Give me tips on HOW to slow down my relationship.. we are going way too fast.

[Grasshopper27]

I was going to lock this but decided
you don't deserve that mercy.

AnandTech Moderator

ROTFL!!!!

That is just too funny...

I have to agree with the Mod here, you deserve the replies you'll get from this post...

Hopper

 

[Grasshopper27]

Originally posted by: RossMAN
Look at your right hand.

Tell him it's over, for real this time!

If that doesn't work then use talcum powder instead of lotion.

Oww, that's just low man, just low...

Funny as heck however!!!

 

"Oh well I will take it day at a time.. i dont want to rush into things so fast.. and while i feel like backing out i dont want to be like a bitch and make her hate men all her life."

Can I scream at you? :| Grrrrrrrrrr! Don't you ever do that crap that men that came before you did. You know you don't love someone anymore and aren't married to someone, yet you hold on to the relationship. The fact that you don't have the feeling anymore means that it was infatuation. You longed for something and someone you couldn't have, but then it became so easy and you're no longer interested. It seems to me that you fit the personality of someone whose fun is in the thrill of hunting. You hunted and finally got it but easier than you thought it would be. Now move on and find your next thrill. Don't make a new victim doubled with the likelihood of "things just happening". Please for God's sake don't do what those who came before you did . . . where they never loved someone but committed to the relationship, had a baby, got married because of the baby and then divorced after a torturous relationship.

The Good Guy, you can never be a good guy if you live by what you're doing right now. You have not learned to love and do not love, even by your own admission. Grow the courage and manliness to say you never loved her. Oh, the inhumanity of your conduct. . . !

 

[Grasshopper27]

Originally posted by: The_good_guy
i did, we talked about it tonite.. and she agreed that we should slow down but I am out of ideas on how to..

we basically shoudlnt be in a private area by our selves .. that should help a lot.

How old are you? You sound like a couple of kids here...

Adults don't have this problem, you either have self-control or you don't, it isn't a "maybe thing" where you have to stay in public to avoid having sex.

If you want to have sex, have sex. If not, don't. This isn't rocket science...

Hopper

 

[Ameesh]

Oh, the inhumanity of your conduct. . . !

HAHAHAHAHAHAHA D R A M A Q U E E N

 

[FrontlineWarrior]

Originally posted by: The_good_guy
i agree with muse on things.. because that's what I came here for..

needless to say last nights meeting with her family wasnt all on a silver platter..

lol wtf is that supposed to mean lol

 

[absolutiza]

Originally posted by: caramel
you're sh*tting me, right?

 

[Storm]

TGG, if she loves you but you're not sure you love or like her what are you doing with her?

Can you reciporate the affection she has for you? If not tell her...

I never thought I would say this but I think you might be even surpassing the infamous Deeko! :Q

 

[Lonyo]

Originally posted by: luvly
"Oh well I will take it day at a time.. i dont want to rush into things so fast.. and while i feel like backing out i dont want to be like a bitch and make her hate men all her life."

Can I scream at you? :| Grrrrrrrrrr! Don't you ever do that crap that men that came before you did. You know you don't love someone anymore and aren't married to someone, yet you hold on to the relationship. The fact that you don't have the feeling anymore means that it was infatuation. You longed for something and someone you couldn't have, but then it became so easy and you're no longer interested. It seems to me that you fit the personality of someone whose fun is in the thrill of hunting. You hunted and finally got it but easier than you thought it would be. Now move on and find your next thrill. Don't make a new victim doubled with the likelihood of "things just happening". Please for God's sake don't do what those who came before you did . . . where they never loved someone but committed to the relationship, had a baby, got married because of the baby and then divorced after a torturous relationship.

The Good Guy, you can never be a good guy if you live by what you're doing right now. You have not learned to love and do not love, even by your own admission. Grow the courage and manliness to say you never loved her. Oh, the inhumanity of your conduct. . . !

As was said in a song called "How Much Is The Fish" by Scooter:

The chase is better than the catch.

(Only applicable to some situations, such as this one)

 

[MrDudeMan]

Originally posted by: CorporateRecreation
...............

wtf?

 

[schizoid]

I almost touched a girls boobs once.

 

[Tsaico]

lol I am just picturing TGG with that Indian accent, "Thank you! Come again!"

 

[Geekbabe]

Originally posted by: Tsaico
lol I am just picturing TGG with that Indian accent, "Thank you! Come again!"

Buwahahaha!!!!

There goes another keyboard

 

[guyver01]

Originally posted by: Tsaico
lol I am just picturing TGG with that Indian accent, "Thank you! Come again!"

Apu Nahasapeemapetalan
Thank You! Come Again!

 

[hkazemi26]

So at this point you have or have not lost your virginity?

Also, i missed how you met this girl and why she seems to be in love with you. Did her father just pass away (serious question)? And finally answering the age question would be very helpful. It seems numerous have asked, and you have avoided it. Hers as well.

 

[peter584]

hit it and quit it

 

[BeauJangles]

OK. Controlling the speed of a relationship is like driving a car. You put pressure on the gas; the car goes.

