Fun at the pool is not so fun...

[Cerb]

*yawn*
Just jump in. Nobody cares but you. Alright? Please get that into your head. You are your limiting factor, and posting here is only going to get you more sh!t thrown at you. Your anxieties need a good kick in the ass, OK? I'm a geek, and still a virgin even w/o a GF, but dude, just get the hell out there!

<- 5'9", 240lb

Forget Skywalker66 for elite. He needs a custom title, like AT's #1 repressed geek.

i judge girls based on their slight flab though,
I mean granted looks arent everything, but I dont want a fattie. isnt that fair to ask for, to be sexually attracted to your mate? for me that cant happen, unless she's under 200 lbs.

*yawn*
So? You won't be attracted to girls who's hips bounce more than their brests when they walk. And you don't expect them to be attracted to you that way (only the other way around, of course), either. OK, you know, that sounds pretty fair to me (except you seem to think that 175 for yourself is flabby...er, not really). So all's equal. GO, GO, and GO! It is your will that is stopping you. Until you begin to conquer your will, you will continue to be pathetic.

Start seeing this trend here: you. You. You. Not them. If you look to others for your own worth, you will never have anything close to freedom. It ain't easy, but it will be worth it. Don't look to God. Don't look to people you barely know. Look to yourself. You are currently trading safety for freedom. So, of course, you deserve neither. Only when you begin freeing yourself will you begin to experience life.

The price of life is death. Don't waste it.

 

[nCred]

ok...

 

[Mo0o]

Why do you even bother to post. The advice everyone gives you is the same. the storys you tell are basically the same as well. I dont know what new informati0n you are trying to coax out of all this...

 

[skywalker66]

I dont get what all this business is about, how I shouldnt place my happiness in what others think of me.

I mean I agree that the statement is true.
But are you guys trying to tell me that I will truly be a happy person if I dont have any friends? I think thats a little bogus.

We all have needs, and one of those needs is: other people.

 

[brigden]

I seriously think you're making all of this up. The whole thing.

 

[FoBoT]

you should have gone swimming , get over yourself

 

[Cerb]

Originally posted by: skywalker66
I dont get what all this business is about, how I shouldnt place my happiness in what others think of me.

I mean I agree that the statement is true.
But are you guys trying to tell me that I will truly be a happy person if I dont have any friends? I think thats a little bogus.

We all have needs, and one of those needs is: other people.

*sigh*
1. You *imagine* their feelings towards you, rather than seeing what they will be. That's the first thing. It really won't be that bad.
2. Uh, yeah, you need friends, but you aren't going to be able to have any good friends until you get past your anxieties--and if you have 3 or more good friends through your life, you're pretty well off. You need to be able to open up, and not care what their judgement will be of a word or action.
3. We need not other people. We need the companionship of other people. It's the difference between being alone and being lonely. If you can't go out there and meet those people with some level of inner confidence, you're screwed. You must open to them, not closed within your safe little mental shell. Turn the other cheek and take whatever comes.
4. To carry from #3, exposure bring tolerance. If you actually start going and doing, it will become easier.
5. ...
6. Profit!

 

[LtPage1]

this obviously bothers you a lot- if you really care about it that much, put in the time to get in shape.

 

[Orsorum]

Originally posted by: JulesMaximus

Originally posted by: Orsorum
Skywalker - I do not know you personally, nor have I anything but a passing notice of your threads. However, the biggest issue I've seen with you is that you are searching for self-realization and self-worth from other people, namely women. Not only that, you objectify them.

When you look to others for your self-worth you lose any chance of stability. Relationships with others are inherently unstable and transitory; the only thing solid in this world is your own mind and your own sense of self, and you must rely on that and further develop it if you ever want to live a semi-happy life.

I disagree with you on this point. I've found that as you get older you find and surround yourself with friends who have similar interests and beliefs as you and those relationships tend to last a long time. I certainly wouldn't call them transitory or unstable anyway.

I agree with your other points though.

I would have said the same thing a few months ago, but the last few weeks have brought some unpleasant developments in some long-term friendships (not between myself and my friends, but between two couple friends of mine) that I otherwise would have thought unshakeable.

There are long-term friendships that will always be relatively stable, but even those are subject to whims and emotions.

 

[purbeast0]

Originally posted by: HotChic
Encouragement: I've seen your pic and you're not bad looking. T3h wimmens probably aren't going to look at you and flee. You could have jumped in the pool, had a great time, and caught some female eyes if you had fun and facilitated others having fun.

Criticism: your personality and outlook on life (and women) would probably surface if you entered a reasonably long conversation with a woman and quash your chance.

Conclusion: I think you're worried about the wrong thing. You'd be fine with how you look; you'd lose the game on other criteria.

Link to the pic! i have to see how this guy looks ...

