Falling out of love really hurts....

[NikPreviousAcct]

It's a phase. If you truely do love her (read: not a fetish or emphatuation), then work on it. There will be other points in your life where you'll have to "work" at love. A great man once told me that love isn't something that controls you and you ride it across life like some amusement park ride. It's not the all-powerful fix-all that you see in the movies. He told me that sometimes love is something that you have to work for and maintain. If you really love this girl, take a moment to think about this with your head instead of your heart. Do you really love her? If so, bust your ass to better your relationship. The rewards are well worth it.

 

[MrDudeMan]

Originally posted by: FFMCobalt
It's a phase. If you truely do love her (read: not a fetish or emphatuation), then work on it. There will be other points in your life where you'll have to "work" at love. A great man once told me that love isn't something that controls you and you ride it across life like some amusement park ride. It's not the all-powerful fix-all that you see in the movies. He told me that sometimes love is something that you have to work for and maintain. If you really love this girl, take a moment to think about this with your head instead of your heart. Do you really love her? If so, bust your ass to better your relationship. The rewards are well worth it.

very good advice

 

[Metalloid]

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[flexy]

Originally posted by: FFMCobalt
It's a phase. If you truely do love her (read: not a fetish or emphatuation), then work on it. There will be other points in your life where you'll have to "work" at love. A great man once told me that love isn't something that controls you and you ride it across life like some amusement park ride. It's not the all-powerful fix-all that you see in the movies. He told me that sometimes love is something that you have to work for and maintain. If you really love this girl, take a moment to think about this with your head instead of your heart. Do you really love her? If so, bust your ass to better your relationship. The rewards are well worth it.

**VERY WELL** said - just want to add that such phases of 'ups and down' ALSO can strengthen a relationship. Things which can get worked out and trying to understand the other..and finding solutions etc..etc...all stuff which makes a formerly 'shallow' love/relationship stronger and stronger and deeper.

99,9999% of all relationships are NOT like some movie where there is LOVE and only love and passion 24/7 for the next 80 years.

 

[BatmanNate]

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[MSIuser]

There been a lot of posts back up thread which I think were totally pathetic. Just to state that.

I think what FFMCobalt said was very true. I think you should think about her for a little bit. Take time out and just think.... Do I love her, how many good times did we have in the beginning, do you think that maybe with a little work on your side that you will be able to get things to the way you want them.

What I will say and think this is the best thing you can do. Talk it over with her, find out how she feels. Explain how you are feeling, it has always helped with me in any relationship. If you don't feel you can be open with her about it, then I would say that might be the problem with your relationship. A relationship with out communication just doesn't work, especially if you do seriously think you love here.

Being honest, sure guys always do that, they see something and think oooo, something new .... i want it. It's just the way we are, but i think you do really love the girl you are with, talk to her, forget about her friend i would say as well, its just not the way to go. Also, her friend might not even like you, especially if she thinks you dumped her friend for her.

 

[Gravity]

Originally posted by: bR
Hey man... at least its only 6 months... mine dragged on for 3 years... with only the first year being happy happy joy joy... wow what a waste of time. :frown:

LMAO, wait till you get married!!!

 

[Geekbabe]

6 months is kind of a major marker in that you realise you're heading towards a long term involvement and you internally start thinking about if this is something you want to do with this person.Good for you for being straight with her instead of dragging it out,negative points however fir doing it on the phone,a relationship of 6 months were the party being dumped didn't commit any evil or wrong doing deserves to be ended face to face.

Relationships aren't bliss 24/7 you have points when you're just kind of existing due many times not to anything you or your partner did but rather because life gets in the way,work,school,bills etc take up a lot of energy and focus.A lot of folks also make the bad mistake of attributing every negative or bored feeling they might be having with their partner without realising the problem may be an internal issue.Being able to say that you're having a hard time and asking for space or for a bit of help from your partner and realising that every life has highs and lows would save a lot of otherwise solid,good relationships.

 

[FFactory0x]

Im in similar situation. I dont feel the same way about her even though somedays i love her to death,while on others i want to beat her to death. The problem is she lives right next door to my fraternity and is friends with everyone. Its also hard letting go cause he is one of the hottest girls of any soroirty and its funny watching every frat guy try to get with her.

 

[Metalloid]

Originally posted by: Geekbabe
6 months is kind of a major marker in that you realise you're heading towards a long term involvement and you internally start thinking about if this is something you want to do with this person.Good for you for being straight with her instead of dragging it out,negative points however fir doing it on the phone,a relationship of 6 months were the party being dumped didn't commit any evil or wrong doing deserves to be ended face to face.

Relationships aren't bliss 24/7 you have points when you're just kind of existing due many times not to anything you or your partner did but rather because life gets in the way,work,school,bills etc take up a lot of energy and focus.A lot of folks also make the bad mistake of attributing every negative or bored feeling they might be having with their partner without realising the problem may be an internal issue.Being able to say that you're having a hard time and asking for space or for a bit of help from your partner and realising that every life has highs and lows would save a lot of otherwise solid,good relationships.

I never wanted to do it over the phone. I actually told her like 5 times that we would talk about it later than night when I saw her, and that I wasn't in the mood to talk about it. I guess she had seen it coming though, because she claimed that the last few weeks I had always either been too busy, too tired, or not in the mood to talk/see her. Or, when we did see each other, I'll admit I wasn't too enthusiastic about it. But honestly, how could I be?

I'm not starting anything with the other girl right now for a few reasons:

1. It will really piss everyone involved in this situation off. Except for my former gf's older sister's boyfriend, who just happens to be my best friend. He really didn't seem too upset last night. I think he either saw it coming, or knew far ahead of time that her and I were not right for each other.

2. It's not fair to my ex. Although it is very very slim, there could be a possibility that I would fall in love again. It wouldn't be fair to her to start on a new relationship so quickly.

3. It's not fair to the new girl. If I get involved, and then I do realize how much I miss my ex, I am now having to choose between the 2 of them.

I just want to move on, while hurting as few people as possible.