Got punched in the face tonight

[TecHNooB]

Originally posted by: Nutdotnet

Originally posted by: aswedc
You need to learn to take a hint. It should have been obvious you weren't welcome at the camp as soon as she started not telling you what was happening, not picking up the phone, etc. That said, kick her out of your place.

QFT

Sounds like the OP isn't the brightest when taking "hints".

If I was in your situation I would have called her ONCE...let a message...maybe called her ONE MORE TIME in the evening...if she didn't answer I would have left her there.

Oh comeon, you don't go on a 2.5 hour drive to a camping site with supposed friends just to get sent back because some bitch is acting a little wierd. You'd hope that the situation diffuses itself or attempt find out what is going on throughout the remainder of the time which is what he did. He left after the situation went sour which was the right thing to do. There was no way he could have seen that punch coming. Your attitude throughout the situation was correct. You got life skills. As for Amber.. let me draw you a diagram..

LIFE 8:::::HERE::COMES::THE:AIN::: AMBER

 

[PhlashFoto]

Who is this Hidalgo guy, if Hank is the 36yo bf???

 

[Kristi2k]

Originally posted by: SearchMaster
Acknowledge...and move on. Be courteous with Amber, but don't do her any favors or get in any social situations with her.

You did nothing wrong, and a lot right, fighting back with an idiot when he has friends to back him up in the middle of nowhere would have been foolish. It's not the end of the world, you weren't beaten to a pulp, so just go on with your life and don't listen to these e-thugs.

Best advise yet.

 

[teddyv]

Best advise yet

Yup - chalk it up to experience and a lesson to pay more attention to that little voice that says "something here just isn't right."

 

[astrocase]

This is very confusing. Did amber have anything to do with it? Kick her out.

 

[middlehead]

Originally posted by: Atlantean
haha I know, but thats the reaction I would have to that reaction.... and I thought it was a campground... didn't really read the whole post.

It was a campground, it's everybody else that didn't read properly.

 

[ManSnake]

You tried to hit on the girl by calling her multiple times. She thinks you were harassing her. She called out her half-brother to teach you a lesson. The dude punched you in the face. You are now heart-broken and confused.

It makes perfect sense to me! :laugh:

 

[Gooberlx2]

Originally posted by: SearchMaster
Acknowledge...and move on. Be courteous with Amber, but don't do her any favors or get in any social situations with her.

You did nothing wrong, and a lot right, fighting back with an idiot when he has friends to back him up in the middle of nowhere would have been foolish. It's not the end of the world, you weren't beaten to a pulp, so just go on with your life and don't listen to these e-thugs.

:thumbsup:

I WOULD, however, confront Amber as to WTF and why!

 

[Gooberlx2]

Originally posted by: batchusa
lol, just one thing.........

who names their kid Hidalgo? unless its Viggo Mortensen..

In that regard, who names their kid Viggo?

 

[fireandicefuel]

let us know when Amber comes home

 

[erub]

Update:

Amber called me at 10:30 AM, about 12 hrs after the incident, left a message, she apologized, said she had spoken to our roomate about it (I called him last night when I was leaving to give him the heads up). She said her phone was turned off to save battery and that she would try talking to us later..

I can't really kick Amber out because all 3 of our names are on the lease..plus I have no proof she did anything

As for Hidalgo, I have no idea who he was..my only guess is that he is some friend of Hank's..he was definitely older than me (i'm 22)

For calling the cops, I thought about it, but finding the place was hard enough, I couldn't give the cops directions out there, and I definitely couldn't identify the guy..besides its not like it would have been a more hospitable place for me to stay after they came and arrested him

 

[Gooberlx2]

Originally posted by: erub
Update:

Amber called me at 10:30 AM, about 12 hrs after the incident, left a message, she apologized, said she had spoken to our roomate about it (I called him last night when I was leaving to give him the heads up). She said her phone was turned off to save battery and that she would try talking to us later..

