gf just drove my car with no drivers license

[quakefiend420]

it just pisses me off that i have to hide my keys in my own fvcking house...i shouldn't have to do that, you know?

 

[bradruth]

1. If she was my ex, she wouldn't still be anywhere near me.

2. If she was my ex and she took my car without permission (like I'd give an ex permission in the first place...), she'd be hooked & booked for auto theft. Not to mention the cite for unqualified operator.

3. If she got into an accident or something *while* doing the above...she'd have an extended stay at the gray bar hotel.

 

[quakefiend420]

Originally posted by: kranky
Don't call the cops. But when she gets home, you need to explain that what she did was completely unacceptable and a serious breach of trust. Tell her that if she ever does it again you'll not only call the cops and report the car stolen, but you'll kick her out.

Explain that you would be liable for anything that happened and you choose not to risk that. And ask her if she truly understands that you will call the cops if it happens again, because if she does it she'll have no one to blame for the consequences but herself.

that's pretty much exactly what i plan to tell her...hopefully it sinks in, cause i would hate to have to actually do that.

 

[Mo0o]

Originally posted by: quakefiend420
it just pisses me off that i have to hide my keys in my own fvcking house...i shouldn't have to do that, you know?

Then stop bitching and throw her out. Tell her it's not acceptable to take your keys, if she does it again, call the cops on her.

 

Check your insurance policy, it may have more coverage than you think.
Also I don't believe that any accident is automatically the unlicensed drivers fault. Sure they will have traffic infractions due to driving without an operators license, but I don't think the fault will fall on them no matter what.

Threaten to kick her out if she pulls stupid sh!t like that again.

 

[quakefiend420]

Originally posted by: bradruth
1. If she was my ex, she wouldn't still be anywhere near me.

2. If she was my ex and she took my car without permission (like I'd give an ex permission in the first place...), she'd be hooked & booked for auto theft. Not to mention the cite for unqualified operator.

3. If she got into an accident or something *while* doing the above...she'd have an extended stay at the gray bar hotel.

hey...you would know what's going on here...if she had been in an accident, could they have come after me?

i would assume so, since the car and insurance are both in my name

 

[sixone]

Originally posted by: quakefiend420

Originally posted by: kranky
Don't call the cops. But when she gets home, you need to explain that what she did was completely unacceptable and a serious breach of trust. Tell her that if she ever does it again you'll not only call the cops and report the car stolen, but you'll kick her out.

Explain that you would be liable for anything that happened and you choose not to risk that. And ask her if she truly understands that you will call the cops if it happens again, because if she does it she'll have no one to blame for the consequences but herself.

that's pretty much exactly what i plan to tell her...hopefully it sinks in, cause i would hate to have to actually do that.

Don't say it unless you mean it. She'll only respect you even less than she already does.

 

[Jzero]

I have friends who went through the same kind of thing. Daughter's bf was a real eff-up. They broke up because he is a douche, but her parents being the nice caring people they are agreed to let him continue living in their house until he could stand on his own two feet. And then he stole $300 and they kicked him out anyway.

You can't help people that don't want to be helped.

 

[bradruth]

Originally posted by: quakefiend420

Originally posted by: bradruth
1. If she was my ex, she wouldn't still be anywhere near me.

2. If she was my ex and she took my car without permission (like I'd give an ex permission in the first place...), she'd be hooked & booked for auto theft. Not to mention the cite for unqualified operator.

3. If she got into an accident or something *while* doing the above...she'd have an extended stay at the gray bar hotel.

hey...you would know what's going on here...if she had been in an accident, could they have come after me?

i would assume so, since the car and insurance are both in my name

Unless you hang her out to dry, yeah you'd be screwed too. Either you say she stole it (which she technically did) or you accept responsibility for letting her drive it.

 

[episodic]

I don't believe you can get blamed for what another person does behind the wheel of a car.

 

[ggnl]

Originally posted by: NuroMancer

Originally posted by: ggnl
Wow. There's some very high horses in this thread...

Don't make a statment like that without your own viewpoint or backing it up. We have other words we could use to describe that behaviour

So ggnl what would you do?

I wouldn't dump her or have her arrested :roll:

 

[quakefiend420]

Originally posted by: episodic
I don't believe you can get blamed for what another person does behind the wheel of a car.

you can when it's your car and you never should have let the person out in it in the first place...which is the situation in the eyes of the law unless i say she stole it

 

[MX2]

Originally posted by: jumpr
If my girlfriend didn't have a license and took my car without my permission, I'd kick her to the curb. I'm not kidding; that's a serious breach of trust in our relationship and I wouldn't feel comfortable in a relationship with her anymore.

This is a VERY good point

 

[jpeyton]

Originally posted by: ggnl
Wow. There's some very high horses in this thread...

 

[DevilsAdvocate]

I'm an attorney, and I'm confused as to how an accident is automatically someone's fault if the person is not driving with a license. In Texas, even an unlicensed motorist would benefit from your coverage under our permissive use doctrine.

What state are you living in? Are you sure this is right?

 

[quakefiend420]

Originally posted by: DevilsAdvocate
I'm an attorney, and I'm confused as to how an accident is automatically someone's fault if the person is not driving with a license. In Texas, even an unlicensed motorist would benefit from your coverage under our permissive use doctrine.

What state are you living in? Are you sure this is right?

oklahoma...not 100% sure...but that's what i've been told

permissive use doctrine? can you explain that a bit?

 

[Proletariat]

Geez have some of you people ever had a g/f before? Who the hell reports their g/f to the cops. Thats just... lol.

Anyways I'm pretty sure DevilsAdvocate is right.

 

[Brutuskend]

Originally posted by: Kalbi
end her quickly

quickly do her in the end.

 

[TrueBlueLS]

You shouldn't leave your keys out where other people can get them if you can't pay up to any consequences.

 

[kranky]

Originally posted by: TrueBlueLS
You shouldn't leave your keys out where other people can get them if you can't pay up to any consequences.

Now there's an inane viewpoint.

 

[Steve]

Drop her off at the DMV, and don't let her back into your place until she has a card in hand.

 

[Accipiter22]

Is your backhand up to par?

 

[Accipiter22]

Originally posted by: quakefiend420
it just pisses me off that i have to hide my keys in my own fvcking house...i shouldn't have to do that, you know?

if you let her stay in the house still you have no right to complain, you shouldn't have to hide your keys in your own house, but if you let her stay you're accepting the risk. If it happens again and she gets in an accident before you can report it stolen, and the other party finds out this has happened before, you're fizzzucked

 

[Ricemarine]

You can always drive her to a homeless shelter

 

[Cashmoney995]

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