Do you like being single?

[rgwalt]

Both freedome and companionship are nice... However, you don't have to choose one or the other in all cases. Find the right girl, and you will have both (though your freedom will obviously be limited by the parameters of the relationship.

GL!

R

 

[Jikininki]

Originally posted by: crownjules

Originally posted by: Jikininki
I am 22. I'm in a serious relationship that's very quickly heading down the toilet. But we've decided to hold on and keep trying anyway which is probably a REALLY bad idea.

I don't think I'm fit to be single. If I was allowed to go out to clubs and bars more (parents are too strict) I might enjoy being single. But at the same time I'm the type of person who enjoys sitting at home cuddling on the couch watching tv with my s.o and not doing anything else. So I guess I wouldn't like being single.

Whooooah, back the truck up Frank. You're 22 and your parents tell you that you can't go to bars/clubs? Tell them to fcuk off. I mean, as long as your curteous about coming in quietly and not disturbing them at late hours then they shouldn't be telling you at this point in your life what you can and can't do. You are basically your own man at 18, very much so at 21.

lol..maybe it'd be easier for me if i was a man. But i know I'm not the only person out there with parents like this. It's just part of being in a traditional (aka. backwards) household where girls are supposed to stay home and take care of the parents and be polite and sweet and chaste and boys go out and work and come and go as they please. Basically, my dad just worries too much so he thinks it's better to keep me locked up at home than to risk me going out and possibly die in a car accident or get raped in a dark alley. blah blah blah.

 

[Illusions89]

well im only 16 but i like being single more then being in a relationship
More time with my friends.....

 

[GeneValgene]

Originally posted by: Jikininki
I am 22. I'm in a serious relationship that's very quickly heading down the toilet. But we've decided to hold on and keep trying anyway which is probably a REALLY bad idea.

I don't think I'm fit to be single. If I was allowed to go out to clubs and bars more (parents are too strict) I might enjoy being single. But at the same time I'm the type of person who enjoys sitting at home cuddling on the couch watching tv with my s.o and not doing anything else. So I guess I wouldn't like being single.

if you think it's a bad idea to keep trying...you need to let him know that

less heart ache down the road for both of you

 

[Martin]

22 and single. I don't mind it, but it does get lonely sometimes. Hanging out with friends and such is cool, but they can't quite compensate for a nice girl, you know?

I totally understand why you'd want to avoid getting serious with someone who is a control freak, but being in a relationship doesn't have to be that way. I stay far away from those kinds of people, be they female or male...

 

[torpid]

Originally posted by: Jikininki

Originally posted by: crownjules

Originally posted by: Jikininki
I am 22. I'm in a serious relationship that's very quickly heading down the toilet. But we've decided to hold on and keep trying anyway which is probably a REALLY bad idea.

I don't think I'm fit to be single. If I was allowed to go out to clubs and bars more (parents are too strict) I might enjoy being single. But at the same time I'm the type of person who enjoys sitting at home cuddling on the couch watching tv with my s.o and not doing anything else. So I guess I wouldn't like being single.

Whooooah, back the truck up Frank. You're 22 and your parents tell you that you can't go to bars/clubs? Tell them to fcuk off. I mean, as long as your curteous about coming in quietly and not disturbing them at late hours then they shouldn't be telling you at this point in your life what you can and can't do. You are basically your own man at 18, very much so at 21.

lol..maybe it'd be easier for me if i was a man. But i know I'm not the only person out there with parents like this. It's just part of being in a traditional (aka. backwards) household where girls are supposed to stay home and take care of the parents and be polite and sweet and chaste and boys go out and work and come and go as they please. Basically, my dad just worries too much so he thinks it's better to keep me locked up at home than to risk me going out and possibly die in a car accident or get raped in a dark alley. blah blah blah.

Put the fear into them, then they will ease up. Do something like disappear for 2 days and then say you hit your head and had amnesia. They will have been so worried about you that they will let you get away with stuff. This is assuming that real life works like it does in movies/sitcoms. I think that's a fair assumption.