I can't really kick Amber out because all 3 of our names are on the lease..plus I have no proof she did anything

As for Hidalgo, I have no idea who he was..my only guess is that he is some friend of Hank's..he was definitely older than me (i'm 22)

For calling the cops, I thought about it, but finding the place was hard enough, I couldn't give the cops directions out there, and I definitely couldn't identify the guy..besides its not like it would have been a more hospitable place for me to stay after they came and arrested him

Hmmm....it's good that she apologized. Marking for further updates....

 

[Platypus]

You got used but since you didn't solve the situation right there you're pretty much SOL. Chalk it up to a life lesson and move on with your life. At this point there are lots of little trivial things you can do to make things bad for her but I doubt you're that kind of person. Just take the high road.

I've known lots of people like 'Amber' in real life, she'll most likely come back and pretend nothing happened. If she's anything like what you make her out to be she's probably extremely manipulative and self-centered. Do your best to continue your job and fill your other roommate in on the situation. She's going to be the one living uncomfortably now.

 

[Dissipate]

Originally posted by: speg
Is Amber hot? If so, hit it and ditch it. If not, just ditch it.

Who gives a fvck if she is hot? She sounds like a total bitch.

I would have bailed out of that situation the minute I wasn't able to get that bitch on the phone. She turns off her cell phone for the whole day? Sounds ridiculous.

 

[Dissipate]

Originally posted by: erub
Update:

Amber called me at 10:30 AM, about 12 hrs after the incident, left a message, she apologized, said she had spoken to our roomate about it (I called him last night when I was leaving to give him the heads up). She said her phone was turned off to save battery and that she would try talking to us later..

Bullllllllllllllllllllsh!t. You got taken for a ride and got beat up and now she is trying to act innocent.

 

[Nutdotnet]

Originally posted by: TecHNooB

Originally posted by: Nutdotnet

Originally posted by: aswedc
You need to learn to take a hint. It should have been obvious you weren't welcome at the camp as soon as she started not telling you what was happening, not picking up the phone, etc. That said, kick her out of your place.

QFT

Sounds like the OP isn't the brightest when taking "hints".

If I was in your situation I would have called her ONCE...let a message...maybe called her ONE MORE TIME in the evening...if she didn't answer I would have left her there.

Oh comeon, you don't go on a 2.5 hour drive to a camping site with supposed friends just to get sent back because some bitch is acting a little wierd. You'd hope that the situation diffuses itself or attempt find out what is going on throughout the remainder of the time which is what he did. He left after the situation went sour which was the right thing to do. There was no way he could have seen that punch coming. Your attitude throughout the situation was correct. You got life skills. As for Amber.. let me draw you a diagram..

LIFE 8:::::HERE::COMES::THE:AIN::: AMBER

Uh...yeah you do...

I didn't read anywhere that she was an actual FRIEND.....she seems to be a roommate. Roommate != Friend.

 

[pulse8]

Originally posted by: erub
Update:

Amber called me at 10:30 AM, about 12 hrs after the incident, left a message, she apologized, said she had spoken to our roomate about it (I called him last night when I was leaving to give him the heads up). She said her phone was turned off to save battery and that she would try talking to us later..

I can't really kick Amber out because all 3 of our names are on the lease..plus I have no proof she did anything

As for Hidalgo, I have no idea who he was..my only guess is that he is some friend of Hank's..he was definitely older than me (i'm 22)

For calling the cops, I thought about it, but finding the place was hard enough, I couldn't give the cops directions out there, and I definitely couldn't identify the guy..besides its not like it would have been a more hospitable place for me to stay after they came and arrested him

Don't forgive her unless a BJ is involved and even then only pretend to forgive her.

Also, you sound wayyyyy more calm than I would be if that happened to me.

 

[daniel49]

Originally posted by: erub
Sorry if its long..

Maybe you guys can explain it to me..

I am living with 2 roomates this summer in Phoenix while interning. All 3 of us are summer interns for the same company, one guy I lived with last summer (John) & one girl (Amber) previously unknown to us; she just moved in last Saturday.

