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[TridenT]

I don't think bullying has lost all of its violent and physical attitude. I think what has changed the most is that it has completely transformed psychologically because with social media the victim feels it is relentless (which it is), inescapable, and permanent.

Good parenting on both ends would solve this, but Americans are shitty parents and human beings... So, I can't really say it's ever going to change.

 

[Scarpozzi]

I don't think bullying has lost all of its violent and physical attitude. I think what has changed the most is that it has completely transformed psychologically because with social media the victim feels it is relentless (which it is), inescapable, and permanent.

Good parenting on both ends would solve this, but Americans are shitty parents and human beings... So, I can't really say it's ever going to change.

Another issue is that bullying starts far earlier than people think. You don't expect to have to prepare your kids for war when they don't know how to read yet.

My guess is that suicide has always had ties to bullying in adolescents...the difference is that with the Internet and information age we are seeing/hearing about far more cases nationally that would have been hushed in the 60's,70's,80's and 90's....the past 15 years has brought more awareness and also more libel (twitter & facebook) to escalate AND document bullying after someone pulls the trigger.

 

[Printer Bandit]

i had dog shit thrown at me and kicked in the nuts a few times.

 

[waggy]

sure did.

though i was one of the smaller kids in the school. so i was a target for it. also i was a computer nerd, played AD&D and got good grades.

I was bullied until i figured out the best way to deal with it was to fight.

No bully wants to be slammed to the ground by 100lb guy. Sure i lost the majority of the fights. but between my wrestling training and hapkido i could hold my own.

edit: after reading the full thread it sounds like i had it easy. all i had was guys trying to intimidate me. usually in front of hot girls. I never understood that. why would a girl be impressed you can bully the smallest guy around?

 

[Majes]

I think there's quite a blur between being picked on and being bullied...
I was picked on my fair share in school for different things.
But I don't think I ever let it get to the point of being bullied.
I threw a kid into a locker head first when he wouldn't leave me alone, and I threw a kid over a couple of bus seats when he kept messing with people on the bus.
But senior year I had a guy come up to me and say something to the extent of "Yeah I never messed with you cause I figured you'd be the one to come in and kill everyone". Apparently Columbine had an impact...

 

[chitwood]

Yea. Never once fought back. Just ignored it and endured the stress of going to school and have to face it every day till the guy got bored and found someone else to pick on.

Seems like everyone in this thread admits to being bullied, but always resorted to fighting to make it stop. I find that interesting. I'd always try and find info and background on the guys that harassed me. They always ended up being older than me, criminals, drug dealers, one guy supposedly stole a bunch of band instruments from the school and used the money to buy a shotgun. It was pretty easy to convince myself I wasn't standing up to anyone like that.

 

[OCGuy]

I think the term "bully" has now been so abused and watered down, that it could harm people who are actually being physically bullied.

Sad.

 

[Imp]

Bullying never goes away, it just changes when we reach adulthood. I've seen bullying in the work environment, just not the same was as when I was a kid.

The one consolation for bullying in adulthood is that if you, the victim, play your cards right, you could end up rich (lawsuit) with the asshole in jail (call the cops).

Or it plays out in other "colorful" ways.

 

[mrjminer]

Nope.

Apparently during my school career, though, a few people sporadically were going to beat me for reasons unknown to me since I never had contact with about half of the people. According to my brother, at least. I didn't even know about these supposed people until I was like 20, so he is probably blowing it out of proportion. I doubt that there were anyone was really going to do anything except this one punk I remember, who was just generally a dickhead to everyone.

My brother is one of those guys that would hear the hint of somebody talking smack about him or me, then immediately provoke them, go into destruction mode, and crush people, regardless of whether they were just talking shit with their friends or saying anything with any degree of seriousness. Guess it worked out in my favor, other than him kicking my ass regularly at home

 

[Platypus]

I grew up in a small midwestern town in Indiana, I'm gay and my last name pegs me as a minority, wasn't wealthy and I hated sports, so yes of course.

 

[Mayne]

Living in Calgary Alberta as a 11 year old. Had to take the bus to school. One fucker on the bus bullied me for atleast 2 weeks, he must of been like 6 feet or something. Told my brother about it because it was really pissing me off.

Get off off at my stop with the bully. Brother was waiting there for him. Kicked the shit out of him and made him kiss my foot in front of all the kids that went to my school.

I love my brother

 

[waggy]

Living in Calgary Alberta as a 11 year old. Had to take the bus to school. One fucker on the bus bullied me for atleast 2 weeks, he must of been like 6 feet or something. Told my brother about it because it was really pissing me off.