 

[gigapet]

with your confidence issues you should be hitting hte gym everyday like has been sugested a million times.

so as b4 you choose not to listen to what anyone says so....quite simply.....i request that you die right now or never return here.

 

[MercenaryForHire]

Originally posted by: skywalker66
Plus I do make an effort to solve my problems, so there.

NO. YOU. DO. NOT.

You bitch and moan, say you're going to stop posting and (work out / socialize / etc) and surprise surprise, you're back in a few days about OMGWTFBBQTEH WIMMENZ DONT LIEK MEH!!!!

- M4H

 

[CVSiN]

Originally posted by: Schadenfroh

Originally posted by: Anubis
yes there is a YAGT FORUM just for people like you

honestly you just need to grow some balls, thats the simplest way of putting it, i get in the pool with all the hotties and im carrying a few extra pounds just like you
if these girls are going to judge yo usolely on what your body looks like they arnt even worth your time

yeh, that is only half of what girls look for, you gotta have the wallet that is carrying the extra few pounds for the other half

LOL isnt that the truth!
damn gold digging hoes!

 

[Nitemare]

Originally posted by: skywalker66
alright folks. i will be back in a bit. and when I do come back,

I will be reporting stories of social success.
Maybe I cant make myself have the body I want (or at least not very easily)
but you better as hell believe that I am able to make myself talk to girls. I've done it a lot already today, and you better believe I will be doing it some more.

How much did they charge?

 

Please drown yourself, or at very least ask a female to do it for you.

 

[skim milk]

hey skywalker,

I'm the same age as you and I understand EXACTLY where you are coming from.
I never had self esteem issues or confidence issues, but they all started developing during my late high school years and onto college. I had acne breakout all over my face which KILLED my confidence and I was also skinny.... I was criticized from my family that I look too skinny and it got in my head. Two years after graduating high school, I still suffer from self esteem issues.

 

[purbeast0]

Originally posted by: fritolays
hey skywalker,

I'm the same age as you and I understand EXACTLY where you are coming from.
I never had self esteem issues or confidence issues, but they all started developing during my late high school years and onto college. I had acne breakout all over my face which KILLED my confidence and I was also skinny.... I was criticized from my family that I look too skinny and it got in my head. Two years after graduating high school, I still suffer from self esteem issues.

boo-fvcking-hoo ... go to a dermatoligist and go to the gym, you will gain confidence.

 

[Whizzy]

puhleeaasee... quit teh posting !

 

[Nitemare]

You should have cannonballed near the girls. Chicks love that.




Your friend in Christ, Nitemare

 

[skim milk]

Originally posted by: CVSiN

Originally posted by: Schadenfroh

Originally posted by: Anubis
yes there is a YAGT FORUM just for people like you

honestly you just need to grow some balls, thats the simplest way of putting it, i get in the pool with all the hotties and im carrying a few extra pounds just like you
if these girls are going to judge yo usolely on what your body looks like they arnt even worth your time

yeh, that is only half of what girls look for, you gotta have the wallet that is carrying the extra few pounds for the other half

LOL isnt that the truth!
damn gold digging hoes!

that may be true but trust me, it's 10 times harder to do than said.
We are our worst enemy, mental illness where you are self conscious about some part of yourself, it's powerful..
once it gets in your head, it haunts you and it's not that easy to overcome it.

 

[IBuyUFO]

Originally posted by: skywalker66
I dont get what all this business is about, how I shouldnt place my happiness in what others think of me.

I mean I agree that the statement is true.
But are you guys trying to tell me that I will truly be a happy person if I dont have any friends? I think thats a little bogus.

We all have needs, and one of those needs is: other people.

I didn't think you had any friends mr. shystalker66

 

[skim milk]

Originally posted by: purbeast0

Originally posted by: fritolays
hey skywalker,

I'm the same age as you and I understand EXACTLY where you are coming from.
I never had self esteem issues or confidence issues, but they all started developing during my late high school years and onto college. I had acne breakout all over my face which KILLED my confidence and I was also skinny.... I was criticized from my family that I look too skinny and it got in my head. Two years after graduating high school, I still suffer from self esteem issues.

boo-fvcking-hoo ... go to a dermatoligist and go to the gym, you will gain confidence.

I work out pretty often and eat a healthy but high calorie diet... I've actually gained 20 pounds since I graduated high school

but the point is, even if my face is perfectly clear or my body is perfectly sculpted, I think I will still suffer from self esteem issues, it's not that easy to overcome once it gets in your head

some of those muscular people at the gym who suffered from self esteem issues with their body still think they are skinny and not happy with the way they look

 

[etalns]

You're so cool Skywalker66, I'll be your best friend.

 

[RbSX]

Originally posted by: apac
Die in a fire.

best line EVAR

 

[cressida]

another skywalker thread ...