Do you like being single?

DaShen

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I personally, like the freedom of not being tied down. I haven't found any girl that I am compatible with so far (partly my fault because I am not actively looking).

I am 25 right now, and it seems a growing number of my peers are getting married.

It is funny because half of my friends are trying to set me up with a few different people, but I enjoy having the free time after work to do my own thing. A few of the girls, I know, and have hung out with them before, but they are just not my type. To just feel like doing something and going out there and doing it is great BTW. Suppose I want to go out for a late bike ride, I don't have to check up with anyone, I can just do it. Or if I want to go to Miller Outdoor Theatre, the park, or the museums, I just call a few friends and go. No hassles. Or if I want to play ball, I just go play, and not have to worry about time or having someone scold me for getting bruised or hurt.

The only thing that slightly worries me is if I end up 36 and all alone because all of my friends are married and I don't have anyone my age I can relate to or hang out with without getting the head tilt and nod. That would be scary because I know a guy that is that age and still single and it is scary to see how hard he tries.

I don't know my philosophy is if it happens and something clicks, it happens. No big deal. It just doesn't happen for me often because I don't get get pulled by emotions too often when it comes to that sort of thing. The last time it happened for me was 2 years ago, and she said no (apparently she was going out with someone I knew from another university <small world> ).

Oh well, I am just interested in the dynamics of ATOT. My hypothesis is that 60% will be single, of that single group 30% of that group (18% of the whole) will be in the same category as me.

Then most people will follow the bell curve around 23-24 years of age.
 

pontifex

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where's the in between poll?

i'm single and have been forever.

while i do enjoy the freedom and stuff like that, i do wish i had someone to share stuff with and someone that cared about me.

i feel the way you do in your post for the most part.

one thing i'm afraid of is that i don't show emotions very well and have a hard time relating to people. all the people i know or sort of hang out with are about 5 years or more older than me and most are married.

i'm not sure how i could be with someone on that kind of level or why someone would want to be with me. i don't feel i really have anything to offer anyone. :(
 

mzkhadir

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Instead of worrying about what the next female will think of you, just join the hordes of people marrying and stay with one that thinks you are god.
 

Descartes

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25, still single, mostly love it. I'm very busy, have a lot of interests, and have no interest in casual relationships. The freedom is great of course, but I'll probably change my mind when I hit 30. We'll see.
 
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There's something to be said about daily (sometimes twice and thrice daily) sex.

I did enjoy single life, but I enjoy being with a woman even more.
 

DaShen

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Originally posted by: pontifex
where's the in between poll?

i'm single and have been forever.

while i do enjoy the freedom and stuff like that, i do wish i had someone to share stuff with and someone that cared about me.

I agree with that. I will add it to the poll.

**EDIT**

Actually, let's leave it the same.

YOu have to choose whether you like it more or hate it more. No in betweens because that is indecisive.
 

Forsythe

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Commitment sucks. Most people just end up pissing me off and i'm tired of playing a game with them. I love being single. I hate not getting sex every evening.
 

loic2003

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Essentially you give up your freedom for regular sex. Tough call. I like being single, but waking up with a hot chick next to you is also good. I keep myself busy and have little spare time, but maybe I'd find time if I found this magical woman who was everything I ever wanted in someone...

Personally, I'm in the mindset that I'll never get married: since I'm supposedly in complete love with this person, why should I be bound by contract to remain with this woman? Plus if you both have the option of dropping everythign and bailing at any moment, you both have to keep your game up and can't just relax/get fat/lazy.

YMMV
 

DaShen

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Originally posted by: MisterJackson
There's something to be said about daily (sometitwice and thrice daily) sex.

OH SNAP :Q.... You da man, MisterJackson. epenis++ ;) :p
 

miri

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Originally posted by: DaShen
Suppose I want to go out for a late bike ride, I don't have to check up with anyone, I can just do it. Or if I want to go to Miller Outdoor Theatre, the park, or the museums, I just call a few friends and go. No hassles. Or if I want to play ball, I just go play, and not have to worry about time or having someone scold me for getting bruised or hurt.

Having a wife does not mean she will treat you like your mom when you were a kid. I can go out and do whatever I want and dont have to check in.

 

DaShen

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Originally posted by: miri
Suppose I want to go out for a late bike ride, I don't have to check up with anyone, I can just do it. Or if I want to go to Miller Outdoor Theatre, the park, or the museums, I just call a few friends and go. No hassles. Or if I want to play ball, I just go play, and not have to worry about time or having someone scold me for getting bruised or hurt.

