Originally posted by: angminas
That section in Matthew does NOT mean the dietary laws are no longer in place. This is upheld in many places throughout the Bible. He even says specifically at the end of that quote that he's referring to eating with unwashed hands. I can link and talk about this for a long time for anyone who's interested.
It's difficult for us to know where our choices begin and end. When someone is severely abused as a child, their brains change, and they are exposed to negative behavior instead of positive behavior. This teaches them to behave negatively, and they usually don't even realize they're wrong for many years, if at all. How can one say that this person has complete control over their future? What about people born retarded? Everyone except the very most handicapped or insane have some level of control over their thoughts and actions, though, and that can be parleyed into greater control, if the person is willing to put forth effort toward getting better. It's like lifting weights.
Not everyone who FEELS AND THINKS in a homosexual way is doing so out of choice, but everyone (except crazy people, children, etc) who engages in homosexual ACTS has made a choice. There's a huge difference between wanting to do something and actually doing it (or nurturing and fantasizing about the idea). The vast majority of people who "discuss" this subject skip over this because either they're blinded or they like to ignore truth because it takes more work. You can't just say "homosexual" and "being homosexual" and be really telling the truth, because it's more complex than that. Simplify something enough and you change its nature.
Being homosexual isn't a sin when it's not chosen. A child who is born gay (if that's even possible, I don't know, though I know lots of people think they do) is not responsible for being gay. If nobody ever teaches him properly and he is never exposed to righteous behavior, how can he change? But if his behavior ends up harming people in a clear way he can understand and he keeps on doing it, then he is responsible, because he's choosing to take care of himself at the expense of others. And if God opens his heart to the truth (which can't be summed up in a few mushy paragraphs, the Bible is 1,000 pages for a reason) and he truly starts to understand what he's doing and doesn't change, then he is responsible.
I have a very bad temper because of things that happened when I was a child. My natural instinct is to lash out at the slightest disrespect, real or imagined. I am prideful and self-righteous, because I tend to figure, after all that's been done to me, I have a right to do whatever I want, and I'll still be right in the end. But I have seen and been told that there's a better way, so I have made great strides in controlling my anger. It was NOT EASY. I had to choose to be hurt rather than to hurt others, because I knew that I didn't have the strength and experience to handle many situations perfectly. I had to choose to let things go that I had thought for years were extremely important. I had to study and listen to people who knew more and acted better than I did. I am still working hard at it, and I have to remind myself every day that the anger isn't all gone, and I'm not where I need to be yet.
People can't just do whatever they want all the time. There are too many people around. Complete freedom is a myth, an illusion. When you push the boundaries of your freedom, you encroach on someone else's. There's no such thing as "just hurting yourself", because love means the other person hurts when you do, and everyone is loved by someone. Besides which, none of us really have the wisdom to live right, and those that say they do are the furthest from the truth.
There are not 800 ways of being Christian. Christianity means you do what Jesus would do. The Bible is crystal clear about this. You can't do something he disapproves of and call it Christianity. Jesus forgives sins, but he expects people to change. If you continue in sin after you know it's wrong...well...that's bad.
Gotta go to work, no time to write more.