 

[GeneValgene]

Originally posted by: torpid

Originally posted by: Jikininki

Originally posted by: crownjules

Originally posted by: Jikininki
I am 22. I'm in a serious relationship that's very quickly heading down the toilet. But we've decided to hold on and keep trying anyway which is probably a REALLY bad idea.

I don't think I'm fit to be single. If I was allowed to go out to clubs and bars more (parents are too strict) I might enjoy being single. But at the same time I'm the type of person who enjoys sitting at home cuddling on the couch watching tv with my s.o and not doing anything else. So I guess I wouldn't like being single.

Whooooah, back the truck up Frank. You're 22 and your parents tell you that you can't go to bars/clubs? Tell them to fcuk off. I mean, as long as your curteous about coming in quietly and not disturbing them at late hours then they shouldn't be telling you at this point in your life what you can and can't do. You are basically your own man at 18, very much so at 21.

lol..maybe it'd be easier for me if i was a man. But i know I'm not the only person out there with parents like this. It's just part of being in a traditional (aka. backwards) household where girls are supposed to stay home and take care of the parents and be polite and sweet and chaste and boys go out and work and come and go as they please. Basically, my dad just worries too much so he thinks it's better to keep me locked up at home than to risk me going out and possibly die in a car accident or get raped in a dark alley. blah blah blah.

Put the fear into them, then they will ease up. Do something like disappear for 2 days and then say you hit your head and had amnesia. They will have been so worried about you that they will let you get away with stuff. This is assuming that real life works like it does in movies/sitcoms. I think that's a fair assumption.

lol

 

[NaOH]

Four years and still going for me at the age of 21. Overall I'm happy with the relationship. It's nice to have someone there for you to share things with. I just hope things don't go sour down the line when she goes to the east coast for med school. She doesn't want to get married until we are 30 (When she gets some ground in her dentist work) =X. We'll see about that..... =)

I sometimes thing I maybe missing out having a gf through college you know? But I bet if I were to look back at two lives, one being single through college and messing around with girls and the other being with my current gf, I will always most likely choose to be with my gf.

 

[crownjules]

Originally posted by: Jikininki

Originally posted by: crownjules

Originally posted by: Jikininki
I am 22. I'm in a serious relationship that's very quickly heading down the toilet. But we've decided to hold on and keep trying anyway which is probably a REALLY bad idea.

I don't think I'm fit to be single. If I was allowed to go out to clubs and bars more (parents are too strict) I might enjoy being single. But at the same time I'm the type of person who enjoys sitting at home cuddling on the couch watching tv with my s.o and not doing anything else. So I guess I wouldn't like being single.

Whooooah, back the truck up Frank. You're 22 and your parents tell you that you can't go to bars/clubs? Tell them to fcuk off. I mean, as long as your curteous about coming in quietly and not disturbing them at late hours then they shouldn't be telling you at this point in your life what you can and can't do. You are basically your own man at 18, very much so at 21.

lol..maybe it'd be easier for me if i was a man. But i know I'm not the only person out there with parents like this. It's just part of being in a traditional (aka. backwards) household where girls are supposed to stay home and take care of the parents and be polite and sweet and chaste and boys go out and work and come and go as they please. Basically, my dad just worries too much so he thinks it's better to keep me locked up at home than to risk me going out and possibly die in a car accident or get raped in a dark alley. blah blah blah.

Heh, whoops. Edited my post to reflect the proper gender. Same applies. We don't live in the 50s anymore.

 

[DaShen]

Originally posted by: torpid
DaShen, you should reword your poll to reflect what you are saying. You appear to be asking, would you rather be single or in an unfulfilling relationship? That seems to be what you are asking based on your posts. You say you haven't found a person you'd want to be in a relationship long term with, well neither have I, but that doesn't mean I don't want to find such a person and get into a long term relationship. Based on relationships I've had, I'd rather have been single because the match was not right.

