless if I got my butt whooped. That wore out the bullies, as well.

I was bullied in the 80's and got my ass beaten many times. Believe I tried fighting but I was just too small in size and skinny. Had to use my brains a lot and talk my way out of situations sometimes.

Now, the kids of today say they have it rougher than us and people back in the 70's, 60's, 50's etc.

Back in our days, we pretty much had to deal with the problems ourselves and make due. Nowadays, bullying is like a catch phrase these days but bullying has taken to social media as well.

What do you guys think?

 

[JTsyo]

I grew up in the 80's, have a last name that ends close to the word "gay", so, yeah I was bullied. My solution: go along with it. When bullies see that it just bounces off of you and you make light of it too, they don't know what to do, so they give up. When it got physical, I just stood my ground, regardless if I got my butt whooped. That wore out the bullies, as well.

Guess it makes sense you went onto be a CPA when your past name is Pay.

To the people here saying that if you stand up for yourself, the bully will stop. I say BS to that. My bully in middle school fought several times with me. Each time it resulted in suspension for the both of us as well as injuries. One day he was gone from school for maybe 2 weeks or so. When he came back, the word spread that he had a case of appendicitis. He figured he had 2 weeks of bullying to make up for. We started fighting again and this time I was going straight for the jugular. I kicked him in the stomach in roughly the location where I suspected the surgery location to be. He went down like a sack of potatoes and began bleeding through his shirt. Ambulance eventually had to be called and he missed another 2 weeks of school. Fuck that guy...

See that's BS. The teachers should step in way before that point. There's no need for a kid to prove himself in fights with the same person over and over.

 

[Remobz]

To the people here saying that if you stand up for yourself, the bully will stop. I say BS to that. My bully in middle school fought several times with me. Each time it resulted in suspension for the both of us as well as injuries. One day he was gone from school for maybe 2 weeks or so. When he came back, the word spread that he had a case of appendicitis. He figured he had 2 weeks of bullying to make up for. We started fighting again and this time I was going straight for the jugular. I kicked him in the stomach in roughly the location where I suspected the surgery location to be. He went down like a sack of potatoes and began bleeding through his shirt. Ambulance eventually had to be called and he missed another 2 weeks of school. Fuck that guy...

Actually, one of my bullies is dead (another story right there) and the other one is my friend. Some bullies do turn out to be ones friend. It is not uncommon I feel. Yes, some are real sick bastards that deserve NO friends indeed.

 

[Remobz]

See that's BS. The teachers should step in way before that point. There's no need for a kid to prove himself in fights with the same person over and over.

What generation you talking? In my days of the 80's and my Dad days in the 50's we were offered boxing or self defense classes as an example. Remember that the adults back then had to "man up' themselves during their childhood days. These were the dark days of bullying.

 

[adairusmc]

Nut shots in a fight are difficult and considered cowardly.

Better: Karate chop to the throat will stop anybody. Even a light hit.

But must be careful to not use too much force otherwise you can really fuck a person up.

No such thing is a fair fight. If you aren't cheating and using weapons of opportunity, then you deserve to lose.

 

[Train]

Whats factually correct is if a child bullies to the extent that a kid needs to kill themselves their parents are bad parents.

This is an absolutely ludicrous assumption.