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Found out my sister was dating a POS

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Yeah, I would probably have reacted the same way. She wont be happy, but then again in the long run, she will thank you.
 
Originally posted by: alkemyst
Originally posted by: shimsham

1. yes. 16 is a baby. do you know any 16yo that are mature enough handle life on their own?very very few. some 32yo still act like children. just because you get some hair and can spread your legs doesnt mean you are prepared to handle the consequences such as pregnancy, or this guy running around bragging about how easy she was, etc. etc. EDIT: not too long ago, people were getting married at 14. i guess thats cool with you too?

2. the same as you know. i dont. but, i think if this girl was a slut, her brother would have heard that by now since he still has contacts that go to school with her.

3. good. it means she has a family that cares for her, as we should all be so lucky to have. besides, its the parents job to be involved with her life. im sure if she ends up knocked up or diseased, youll be the first one to post its the parents fault for not being involved in her life.

4. imagine if everyones family had the attitude "its none of my business, why should i give a sh!t". half of us probably wouldnt even be here. would you let your sister date someone you know is a scumbag?

1. 16 is not a baby, I met my first wife when she was 16 and I was not her 'first' guy, all we did the first year was have sex, I don't think we left either of our rooms all summer while everyone was working. We got married when she was 18 and it lasted until she broke her neck...then she got sort of insane for lack of a better word. Our parents were getting married at 18yo, most of the 25yo+ around here probably have parents that had their first kids at 21-22yo. The reason 16 year olds are getting percieved as infants is due to parents over sheltering and spoon feeding them.

When I went back to college at 29, there were 20 year olds parent's doing their schedules...those same kids would be hooking up left and right to. The girls were just as crazy as I was, so that was cool.

2. I know and slept with a ton of girls that were thought to be virgins, they knew I'd keep my mouth shut about it....this is the same way I was sleeping around at the bank I worked for...a couple times I did get 'caught' (main way was someone passing someone else's house with my car parked overnight at it), but for the most part no one knew about the affairs and these were grown women who would have nothing to hide from their families.

3. Getting knocked up? Diseases? WTF! this can happen at any age. With my ex wife she did get pregnant, but the pregnacy ended early and naturally (3 months)...like I said though we were having sex 5-6 times a day sometimes more...that's all we did (and go to the clubs and beach)....I didn't use protection sometimes (anyone that says otherwise is not dating a whole lot sexually), but she got pregnant only once. My ex fiancee got pregnant but I think that one wasn't mine, we were having a ton of problems at the time and both seeing other people as well as still sleeping together.

I don't know where you live but I know 16 right now is the age girls have already had one regular sex buddy down. There is nothing wrong with girls having sex, nothing wrong with sex...it doesn't have to and should exist outside of marriage...the whole sex and being married is really a double standard created long ago....guys would play the field and women would have to 'wait'....the problem is who were the guys sleeping with ??? well I guess that's why there was culkoldry and all that.

4. Being a scumbag and a guy that likes and wants sex are two different things, one is bad and one is natural.


I hate to say this, but I wouldn't take any advice from someone who doesn't even have the sense to use protection during sexual intercourse at that age. To top it off when that person has multiple partners who sleep with others at the same time.

$10 says you have HPV at the least....
 
Originally posted by: eakers
maybe you should let her make her own mistakes.

its going to happen either way, this way she is going to sneak around behind yours and your parents back.

That is a good point, but we are not talking about crashing the family car here. She will eventually have sex, but being around a sex fiend who may pressure into unsafe situations will help her in the long run.
 
Originally posted by: DaviDaVinci
$10 says you have HPV at the least....
$10 says you're a virgin.

Damn, ATOT is one hilarious place. I've never seen this large a group of saints gathered in one place.
 
Originally posted by: DaviDaVinci

I hate to say this, but I wouldn't take any advice from someone who doesn't even have the sense to use protection during sexual intercourse at that age. To top it off when that person has multiple partners who sleep with others at the same time.

$10 says you have HPV at the least....

Hmm no STD's ever....also HPV is a pretty broad condition....many many have that and don't know it. Only a few strains even show symptoms and a few symptomless types are only problematic for females. You spew ignorance sir.

However, about the protection thing....I have no idea how old you are nor if you even pull in women. As a kid, most of them use no protection, part of being a 'kid' is stupidity....it's like saying did you ever fall out of a tree?

Even as an adult, I took risks sometimes....almost no one uses protection during oral sex....but that's just as risky, if not more. Again you speak from inexperience/ignorance.

This is why many women do not talk about their pasts....they end up getting judged for them.
 
