Do you like being single?

[J Heartless Slick]

I find being single and living alone to be easier and more peaceful than being in a long term monogamous relationship.

Anyone who marries for sex is in for a frustrating and disapointing life.

 

[DaShen]

Originally posted by: GeneValgene
but just remember...if you analyze a situation/person too much, you will always find negatives or faults- no such thing as the perfect girl. just be sure of the most important things you want, and take a risk. you may be surprised

Yeah, I agree. I tend to think too much.

But it sucks when I am hanging out with friends and one of the people (guy/girl) take a holier than thou, "I know what G-d wants", "Pat Robertson" attitude about something. It totally takes away a lot of the respect I have for that individual. I see it so often, it makes me want to scream bloody murder sometimes.

I knew a guy that said NOLA was beign punished for being sinful, and a girl agreed with him. I wanted to storm out right then and there, but it was at a birthday party of a guy that I really admire and respect. And they are the same types that judge you by the little that they know instead of rebuking or just being there to help out. The same guy who said that comment comments on a lot of stuff making it seem like he is living the perfect life. Girls I know that are so judgemental yet somehow so active in the church. People that judge you for not being a "good" Christian because you keep what you do for G-d and for your own personal dignity out of the limelight. I realize taht I am judging them on the same aspect, but it is really irritating that these are the people that are considered strong "Christians".

I do know a few people who are strong Christians and active in the church. One even came up to me to rebuke me on a few things, but I totally respect him for it because he did it out of concern and not out of judgement.

Knowing that a girl I want to be in a relationship with needs to be Christian, and then seeing the huge influx of hyporcritical Christians out there has almost got me to swear off relationships altogether. That is a main part of why I am not looking right now. It seems the American view of Christianity (fundies and conservatism), has attracted a group of people that always need to be in control and are hyper religious zealots who think they have the right to judge people (which is totally un-Christian). Makes me sick to my stomach.

**EDIT**
BTW, the guy I respected that rebuked me wanted me to become more active in the church again, but everytime I go to church and see some of those people, I get a little angry about the situation. And no, I am not going to church hop. Unless totally neccessary because these type of people are everywhere regardless, and I know part of it is just because of myself.

 

[thirdlegstump]

When I'm single, I wish I weren't. When I'm attached, I wish I weren't. Catch -22

 

[Savarak]

wow, exactly 60% of us are single... at least as of this post... good call

 

[DaShen]

Originally posted by: deathkoba
When I'm single, I wish I weren't. When I'm attached, I wish I weren't. Catch -22

Grass is always greener...

 

[Fingolfin269]

Pretty much all of my friends are/were married. The majority of them are now divorced so I decided that random hookups are a lot better than any relationship that may lead to marriage. 'Dating' still means you are single if you date multiple people so...

Plus there is the fact that I can do whatever, whoever, whenever I want.

 

[DaShen]

Originally posted by: Fingolfin269
Pretty much all of my friends are/were married. The majority of them are now divorced so I decided that random hookups are a lot better than any relationship that may lead to marriage. 'Dating' still means you are single if you date multiple people so...

Plus there is the fact that I can do whatever, whoever, whenever I want.

Casual dating FTW.

I am not much of a casual dater though. Although I probably should be. It just isn't in my personality to consider going out with a girl one-on-one unless I am really attracted to them (Not just physically). I am sure I miss out, as some of my friends have said.

Plus with my one stipulation in dating someone, it makes it much more difficult to casually date without knowing the person first.

 

[GeneValgene]

Originally posted by: DaShen

Originally posted by: deathkoba
When I'm single, I wish I weren't. When I'm attached, I wish I weren't. Catch -22

Grass is always greener...

yep

 

[SynthDude2001]

Do you like being single?

I suppose I enjoy some aspects of it, but overall - no, not really at all. I haven't exactly been looking for a relationship lately though...I really need to work on myself (losing weight) first, otherwise the looking part will be pointless.

 

[MisterJackson]

Originally posted by: GeneValgene

Originally posted by: DaShen

Originally posted by: deathkoba
When I'm single, I wish I weren't. When I'm attached, I wish I weren't. Catch -22

Grass is always greener...

yep

Wow, I thought I was the only one who felt this way. There isn't something wrong with just me then (at least not in that respect). I have brothers in this dilemma!

 

[Phlargo]

Originally posted by: mike2fix

Originally posted by: pontifex
while i do enjoy the freedom and stuff like that, i do wish i had someone to share stuff with and someone that cared about me.

Get a dog.....they don't get child support or alimony.

I guess you should also mention...they don't get pregnant ;-)

In all seriousness, having had periods with long term, short term and no relationships, I find I feel most free when I'm alone - it's my life and I can enjoy it exactly how I like. If someone comes along, I'm glad to have them, but if I get to be alone, I won't complain.

Going out to dinner alone is fun. Movies alone are just as fun. It's great to have friends.. and friends with benefits to enjoy when you want them, but they are always a bonus, not a requirement.

 

[keeleysam]

Single for now

 

[dug777]

Love living with my gf

i'm a real people person, get blue when i'm home alone...

 

[DaShen]

Originally posted by: Phlargo
In all seriousness, having had periods with long term, short term and no relationships, I find I feel most free when I'm alone - it's my life and I can enjoy it exactly how I like. If someone comes along, I'm glad to have them, but if I get to be alone, I won't complain.

Going out to dinner alone is fun. Movies alone are just as fun. It's great to have friends..

I don't like eating alone, when I am going out to eat. But movies are fun by yourself.

I love being home alone. It gives me time to rest and relax, and read.

 

[SynthDude2001]

Originally posted by: dug777
Love living with my gf

i'm a real people person, get blue when i'm home alone...

So would you say that you turn into a blue crab when you're alone?

 

[dug777]

Originally posted by: SynthDude2001

Originally posted by: dug777
Love living with my gf

i'm a real people person, get blue when i'm home alone...

So would you say that you turn into a blue crab when you're alone?

I'm naturally blue, the avatar is of a cooked crab

 

[GeneValgene]

Originally posted by: MisterJackson

Originally posted by: GeneValgene

Originally posted by: DaShen

Originally posted by: deathkoba
When I'm single, I wish I weren't. When I'm attached, I wish I weren't. Catch -22

Grass is always greener...

yep

Wow, I thought I was the only one who felt this way. There isn't something wrong with just me then (at least not in that respect). I have brothers in this dilemma!

human nature to always want what you dont' have. like, when a girl likes you, but you don't like her the same way. then, next thing you know she starts dating someone else, and then you want her

 

[DaShen]

Originally posted by: GeneValgene
human nature to always want what you dont' have. like, when a girl likes you, but you don't like her the same way. then, next thing you know she starts dating someone else, and then you want her

I deal with the first part every once in a while. Where a girl likes me and I don't like them back. The second part happens for a second then it goes away because it was a choice I made.