Get off off at my stop with the bully. Brother was waiting there for him. Kicked the shit out of him and made him kiss my foot in front of all the kids that went to my school.

I love my brother

rolf. that's what brothers are for. they are the only ones that get to bully you!

 

[Mayne]

rolf. that's what brothers are for. they are the only ones that get to bully you!

lol. I hear ya. But my bro never bullied me. He became famous for kicking the shit out of bullies in our high school.

 

[MongGrel]

Will take a moment to Semper Fi my Marine brothers, lets go bully the Army guy.

Just kidding Dice, Semper Fi also.

*salute*

 

[mmntech]

In a tech forum full of INTJ nerds, I think you'd be hard pressed to find anyone who hasn't been bullied.

Having gone through it myself, I have to say I think a lot of the anti-bullying stuff today is insincere. Schools have their hands tied because they can't discipline kids.

 

[Mayne]

In a tech forum full of INTJ nerds, I think you'd be hard pressed to find anyone who hasn't been bullied.

Having gone through it myself, I have to say I think a lot of the anti-bullying stuff today is insincere. Schools have their hands tied because they can't discipline kids.

pretty hard to discipline kids when they do it on social media now. Terrible fucking world we live in now.

 

[Mixolydian]

I was never bullied that I can remember. Sure there were a lot of smartasses who liked to show it, but nothing that I would consider bullying. Everyone pretty much left me alone for the most part.

 

[Red Squirrel]

Grade 7 and 8 was the hardest, I had this one guy that just verbally bullied me all the time. He was about my size, maybe even smaller, I don't know why I did not just clock him. I kinda wish I had, it would make a better story to tell now. Instead I ended up going to the principals office to get it sorted and he was not allowed to be near me or talk to me. I was terrified of going to high school thinking it would be worse, but it was a total turn of tables, found friends quick and we had a pretty tight knit group together. In fact I found there was not really that much bullying in high school compared to elementary.

I did have the odd bully in preschool but I don't know if it would really count as that, mostly just people being asses and breaking our snow forts and stuff.

 

[Miramonti]

In 6th grade I took sh!t for over 6 months from someone. I finally drew the line, got myself really pumped up to fight, said let's go one day after school, and he chickened out, lol. He never bothered me again. Another friend of his much bigger gave me sh!t a few years later, we fought, I got the worst of it, but never had a problem with him again, and we once partied together years later. I agree with the anti-bullying sentiment these days, but ultimately, fighting back is the best long term cure to those that know no other way.

 

[mmntech]

pretty hard to discipline kids when they do it on social media now. Terrible fucking world we live in now.

That's their parents fault for not keeping tabs on what their kids are doing.

 

[PhoKingGuy]

I was bullied for being the small indian kid in high school by a few of the redneck mormons. They would push me around, say they didn't have to listen to me, etc. I mostly ignored it because they were dumb as bricks. I graduated HS and that was the end of it.


Fast forward to a few weeks back where one of them pulled up my E350 after getting it washed at the dealer. He instantly knew who I was and stammered out saying "Have a good day sir"

That was all i needed.

 

[Jeff7]

Bullying is a national epidemic and it has some major consequences.

I remember being bullied. I was walking home and this kid said to me "look at that f*ckin loser." Then this big kid punched me in the stomach and I ran home. I had to duck from this kid because I was terrified that he was going to physically kill me. You know what? He did kill me. He killed my spirit and stole my soul! I will never forgive him for as long as I live! :'(

Have you been bullied in the past? If so, what did you do? Did you run and hide?

Lived through it, pretty much.
2nd grade through to 12th grade. Feeling powerless, useless, and targeted every day you're in school....yeah, that'll leave a mark that runs deep.

There's a variety of fairly "unkind" things I'd have in mind to say, but I'd rather not let my memory stray into that time period.

 

[Leyawiin]

For the 1970s I was a chubby kid (think Danny Partridge without the red hair). Got teased and bullied a lot over that. In retrospect, I was positively thin compared to kids today. From 6th grade through 10th life was pretty miserable. The I shot up to 6' 4" tall one summer and my folks bought me a brand new Toyota Celica to drive to high school in. Problem solved.

 

[Mayne]

For the 1970s I was a chubby kid (think Danny Partridge without the red hair). Got teased and bullied a lot over that. In retrospect, I was positively thin compared to kids today.

LOL. I literally belly laughed in my chair. I put my hand on my tummy. That was hilarious

 

[T_Yamamoto]

The problem with standing up to bullies is the possibility of suspension which would go on your school record. More schools/school systems have a no tolerance policy. This greatly deters those who are bullied to stand up for themselves.