You did the right thing.... but could have done it in possibly a better way ... i.e. talk to your sister?
 
Admit it. Unless she looks like you, she will have sex.

And there is nothing you can do to stop it. The question is: when she does, and eventually get her heart broken, will you be like Nelson Munce, or will you be there to listen?
 
Originally posted by: nick1985
i found out from a friend that my sister has started to see this football player from my high school. she is a junior and he is a senior. he is one of those guys that all he wants is sex, and there is no way in hell that is going to work with me. as soon as i found out i was on the phone with my parents telling them whats going on and that there was so F#cking way that was going to happen. her birthday is today and im sure she will hate me for a while, but i think i did her a favor. thoughts on what i did?

Keep on Troopin'...You did the right thing.

-Ed
 
Originally posted by: MaxDepth
Admit it. Unless she looks like you, she will have sex.

And there is nothing you can do to stop it. The question is: when she does, and eventually get her heart broken, will you be like Nelson Munce, or will you be there to listen?

hehehe...

Nick im still waiting...

😛
 
I think its best for your sister to start having sex now. Girls who go to college virgins turn out to be the biggest sluts.
 
Originally posted by: BoberFett
Originally posted by: DaviDaVinci
$10 says you have HPV at the least....
$10 says you're a virgin.

Damn, ATOT is one hilarious place. I've never seen this large a group of saints gathered in one place.

I'm ready to collect. I don't mind providing proof either. I would love to see if you put $ where you're mouth is. Just to let you know, I don't believe anyone is a saint.
 
Originally posted by: alkemyst
Originally posted by: DaviDaVinci

I hate to say this, but I wouldn't take any advice from someone who doesn't even have the sense to use protection during sexual intercourse at that age. To top it off when that person has multiple partners who sleep with others at the same time.

$10 says you have HPV at the least....

Hmm no STD's ever....also HPV is a pretty broad condition....many many have that and don't know it. Only a few strains even show symptoms and a few symptomless types are only problematic for females. You spew ignorance sir.

Which comment of mine shows ignorance? I know about HPV. I said $10 says you have it. You can't prove to me you don't so how am I ignorant? Supposedly one out of 3 adults in the US have it. Not using protection with so many partners assures me that you have it and won't know it until better tests come out for males.

However, about the protection thing....I have no idea how old you are nor if you even pull in women.

I'm 25, and I've had multiple sex partners in my lifetime. I'm sorry I'm not a porn start like you though"pull in women".

As a kid, most of them use no protection, part of being a 'kid' is stupidity....it's like saying did you ever fall out of a tree?

Well, you're right, there are a lot of stupid kids that don't use protection. I see alot of kids with babies here in my store. Don't you think that's why the society promotes PROTECTION? Same reason why we have sex ed classes.
And how is it like saying "did you ever fall out of a tree?" If i'm not mistaken you're saying it's OK to not use protection because it's part of being a kid.

Even as an adult, I took risks sometimes....almost no one uses protection during oral sex....but that's just as risky, if not more. Again you speak from inexperience/ignorance.

You know, you're very correct on the oral sex part. A lot of people don't use protection. At the same time, not everyone get's bj's from strangers. And sorry, sometimes I DO wish I was a virgin, but I'm not. And if you want to give me $10 also like the other poster, then I'll provide you with proof also.

This is why many women do not talk about their pasts....they end up getting judged for them.

Men get judged also as you know. My last partner showed me her recent STD test, and even asked me for mine before we got sexually involved. But I'm sure you never ahd the time for that since you're "Mr. I bang on first date" Sorry, we're not all hippies. I try to live in the real world with real consequences.

Feel free to judge me.
 
Originally posted by: MaxDepth
Admit it. Unless she looks like you, she will have sex.

And there is nothing you can do to stop it. The question is: when she does, and eventually get her heart broken, will you be like Nelson Munce, or will you be there to listen?

I really don't think that he's trying to make sure she doesn't have sex. He just doesn't want her to get mixed up with someone who's ONLY looking for sex.

there's a difference there if you didn't notice.
 
Originally posted by: nick1985
maybe im the only one, but im not looking for sex with my girlfriend. and im an 18 year old college guy....wierd how the world works i guess.

no, you're not the only one, i'm the same here
 
[Maxdepth:] "Admit it. Unless she looks like you, she will have sex."

I'm surprised you would say that. I guess you must not have seen a picture of him before. He's actually a good-looking guy! I'm sure he's found many girls who wanted more, especially as he has both in his favour (i.e., athletic and good-looking).