Having a wife does not mean she will treat you like your mom when you were a kid. I can go out and do whatever I want and dont have to check in.

Do you have to call her and tell her where you are? What if she doesn't approve and wants you to do something else, like mow the lawn or go out with her and some of your married friends?

**EDIT**
What if it too late and she is getting ready for bed, and she doens;t want you going out getting all sweaty and making a racket in the house coming back? Those are a lot of things you need to deal with with a wife that you don't have to deal with single.
 

pontifex

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Originally posted by: DaShen
Originally posted by: pontifex
where's the in between poll?

i'm single and have been forever.

while i do enjoy the freedom and stuff like that, i do wish i had someone to share stuff with and someone that cared about me.

I agree with that. I will add it to the poll.

**EDIT**

Actually, let's leave it the same.

YOu have to choose whether you like it more or hate it more. No in betweens because that is indecisive.

but how can one choose when you've only known 1 way? do you choose the only way you've ever known? doesn't that kind of skew the results?
 

mike2fix

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Originally posted by: pontifex
while i do enjoy the freedom and stuff like that, i do wish i had someone to share stuff with and someone that cared about me.


Get a dog.....they don't get child support or alimony. ;)

 

pontifex

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Originally posted by: mike2fix
Originally posted by: pontifex
while i do enjoy the freedom and stuff like that, i do wish i had someone to share stuff with and someone that cared about me.


Get a dog.....they don't get child support or alimony. ;)

not even close to being the same thing. plus i'm not having sex with a dog
 

DaShen

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Originally posted by: pontifex
Originally posted by: DaShen
Originally posted by: pontifex
where's the in between poll?

i'm single and have been forever.

while i do enjoy the freedom and stuff like that, i do wish i had someone to share stuff with and someone that cared about me.

I agree with that. I will add it to the poll.

**EDIT**

Actually, let's leave it the same.

YOu have to choose whether you like it more or hate it more. No in betweens because that is indecisive.

but how can one choose when you've only known 1 way? do you choose the only way you've ever known? doesn't that kind of skew the results?

Nope, it makes you decisive. I have never been in a long term relationship with anyone. I have gone out on a few dates (not many), and I hang out with girl friends (I used to work in an environment where there were only girls so that was an eye opener). Girls have been interested in me, I have been interested in a few girls. Not many of the girls that were interested in me, I saw myself being in a long term relationship with although they were all cool people, so I just treated them as friends and didn't pursue the matter (I made sure not to lead them a long just treat them with respect). I am mostly a guys-guy though. I am in the same boat as you, except that I know that I enjoy singlehood a little more right at this moment than a relationship.
 

miri

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Originally posted by: DaShen
Do you have to call her and tell her where you are? What if she doesn't approve and wants you to do something else, like mow the lawn or go out with her and some of your married friends?

No, I dont have to call her and tell her where I am. I dont have to get approval to go out. I live in a apartment and dont have to mow a lawn. I can do housework at my leisure, like laundry and dishes, unless there are friends coming over, then ill help clean.

Originally posted by: DaShen

**EDIT**
What if it too late and she is getting ready for bed, and she doens;t want you going out getting all sweaty and making a racket in the house coming back? Those are a lot of things you need to deal with with a wife that you don't have to deal with single.

My wife doesnt care if I come home late. She actually encourages me to go out with my friends. It all depends on the person, not everyone is controlling.

 

mzkhadir

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Originally posted by: miri
Originally posted by: DaShen
Do you have to call her and tell her where you are? What if she doesn't approve and wants you to do something else, like mow the lawn or go out with her and some of your married friends?

No, I dont have to call her and tell her where I am. I dont have to get approval to go out. I live in a apartment and dont have to mow a lawn. I can do housework at my leisure, like laundry and dishes, unless there are friends coming over, then ill help clean.

Originally posted by: DaShen

**EDIT**
What if it too late and she is getting ready for bed, and she doens;t want you going out getting all sweaty and making a racket in the house coming back? Those are a lot of things you need to deal with with a wife that you don't have to deal with single.

My wife doesnt care if I come home late. It all depends on the person, not everyone is controlling.


same here. My wife doesn't care if I am late, she justs wants to know when I will be home.
 
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Originally posted by: DaShen
Originally posted by: MisterJackson
There's something to be said about daily (sometitwice and thrice daily) sex.