Memorial Day weekend is our only 3 day weekend of the summer. I wanted to see parts of Arizona that I didnt see last summer. From Monday on, Amber kept saying how she wanted to go up to Flagstaff (2.5 hrs north, where she goes to college) to see her friends, but she complained that she didn't have any money for gas.

I had heard that there was some good nature and Indian ruins to see up there so I wanted to go also. I offered to drive and pay for the gas if she could find me a floor to sleep on (I thought it was fair, but maybe not?)

The friend she tried to set us up with was kinda sketchy - difficult to get ahold of, she's a 20 year old dating a 36 year old guy with kids..finally Amber figured out that she was going camping, and I said that would be ok also..I borrowed a cot and a sleeping bag from a co-worker and we headed up there on Friday after work.

I met her friends, they seemed nice enough but definitely didnt go out of their way to make me feel welcome. BTW, their idea of camping is bringing a trailer to a campground..

I didn't want to be too much of a burden, so early in the morning I left the campsite and went to see the national parks and Flagstaff..I tried talking to Amber to find out what was going on (even offered to take her somewhere to watch her favorite Pistons play) but she seemed very 'cool'. Pretty hard to get in touch with also, don't know if she was ignoring the phone/my calls or the service was bad (probably all 3).

When I finally headed back to the site, I got there around 10 PM (struggled to find it in the dark, and couldn't reach Amber or her friend)..I finally figure out where I'm at, go lookign for her in a trailer to find out about when we were leaving on Sunday..she's like, we're all going to bed, its been a long day, I recommend that you do too (and she gave me the look, like wtf are you doing here??)..I ask her about her phone, she says she shut it off, I told her that made it kinda hard to call, heh

I go back out of the trailer, and over to where a few ppl are BBQin, they offer me some food..one guy tells me that Hidalgo is looking for me, he wants to ask me about Hank, mentions that he is going to make taco meat out of me? I kinda played it off, because I had only briefly met Hank the previous night, he's the 36 year old boyfriend

Practically, next thing I know, drunk Hidalgo is up in my face, asking me if I have a problem with Hank, of course I say no, but he punches me in the face! Then keeps going after me as I fall to the ground, takes 3 guys to pull him away from me, and Hidalgo's still stuggling with them

I'm stunned, one guy escorts me to my car, that he doesnt know why and he doesn't care, he tells me just to leave, I still don't understand..I drive the 2.5 hrs back to Phoenix and leave the girl there (she didn't answer her phone anyway)

Why did this happen?
-Did I ask too much out of Amber, and she sent him thru Hank?
-He's drunk idiot looking to fight, I think I had heard that he was in a fight earlier
-Bad karma? (ok, I admit it, I went to the bathroom and ate the breakfast at the Hampton Inn this morning, but I promised myself I'd stay there next time to make up for the $2 breakfast..)

Regardless, while I will hopefully never see those other ppl again, I have to live with Amber for 10 more weeks..

Sounds like you hooked up with 1) an immature, selfish, pig in Amber and 2) some drunken looser BF who was jealous because you were with the pig , and 3) Drunken friend of BF who was probably twice your size and chooses his opponents carefully in an attempt to convince himself he is worth 2 cents.

 

[Ime]

Originally posted by: erub
Update:

Amber called me at 10:30 AM, about 12 hrs after the incident, left a message, she apologized, said she had spoken to our roomate about it (I called him last night when I was leaving to give him the heads up). She said her phone was turned off to save battery and that she would try talking to us later..

I can't really kick Amber out because all 3 of our names are on the lease..plus I have no proof she did anything

As for Hidalgo, I have no idea who he was..my only guess is that he is some friend of Hank's..he was definitely older than me (i'm 22)

For calling the cops, I thought about it, but finding the place was hard enough, I couldn't give the cops directions out there, and I definitely couldn't identify the guy..besides its not like it would have been a more hospitable place for me to stay after they came and arrested him

Having been down this road before, I can tell you this.

