Engagement Ring

[Gibson486]

Try telling that to Tacori.

Hahahaha.....might as well go to Tiffanys in that case.

 

[Texashiker]

Whatever you say, but no wedding band costs $4k.

The wedding band is more then just a "ring", its your commitment to the relationship and family.

If you make $4k a month, then you should have no problem affording a nice ring.

If you make $4k a month, and throw a fit about spending that kind of money on a ring, then there is an issue there.

 

[Gibson486]

The wedding band is more then just a "ring", its your commitment to the relationship and family.

If you make $4k a month, then you should have no problem affording a nice ring.

OK, so just spend $4k on a $1k ring because it has commitment written all over it.

 

[torpid]

Until the wedding, the relationship is temporary. I would not want to spend a lot of money on a temporary relationship.

"Dearest [name],

It has been a great pleasure dating you all these years. I wish to spend the rest of my life with you -- at this moment, that is. However, because the relationship is still legally temporary, I am not willing to risk a large amount of money on it in case I later decide I don't love you. Therefore I bought an inexpensive ring and promise to give you a more expensive one later once it becomes legally difficult for us to break up. Will you marry me?

Sincerely,
Texashiker"

 

[Falloutboy]

Bluenile is alright. They cost about the same as B&M in lots of cases. If you go online, and you want to do it all in one place, my recommendation is Whiteflash. They will do a free evaluation on any stone you want (they do limit the amount of times you can do this however). Price wise, they are lower than Bluenile, but the service is better because they do everything in house. If you want to the best price possible or just want to buy the diamond alone, try Eternitydiamonds. The owner is really nice and if you find a lower price on a diamond he lists, he will match it.

If you want to squeeze everything out of your money, look into buying a cushion. It is like a mix between a round and princess cut.

awesome thanks! checking out those other sites.

 

[ichy]

Good for you for not spending a retarded amount of money on an engagement ring. As for all these comments about the diamond being "bad" so what? Can you tell the difference by looking at it? If not then who gives a shit. Diamonds are a big old scam anyways.

P.S. don't get married. The majority of married people seem to be either unhappy or in the process of getting divorced.

 

[Elbryn]

awesome thanks! checking out those other sites.

+1 for whiteflash. that's where i got mine. got the rock there with the cheapest setting. then gave her the option for choosing her setting along with the wedding bands. was awhile ago so most details are now fuzzy but i did appreciate the attentiveness whiteflash gave me while making my choice.

 

[Texashiker]

Another thing, when you get married, you want the ring to stand out where it can be easily seen by other men.

When your wife is around town doing some shopping, do you really want some single guy walking up to your wife and ask her out? Only for her to hold up her tiny wedding ring so the guy can see it?

"Dearest [name],

It has been a great pleasure dating you all these years. I wish to spend the rest of my life with you -- at this moment, that is. However, because the relationship is still legally temporary, I am not willing to risk a large amount of money on it in case I later decide I don't love you. Therefore I bought an inexpensive ring and promise to give you a more expensive one later once it becomes legally difficult for us to break up. Will you marry me?

Sincerely,
Texashiker"

Sounds good to me.

The relationship should not be based off of how much money I spend on her.

If she gauges the relationship on the amount of money spend on her rings, she needs to head on down the road.

 

[ElFenix]

Another thing, when you get married, you want the ring to stand out where it can be easily seen by other men.

When your wife is around town doing some shopping, do you really want some single guy walking up to your wife and ask her out? Only for her to hold up her tiny wedding ring so the guy can see it?

a metal band without a bunch of diamonds on it is still noticeable.

 

[Falloutboy]

Good for you for not spending a retarded amount of money on an engagement ring. As for all these comments about the diamond being "bad" so what? Can you tell the difference by looking at it? If not then who gives a shit. Diamonds are a big old scam anyways.

P.S. don't get married. The majority of married people seem to be either unhappy or in the process of getting divorced.

if you ever looked at diamonds you would know there are alot of Bad looking rocks, I thoguht there would be no difference. I've gone to 5 jewlers and when they heard my price range everyone grabbed the same 799 special half caret and they all looked like a pile of rubbish, looked like a scratched up shattered peace of glass.

 

[IndyColtsFan]

I priced out the same ring I got locally at shanes, and shanes was a bit cheaper + lifetime cleanings and whatnot.

That's my experience as well. Blue Nile seems pricier now -- I don't know if their success went to their head or not, but I prefer Shane's.

 

[seepy83]

Another thing, when you get married, you want the ring to stand out where it can be easily seen by other men.

When your wife is around town doing some shopping, do you really want some single guy walking up to your wife and ask her out? Only for her to hold up her tiny wedding ring so the guy can see it?

She's supposed to wear the wedding band AND engagement ring after the wedding. They're worn on the same finger...wedding band on the inside, engagement ring on the outside.

