Originally posted by: Xavier434
Originally posted by: loki8481
it seems as if there's a presumption as if people with kids time is more valuable with the childless. it's always annoyed me, as if just because it's illegal for me to adopt a kid, I somehow don't find it important to spend time with my own make-shift family.
You are slightly off track, but close. It usually isn't that your time is less valuable. It is that the free time that the parents have to spend with their kids and themselves is far less than those without kids.
This is particularly true with young kids. A lot of people without children look at parents and think that they just go home every night and are spending good time with their kids. This is often misleading. What is more accurate is that parents need to rush to make it to the daycare before it closes, go home and start dinner, eat dinner (kids eat very slow sometimes), make sure the kid gets bathed and brushes his teeth, deal with regular picking up cleaning that needs to happen since kids are generally messy, and then there is the other "random factor" where something does not go according to plan and needs your time. On top of all that, assuming you get home between 5:00-6:00PM, you need to get all of this done before the kid's bedtime. Mine is 4 years old and his bed time is 8:30. So, I need to get all that stuff done within 3.5 - 2.5 hours and try my hardest to squeeze in some quality time where I can actually spend time talking and playing with him.
...and we haven't even begun to talk about doctor's appointments and random errands to do whatever during the week. The list goes on and on and the time adds up to a lot leaving very little free time. Everyone's story is different.
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