Nick1985, no you aren't alone. It's just that the loud people would like you to believe you're alone. Having your priorities straight makes you "weird", "gay", or insert anything else. However, trust me: There are many with your view. It's just they're quiet voices, so you think the majority consensus is the outspoken voice.

Stick to your belief system. Don't ever give up!

Haha! Alkemyst, you're really cracking me up here.

"You assume I have a problem with that. I have no problem admitting to the mistakes I made in life and do not try to claim I am better than anyone like others do. Unlike you who has not one picture of herself with a face, but still finds the need to password protect viewing her headless pictures.....but yeah it's obvious you live in fear."

You're one weird guy, Alkemyst. You managed to squeeze in my headless pics once again! I don't see the strength in your analogy and the relevance here. (Besides, what were you doing there? Did you return there and then realise it was password protected? Or are you saying for the first time you looked, it was password protected? Well, too bad if you missed it. If anyone, I gave you the first opportunity to carry on with the stalking. 😉 I just figured I should protect the immature adults from harming themselves by viewing the pics, since they've whined about their inabilities to not click an objectionable link. 😛)

Anyway, you say one thing but do another. You're praising yourself for admitting to mistakes in your life and not claiming to be better than anyone else, unlike others. Well, dear, reread your previous posts. Once again, you managed to argue that no one could possibly be qualified to have a view different from yours. First off, you don't even admit to any mistakes. They're mistakes in the view of the readers, but from your tone and view, your actions in fact should be the model behaviour mimicked by others. If anyone fails to live or experience that lifestyle, then he's automatically disqualified from having an opinion different from yours. Oh, worst of it all, it is impossible for someone to have lived your lifestyle and made a different conclusion, or feel that the path he took was incorrect and no one should knowingly follow that path. You have repeatedly, within this thread and other threads, implicitly declared yourself as one to be reckoned with and more as far as knowing the "truth", since you've done it all; and there's just only one possible conclusion according to you. I don't want to rehash your posts, but take a moment thinking of your claim of not being afraid to concede to mistakes and not claiming to be better than others; then carefully read your posts.

All right, gotta take off. I wonder if this thread will be dead by the time I return, if at all! 😛
 
It's obvious now you are just going for reaction with your comments, esp on the HPV now. Betting anyone $10 they have it when you already realized that at least 1 in 3 have a possible 'strain' of it and only a few are really anything to worry about. The only problem with proving this considering the asymptomatic types is it would take a lot of testing, and I am not even sure if they have 'tests' for every strain....but anyways, continueing on:

Originally posted by: DaviDaVinci


Which comment of mine shows ignorance? I know about HPV. I said $10 says you have it. You can't prove to me you don't so how am I ignorant? Supposedly one out of 3 adults in the US have it. Not using protection with so many partners assures me that you have it and won't know it until better tests come out for males.

Where did I say I had UNPROTECTED sex with several partners? Out of casual partners it was extremely rare...my point was anyone that says they 100% use protection for every possible encounter including oral sex is lying or has only had a handful of the said encounters.

Well, you're right, there are a lot of stupid kids that don't use protection. I see alot of kids with babies here in my store. Don't you think that's why the society promotes PROTECTION? Same reason why we have sex ed classes.
And how is it like saying "did you ever fall out of a tree?" If i'm not mistaken you're saying it's OK to not use protection because it's part of being a kid.

No society is promoting abstinance, kids feel they shouldn't be buying protection and that if they did and got caught it would cause them trouble. Condoms aren't the cheapest things and kids aren't the richest....how many should they buy at a time? Not like they can keep the 'left overs' around esp with parents and siblings going through their things randomly.

You know, you're very correct on the oral sex part. A lot of people don't use protection. At the same time, not everyone get's bj's from strangers. And sorry, sometimes I DO wish I was a virgin, but I'm not. And if you want to give me $10 also like the other poster, then I'll provide you with proof also.

Regarding the stranger/know acquantance thing: So can you 'see' AIDS? Are people you 'known' immune to AIDS? In reality when someone is dating someone, when it comes to the sexual part of the relationship....which is about 3 dates now on AVERAGE, what do you really know about that person? Name? Address? Phone number? Chances are not a whole lot. Also do not put your faith into someone telling you an honest depiction of their sexual past, current/past disease or relationship status. Many people consider it either none of someone's business or are bitter about contracting something themselves and feel it's up to the other partner to sink or swim.

Men get judged also as you know. My last partner showed me her recent STD test, and even asked me for mine before we got sexually involved. But I'm sure you never ahd the time for that since you're "Mr. I bang on first date" Sorry, we're not all hippies. I try to live in the real world with real consequences.

Feel free to judge me.