LET OFF THE FRIKKEN GAS!!

Honestly, it's your body. If you don't want to do something, say so. If you don't want to have sex DON'T BRING CONDOMS. If you don't want to have such a physical relationship, tell her that. Explain it. Then explain what you do want. ie - Curling up on couch and watching movies, going on walks, talking, etc. The only thing you have to remember is that you are in control of yourself and if your body says NO to something, don't do it.

 

[Koing]

My longer reply won't post

A friend should be posting it for me though........

 

[abaez]

Originally posted by: The_good_guy
edit:

things are going way too fast. Needless to say things happened today that I didnt expect to happen. No I am still a virgin but the point is that I didnt expect to go there especially since I havent yet fallen for her yet (i cant seem to figure out what made me fall for her back before we became a couple).

Things tonite were hot and heavy with clothing missing. Neither of us wanted to go there but it just happened. How the heck do we slow down.. give me some tips..

TGG

I got to check the car tommorow hopefully no stains anywhere :Q

edit2:

Uhh if you don't want to do it.. DONT. I made the same mistake I went ahead and did it when she initiated it and I was too scared to say no. I really did not want to and I totally regret it. We are no longer together and I gave her something that I can't get back. At least do it with someone you really really like and expect to be with awhile.

 

[Yeeny]

Originally posted by: Tsaico
lol I am just picturing TGG with that Indian accent, "Thank you! Come again!"

lmao

 

[Koing]

Originally posted by: luvly
All right, Mr. Friend. Why don't you help your friend? His soul seems lost in Space. He seems so confused about himself. And if you said that you got out of such pit, why cannot you help him? Although in my opinion, you are far from the physique you claim to have, yet you learned to believe in yourself and search for what you want. You got a woman ironically Indian who's decent looking. But there's your supposed friend seeming to have no shred of confidence in himself, having no definition of himself, indirectly disrespecting the women in his life . . . why, oh why, does a friend leave his brother suffering?

All right, I expressed myself there since you thought it was important to make known your friendship with the original poster. You are not obligated to respond. Perhaps just a moment of thought is sufficient.

wtf?

I just made it known that I was friends with TGG as I know him better then most of the people here,
thats all.

I do help him out and offer my advice when I see him on aim. I always tell him to be more confident
in himself and things he does. But it is another thing for himself to believe in it and act upon it.
I said I had a problem or some questions that I asked here and I got help. I didn't have the same
situation as TGG though or have experienced it myself. What I haven't experienced I really can't
offer much help on though. Hence me asking questions here as others have experienced it and would be
able to offer better help/ advice.

What was the comment about my phsique about? You thought it important to make this known?
You may think that about my phsique think that but it doesn't bother me. I know I'm athletic and
healthy. I work hard and train 3x a week with a professional Olympic Weight Lifting coach and do
various other sports (Gymnastics, in door rock climbing, Tennis, Rugby, Basketball, Football). I'd
say my phsique is pretty good and most people don't have a phsique like I do. People do have better
phsiques then me but thats that and I can't do anything about that. I just train and work for
myself. I don't claim to be, I know I have a pretty good phsique. Not perfect but pretty good so
far. Much like people in every day lives. They know they are pretty good at certain things but they
know others are better at it.

I don't know about you but I don't know many guys that have a vertical standing tuck jump of 1m21cm.
Any guy that can get that I'd think he was explosive and strong in the legs.
And yes of course I believe in myself. I learnt that if you don't then no one is. Much like the
notion of if you don't love yourself first then how can someone love you.

You are mentioning the ironic part to my gf because shes Indian and becuase TGG happens to like
Indian women right?

I have mentioned numerous times to TGG and still do that he should be more confident.

ps people probably think I'm a bit arrogant or a lot but I say I'm a bit arrogant. I can admit that
but I'd also say confident people tend to be a bit arrogant, some more then others. I don't go
boasting but I know what I'm good at and what I'm not. If you knew me in real life or for those that
know me better I'm a fantastic friend. I do my best to help you out and always stick up for you.

 

[DigDug]

should I post about the inconsequential happenings of my love life?
Wait, here goes:

My GF and I aren't sure whether we should eat breakfast. What do you guys think? Is pancakes going to far, or should I stick to eggs? I'm not sure what happened but it seemed like we somehow had dinner last night. We didn't talk about it, but it just happened...
What do you think? Advice?

 

[Lonyo]

Pancakes should be OK, but make sure you don't put on any toppings, you don't want her going to far and there will be lots of extra sticky mess if you put on some syrup or something. If you're really worried though, go for some toast and a bit of jam, then there's no danger of things getting out of hand.

 

[Orsorum]

Originally posted by: BlipBlop
should I post about the inconsequential happenings of my love life?
Wait, here goes:

My GF and I aren't sure whether we should eat breakfast. What do you guys think? Is pancakes going to far, or should I stick to eggs? I'm not sure what happened but it seemed like we somehow had dinner last night. We didn't talk about it, but it just happened...
What do you think? Advice?

 

[Sid59]

oooh that's tough ..