Falling out of love really hurts....

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Metalloid

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I feel like I am slowly falling out of love. I don't talk with my gf of 6 months like I used to. I get annoyed with her easily, and don't feel like spending as much time with her anymore. And waht's worse is that I think I'm starting to develop feelings for a girl that she knows. they aren't best friends, but they still see each other almost every day.

I just can't hurt her though. Even if I don't love her as much as I used to, I still love her enough to never want to put her through something like this. But I can't ignore how I feel. Any advice?

I feel like such a jerk for even considering ending it....

EDIT: She called me today and could tell something was wrong, and of course, forced me to tell her. I basically told her how I didn't feel the same as I did, and that I wanted to take a break. I'm pretty sure that it is over for good, because I love her less and less every day.

It kind of feels good to be free again, but at the same time I miss all the good times we used to have, and can never have again. She was really upset for a while, then she was fine, and then we had a huge fight again. I don't know why she, along with everyone that I know, thought I was so good to her. But I guess I truly did make her happy for the time being.

Not all things last forever.....
 
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bootymac

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Things like this happen. Just because you're going out with someone, doesn't mean the rest of your life is dedicated to that single person. Ending it soon will be easier than dragging your relationship on.

Just do what you feel is best
 
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tweakmm

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Originally posted by: Metalloid
Originally posted by: bR
You better tell her now.

Jerk. :p
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Well I was on the brink of tears anyway, so thanks for pushing me over the edge.
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If you were about to cry over this girl, you were going to cry over this girl regardless of what someone on an internet messageboard said.

 
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Ikonomi

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Dec 19, 2003
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Originally posted by: Metalloid
Originally posted by: bR
You better tell her now.

Jerk. :p
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Well I was on the brink of tears anyway, so thanks for pushing me over the edge.
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Chillax. Sometimes your feelings just change, and that's the way it is. You have a couple choices. You can give it some time, to see if maybe you were going through a phase, or if maybe there's something that will re-ignite the spark. Or, if you know for sure what you're feeling, do the right thing and tell her that you don't feel the same anymore, and break it off.

Falling in love is easy, 'cause there's a soft girl there to cushion your landing. :p Falling out, I guess you just hit the concrete or something? I dunno. The couple times I've fallen out of love didn't hurt me that much.

But uh... Don't cry. It's unbecoming to an ATOTer. :confused:
 
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zimu

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you definitely need to break up or at least take some time apart.
its possible you may be able to "recapture the magic" through some time apart. if not, ah well wans't meant to be. don't drag it on.
 
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MaxDSP

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Originally posted by: Ikonomi
Originally posted by: Metalloid
Originally posted by: bR
You better tell her now.

Jerk. :p
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Well I was on the brink of tears anyway, so thanks for pushing me over the edge.
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Chillax. Sometimes your feelings just change, and that's the way it is. You have a couple choices. You can give it some time, to see if maybe you were going through a phase, or if maybe there's something that will re-ignite the spark. Or, if you know for sure what you're feeling, do the right thing and tell her that you don't feel the same anymore, and break it off.

Falling in love is easy, 'cause there's a soft girl there to cushion your landing. :p Falling out, I guess you just hit the concrete or something? I dunno. The couple times I've fallen out of love didn't hurt me that much.

But uh... Don't cry. It's unbecoming to an ATOTer. :confused:
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http://forums.anandtech.com/messageview.cfm?catid=38&threadid=1276971
 
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Descartes

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So, let's recap:

- You have fickle love interests
- You're crying like a woman after Sleepless in Seattle

My conclusion is that you're a typical hormonal teenage male (ok, save the crying part). My advice would be to grow up :)

Good luck though.
 
Schadenfroh

Schadenfroh

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dunno, never had a GF, so im not the one to offer much advice, but it seems to me that you should end it before it drags on for much longer
 
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Ikonomi

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Originally posted by: MaxDSP
Originally posted by: Ikonomi
Originally posted by: Metalloid
Originally posted by: bR
You better tell her now.

Jerk. :p
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Well I was on the brink of tears anyway, so thanks for pushing me over the edge.
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Chillax. Sometimes your feelings just change, and that's the way it is. You have a couple choices. You can give it some time, to see if maybe you were going through a phase, or if maybe there's something that will re-ignite the spark. Or, if you know for sure what you're feeling, do the right thing and tell her that you don't feel the same anymore, and break it off.

Falling in love is easy, 'cause there's a soft girl there to cushion your landing. :p Falling out, I guess you just hit the concrete or something? I dunno. The couple times I've fallen out of love didn't hurt me that much.

But uh... Don't cry. It's unbecoming to an ATOTer. :confused:
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If his girlfriend is an android, I can understand the tears. :D

My conclusion is that you're a typical hormonal teenage male (ok, save the crying part). My advice would be to grow up

Good luck though.
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Everybody goes through "hard times" that are, in retrospect, just part of life and not as big a deal as they seemed at the time. It's incidents like this that make boys into emotionally callous men. :p
 
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boyRacer

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Hey man... at least its only 6 months... mine dragged on for 3 years... with only the first year being happy happy joy joy... wow what a waste of time. :frown: :(
 
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spidey07

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Aug 4, 2000
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if you don't love her anymore than move on.

What's the other choice? Re-ignite the flame.
 
xSkyDrAx

xSkyDrAx

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Falling, in general, hurts. But good luck to whatever you decide, sometimes things work out, sometimes they dont but life goes on, they'll always be someone else, its not you, its me, etc etc. haha jk!
 
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Kadarin

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Nov 23, 2001
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Originally posted by: Descartes
So, let's recap:

- You have fickle love interests
- You're crying like a woman after Sleepless in Seattle

My conclusion is that you're a typical hormonal teenage male (ok, save the crying part). My advice would be to grow up :)

Good luck though.
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That's very easy to say, but hard to actually do. There was a time when you, me, and everyone else here experienced this for the first time, and it hurt just as bad. My advice? You live through it as best as you can, and rely on your friends.
 
Vonkhan

Vonkhan

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Feb 27, 2003
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love ... ? grow up, u baby

fvck love, go for pu$$y ... only way to redeem your man card :p
 
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flexy

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Even if I don't love her as much as I used to, I still love her enough to never want to put her through something like this.
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alone this sentence should make you think. Tip..take time off and think about your relationship.

And...it may be totally normal that feelings get 'less' intense after a certain amount of time.

Btw. stop listening to these dumba$$es here trying to give 'advice'...most of them probably didnt even have a relationship yet, some even admit it.

Again: Dont expect a relationship to be all like the first day for the next xyz years...that's not a fantasy world but real life :)

 
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Zee

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Nov 27, 1999
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a relationship that didnt last... what a shock.... move on and get with her friend already before THAT's too late
 
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