How does me having a several partners = sex on the first date? How does that make one a hippie? As far as STD testing goes, this is where it gets 'laughable', as most that cry about STD tests have actually never had one and if they did it was only once for AIDS. What tests are being screened for, for a guy many of the tests are invasive and not 'comfortable'?

Also assuming AIDS, not really any AIDS test down here has your name on it....it's all done via a number that gets cross referenced....but besides all that, even test results a simple to fake....unless you have the results handed to you by the medical staff you are just going on trust.

I have had a lot of sexual partners, I have been relatively safe, my mother was a OB/GYN nurse for a long time and we have many family medical friends...so for almost any of my health concerns I was able to be tested for things, get treatments if I got injured, get advice, etc very easily....I have had quite a few STD tests but they are not all as conclusive as many feel nor as practical, plus contracting an STD isn't an automatic thing even if the partner is showing symptoms....not something you want to gamble on though.
 
Originally posted by: luvly

You're one weird guy, Alkemyst. You managed to squeeze in my headless pics once again! I don't see the strength in your analogy and the relevance here. (Besides, what were you doing there? Did you return there and then realise it was password protected? Or are you saying for the first time you looked, it was password protected? Well, too bad if you missed it. If anyone, I gave you the first opportunity to carry on with the stalking. 😉 I just figured I should protect the immature adults from harming themselves by viewing the pics, since they've whined about their inabilities to not click an objectionable link. 😛)

What I am saying is I don't trust information from anyone that can't be validated if that person feels they must hide their identity also....

Everyone knows about your little silly passwords luvly, and everyone talks about your headless pictures....I am not the smart one that discovered this. If you are a woman on almost any board guys are going to be bookmarking and PMing you and then coming back to the boards asking "Does [my next eWife's] site come up for everyone else? I get page not found/password/empty album..."...

Everyone knows that you have claimed to be a model, psychiatrist, doctor, lawyer, etc....I bet if you search for your username you will find discussions solely about what are you?
Also who's do say I don't have the whole gallery hosted someplace else or saved?

Anyway, you say one thing but do another. You're praising yourself for admitting to mistakes in your life and not claiming to be better than anyone else, unlike others. Well, dear, reread your previous posts. Once again, you managed to argue that no one could possibly be qualified to have a view different from yours. First off, you don't even admit to any mistakes. They're mistakes in the view of the readers, but from your tone and view, your actions in fact should be the model behaviour mimicked by others. If anyone fails to live or experience that lifestyle, then he's automatically disqualified from having an opinion different from yours. Oh, worst of it all, it is impossible for someone to have lived your lifestyle and made a different conclusion, or feel that the path he took was incorrect and no one should knowingly follow that path. You have repeatedly, within this thread and other threads, implicitly declared yourself as one to be reckoned with and more as far as knowing the "truth", since you've done it all; and there's just only one possible conclusion according to you. I don't want to rehash your posts, but take a moment thinking of your claim of not being afraid to concede to mistakes and not claiming to be better than others; then carefully read your posts.

What do I say that I do another? I never have said no one could be qualified to have multiple views, however I have said when people WERE NOT qualified or simply responding with ignorance...that is what most people do. If you were part of the latest EVO post you would have seen that 90% of the posters were making false claims and not even going to the original story before making their 'knee-jerk' replies. It's the same here. Another thing I have said people do is interject extra and irrelevant information in an attempt to discredit someone else.

The religious threads here are a prime example of another thing: saying NO you are wrong, and then going on to repeat the exact same thing reworded....they know the casual reader will see the last comment and not go back to figure out the real posting.

I can list my mistakes and it would take a long time. I have admitted to getting a DUI here, I have admitted to getting arrested and some jail time, I have admitted to women cleaning out my place and bank accounts, I have admitted alot, maybe if you had a head you could see these things better. I also really don't recommend anyone trying to mimick my lifestyle and actions.

However, I wholeheartedly agree if someone has not experienced something, they should not be arguing in contradiction to someone that has. Many times people claim "oh, I have never done that but I read about it and you are WRONG!".....what's the source? if it outdated? is it valid? A good example of this would be a 'relativity' discussion with an old scientist, I can guarantee he/she would argue blindly if you were to say you had proof Einstein was just a little off on his theory.

 
Originally posted by: nick1985
Originally posted by: moshquerade
she's gonna hate you.
and what guy doesn't want sex? ???

he is the type of guy you just never want around your little sister. she has had boyfriends before, but this guy isnt goona fly with me.

leave her alone
it's not because you don't get any that she shouldn't and she will wether you want it or not
 
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