OH SNAP :Q.... You da man, MisterJackson. epenis++ ;) :p



Man, you just wouldn't believe me if I told you (but I will anyway ;)).

this girl I'm with now said I can have it WHENEVER I want, WHENEVER. I said "What about if you're asleep?"....she said "Have at it, I don't mind."! I said "Should I wake you first?", she said "No, just go ahead, it'll wake me up.".

She claims she's always been a straight good girl but that I do something to her. Who knows, I'm enjoying it while it lasts!

I have trouble keeping up with her. I'M the one who says "I'm tired" or "I'm not in the mood" (only if 24, Lost, The Sheild, or House are on), but she usually talks me into it anyway. She says I can watch TV while she takes care of things. I can't argue with that.

So yes DaShen, I smack you and all others in the face with my huge e-penis!!!! BWUHAHAHAH!

:D
 

pontifex

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Originally posted by: DaShen
Originally posted by: pontifex
Originally posted by: DaShen
Originally posted by: pontifex
where's the in between poll?

i'm single and have been forever.

while i do enjoy the freedom and stuff like that, i do wish i had someone to share stuff with and someone that cared about me.

I agree with that. I will add it to the poll.

**EDIT**

Actually, let's leave it the same.

YOu have to choose whether you like it more or hate it more. No in betweens because that is indecisive.

but how can one choose when you've only known 1 way? do you choose the only way you've ever known? doesn't that kind of skew the results?

Nope, it makes you decisive. I have never been in a long term relationship with anyone. I have gone out on a few dates (not many), and I hang out with girl friends (I used to work in an environment where there were only girls so that was an eye opener). Girls have been interested in me, I have been interested in a few girls. Not many of the girls that were interested in me, I saw myself being in a long term relationship with although they were all cool people, so I just treated them as friends and didn't pursue the matter (I made sure not to lead them a long just treat them with respect). I am mostly a guys-guy though. I am in the same boat as you, except that I know that I enjoy singlehood a little more right at this moment than a relationship.

i had to vote no then, because i want to experience it
 

pclstyle

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Originally posted by: miri
Originally posted by: DaShen
Do you have to call her and tell her where you are? What if she doesn't approve and wants you to do something else, like mow the lawn or go out with her and some of your married friends?

No, I dont have to call her and tell her where I am. I dont have to get approval to go out. I live in a apartment and dont have to mow a lawn. I can do housework at my leisure, like laundry and dishes, unless there are friends coming over, then ill help clean.

Originally posted by: DaShen

**EDIT**
What if it too late and she is getting ready for bed, and she doens;t want you going out getting all sweaty and making a racket in the house coming back? Those are a lot of things you need to deal with with a wife that you don't have to deal with single.

My wife doesnt care if I come home late. She actually encourages me to go out with my friends. It all depends on the person, not everyone is controlling.

man, you are gonna be blindsided so bad...


It's always the "I thought you didn't care what i do" that goes hand in hand with the tears and the divorce papers.


Not speaking from experience, just from my ass.
 

pclstyle

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Originally posted by: MisterJackson
Originally posted by: DaShen
Originally posted by: MisterJackson
There's something to be said about daily (sometitwice and thrice daily) sex.

OH SNAP :Q.... You da man, MisterJackson. epenis++ ;) :p



Man, you just wouldn't believe me if I told you (but I will anyway ;)).

this girl I'm with now said I can have it WHENEVER I want, WHENEVER. I said "What about if you're asleep?"....she said "Have at it, I don't mind."! I said "Should I wake you first?", she said "No, just go ahead, it'll wake me up.".

I have trouble keeping up with her. I'M the one who says "I'm tired" or "I'm not in the mood" (only if 24, Lost, The Sheild, or House are on), but she usually talks me into it anyway. She says I can watch TV while she takes care of things. I can't argue with that.

So yes DaShen, I smack you and all others in the face with my huge e-penis!!!! BWUHAHAHAH!

:D

cialis, brother.

don't let the woman go telling her friends you're a big pansy.
 

DaShen

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Originally posted by: Krazy4Real
There's nothing wrong with commitment when you find the right girl.

I agree, but I haven't found that girl, yet. My friends keep trying to set me up. One of the girls, is a teacher (which is a + plus), but I have hung out with her and known her before, and she is a little high maintenance, and slightly stuck up. Overall a really cool person, to people she likes, but one of the qualities I greatly admire in people is when they treat people with an equal amount of respect (i.e. nice to everyone to at least a reasonable degree).

There are a few other ones (two others, but I would rather not say, because both are off limits for a few different reasons). Both are very cool people, and if it wasn't for those reasons, I would totally pursue it. But those reasons are deal breakers.