 

[Gibson486]

a metal band without a bunch of diamonds on it is still noticeable.

no, he is just straying away from his original comment that you would spend 4 times the amount on the wedding band than on the engagement ring.

 

[theeedude]

GF said don't spend too much, so (after thinking "yep, she's a keeper") I ordered this one:
http://www.overstock.com/Jewelry-Wat...tml?rcmndsrc=4

 

[IndyColtsFan]

Like I said, that is my opinion on the matter.

You spend a lot of money on the engagement ring, the relationship falls apart, and you just lost all that money. She walks away with a good bit of change only to pawn the ring at a local pawn shop, or sell it on ebay, no thank you.

My opinion, if she wants an expensive ring, she has to make a commitment to the relationship. In other words, she gets the expensive ring when we get married, and that way the ring is community property.

IIRC, the engagement ring is considered the man's property until the actual wedding takes place in some states. I believe there was a lawsuit in Pennsylvania (IIRC) where a girl broke it off but tried to keep the ring and the guy sued her and won.

Really, though, if the girl has any amount of class at all, she'd return the engagement ring if the engagement is off and no lawsuit should be necessary.

 

[mikeymikec]

My wife and I went for a couple of silver engagement rings which cost about 12 quid each The wedding rings were more expensive but we both prefer the silver ones.

 

[Texashiker]

She's supposed to wear the wedding band AND engagement ring after the wedding. They're worn on the same finger...wedding band on the inside, engagement ring on the outside.

After our one year anniversary, my wife had her engagement ring and wedding made into a set.

you are just full of odd ideas aren't you?

I have been thinking about your comment, and have come to this conclusion.

The only thing I find odd, is that people live their lives under the rules set by others. The relationship my wife and I have is between us and nobody else. Why should we even consider what other people say about our rings, or anything else?

Just because society says we should do something a certain way, does not mean we have to do it. Honestly, I do not care what society says, I will live my life the way I want to.

I am not trying to be rude, I just think too much focus is put on what people are "supposed" to do, instead of what they want to do.

 

[purbeast0]

Like I said, that is my opinion on the matter.

You spend a lot of money on the engagement ring, the relationship falls apart, and you just lost all that money. She walks away with a good bit of change only to pawn the ring at a local pawn shop, or sell it on ebay, no thank you.

My opinion, if she wants an expensive ring, she has to make a commitment to the relationship. In other words, she gets the expensive ring when we get married, and that way the ring is community property.

a marriage can fall apart just as an engagement can.

all of your posts in this thread make no sense, sorry.

 

[thegimp03]

Hahahaha.....might as well go to Tiffanys in that case.

Heh, that's what I was going to say. A woman's infinity wedding band (princess cut diamonds all around set in platinum) at Tiffany costs ~$5k last time I checked.

As for the OP, I wouldn't bother with Craigslist. I'd go to a reputable online retailer like BlueNile. A friend of mine went with them and he was very pleased.

 

[lokiju]

Bluenile

I've heard a lot of recommendations for this place.

Some female poster here actually used to suggest it. She was married to another member. They used to post pics from their cruise....

Hmmm, wtf was their names?

Anyway, that seems to be the place online to use.

 

[seepy83]

Lots of people recommend Blue Nile, but my opinion is that their prices for diamonds really don't blow anyone else out of the water, and (depending on your taste) their bands leave a lot to be desired.

 

[Schfifty Five]

My opinion,

Engagement ring = one weeks salary

Wedding ring = one months salary

Do you make $700 - $1,000 a week? If so, that should be fine for an engagement ring.

I dont care what style you look at, as long as it has a single diamond in it. I think multiple diamonds should be reserved for wedding rings.

You got it backwards.

 

[evident]

+1 for blue nile. I got my fiance an extremely nice setting from there. We used a stone from her grandmother's engagement ring, which was a little less than 1ct. It was a very nice touch i think.

maybe in the future we'll upgrade, but she's happy, and im happy it didn't cost $15000+ like what society tells us

 

[Texashiker]

You got it backwards.

No I do not have it backwards, society has it backwards.

This is my life, I will live it the way I decide to, and not the way society tells me I should live it.

 

[torpid]

Sounds good to me.

The relationship should not be based off of how much money I spend on her.

If she gauges the relationship on the amount of money spend on her rings, she needs to head on down the road.

That's not what you wrote. What you wrote is that you are willing to spend more money only once you are legally married. That is completely different than not gauging a relationship based off of money. In fact, what you advocate is spending money based on how you gauge your relationship's stability. I would argue that is equally bad.

The whole point of an engagement ring is a commitment to someone. If you are making such a gesture then you shouldn't include in your thoughts or speech the fact that you could back out and therefore should spend less. That's basically hedging your bets and/or refusing to actually make the actual gesture intended.