Amber is bad news. She may or may not be a bad person, but she definitely hangs out with the wrong crowd. Hang out with with someone who hangs out with the wrong crowd, and you get involved in their sh!t. Whether she is personally innocent or not has no bearing on it. She hangs out with bad folks, and unless you want that kind of lifestyle you need to steer clear of her from now on.

Regardless of which side the third roommate takes, just avoid her as much as possible and find new friends to hang out with. Even if she tries REALLY hard to be sweet to you, treat her as radioactive. There are plenty of chicks in the world, you don't need to hang out with bad news chicks unless that is just something you like to do.

You did the right thing by not responding or calling the cops. It's obvious they weren't out to really hurt you, just run you off. The reason really doesn't matter. They didn't like you and they wanted you gone. The police would not have done anything except tell you to go home anyway.

My advice? Find some good friends to hang out with, preferably ones who don't punch you in the face.

I know it hurts your manly pride to get run off, but consider this. They could have beat you very seriously or even killed you in the middle of nowhere. You got off lucky that they only wanted you to leave. Fighting back against the drunk guy would only have his friends jump to his defense. You'd have to assume they are armed so unless you are packing and willing to use lethal force (not a good idea in this situation since they only wanted you to leave, obviously), you'd be outnumbered and outgunned.

In conclusion, you do not suck at life. You actually did the smart thing giving the circumstances. Look at it this way. Keep making smart choices like this and the losers who ran you off will probably still be scrapping by while you have a good job and a future.

 

[DaiShan]

Originally posted by: Red Dawn

Originally posted by: DaiShan
Bro you were in a trailer park with a bunch of drunken trailer trash, that's why you got punched in the face. Hidalgo is probably pissed because the liquor store ran out of Mad Dog 40/40. In any case, the girl that you live with has no problem with these goings on so I definitely wouldn't p!ss on fire to put her out at this point. Hope you can still enjoy the rest of your long weekend.

Hey you meet some of the most intersting people in Trailer Parks. Haven't you ever seen an episode of Cops?

Yeah, and if that show has taught me anything, it's that the combined wardrobe of all male ocupants of a trailer park does NOT include a single shirt.

 

[sao123]

 

[Shame]

Originally posted by: hysperion

Originally posted by: Flipped Gazelle

Originally posted by: StormRider
Threads like these make me glad I'm a social hermit.

:thumbsup: Best way to be.

Kick that Amber b1tch to the curb.......she knew what was about to go down based on her "suprise" that you showed up there......she was probably talking sh1t about you to these other guys........

That was my first thought. Did you say something on the drive up there about the 20 year old and the 36 year old who were dating (kinda weird!), and Amber decides to repeat it at the campsite?

 

[Neurorelay]

Sounds like a scene from the movie "Broken Flowers" with Bill Murray. This guy just punches him out of the blue when something he said upset a girl and he had no idea why.

 

[altonb1]

I'm thinking revenger...as in Revenge of the nerds. Before amber gets home, install hidden cameras all over the house--her room, the bathroom, etc. and spy on her. Record the video, pictures, etc and post all over the web for nerds everywhere to see.

PM me the link, please.

 

[hysperion]

Originally posted by: Shame

Originally posted by: hysperion

Originally posted by: Flipped Gazelle

Originally posted by: StormRider
Threads like these make me glad I'm a social hermit.

:thumbsup: Best way to be.

Kick that Amber b1tch to the curb.......she knew what was about to go down based on her "suprise" that you showed up there......she was probably talking sh1t about you to these other guys........

That was my first thought. Did you say something on the drive up there about the 20 year old and the 36 year old who were dating (kinda weird!), and Amber decides to repeat it at the campsite?

A very real possibility......especially how she acted all suprised when you showed back up- probably because they wanted to kick your a$$ for what Amber had told them.........It makes sense that the drunk guy asked if you had a problem with his friend- sure you said 'no" but Amber had already told them otherwise while you were gone....................

Is this a possibility?