There may be some people who would rather be in an unfulfilling relationship than single, because they like the daily life and whatever else.

But the thing is that I am not actively looking for a relationship. There is the key difference. I know some people who are single and enjoy it, but they are actively looking to date someone. I want a good relationship with someone, but I figure if it happens, it happens. I am not the type of person who will be interested enough in a person just for looks to ask them out, I would rather know them first. So when I find a girl that I have met that I notice who treats everyone with respect, doesn't use Christianity as a weapon (live in the Bible Belt. :roll: I am all for witnessing and such, but I hate the"Pat Robertson" type ), isn't controlling (I haven't found many of these), and overall a decent human being, that I notice, I will attempt to not be single anymore. I found a few girls like that in college, but I had terrible timing, and I thought about it too much (took a too analytical approach). If I wanted to be in a relationship, half the girls I know would have already been asked out by me since I try to surround myself with decent, cool people, but it just doesn't click, or when it does, off-limits.

2 girls off-limits for me is my best friend's sister (not Christian and again, my best friend's sister, HECK NO), and my boss' daughter (Christian, great girl, pretty... <even my boss expressed that her daughter was available>, but HECK NO for reasons apparent)

 

[NaOH]

Originally posted by: crownjules

Originally posted by: MisterJackson

Trust me, if you had what I had you'd be making a THREAD about it knowing you.

I will brag a bit because I've had steady relationships in the past, but nothing like this. I hit the jackpot, I got lucky dude. I'm trying to let the single guys here know there are good women out there for them, that's all.

Miracles do happen!

Well I hope it lasts buddy. I was in a similar relationship and it fizzled out quickly. You know the saying, "the brighest flame burns quickest." Sex is great and all, but if that's the first thing that comes to mind when you think of your relationship then it doesn't sound like your in for the right reasons.

I've been single for the majority of my dating life, a few brief flutters of the heart here and there, but nothing that ever stayed serious for long. I was fine with that. Just never found the right girl. But four months with my current girlfriend and I am very happy. We strike the right balance. We don't smother each other and realize we have lives of our own, but enjoy every moment together. I can't begin to describe it, but it just is there. Hard to believe that a girl I talked to for all of five to ten or so minutes at a New Years Eve party could become so much a part of my life.

Who knows, it will probably fizzle out but if he keeps her... =O

 

[GeneValgene]

Originally posted by: DaShen

Originally posted by: torpid
DaShen, you should reword your poll to reflect what you are saying. You appear to be asking, would you rather be single or in an unfulfilling relationship? That seems to be what you are asking based on your posts. You say you haven't found a person you'd want to be in a relationship long term with, well neither have I, but that doesn't mean I don't want to find such a person and get into a long term relationship. Based on relationships I've had, I'd rather have been single because the match was not right.

There may be some people who would rather be in an unfulfilling relationship than single, because they like the daily life and whatever else.

But the thing is that I am not actively looking for a relationship. There is the key difference. I know some people who are single and enjoy it, but they are actively looking to date someone. I want a good relationship with someone, but I figure if it happens, it happens. I am not the type of person who will be interested enough in a person just for looks to ask them out, I would rather know them first. So when I find a girl that I have met that I notice who treats everyone with respect, doesn't use Christianity as a weapon (live in the Bible Belt. :roll: I am all for witnessing and such, but I hate the"Pat Robertson" type ), isn't controlling (I haven't found many of these), and overall a decent human being, that I notice, I will attempt to not be single anymore. I found a few girls like that in college, but I had terrible timing, and I thought about it too much (took a too analytical approach). If I wanted to be in a relationship, half the girls I know would have already been asked out by me since I try to surround myself with decent, cool people, but it just doesn't click, or when it does, off-limits.

2 girls off-limits for me is my best friend's sister (not Christian and again, my best friend's sister, HECK NO), and my boss' daughter (Christian, great girl, pretty... <even my boss expressed that her daughter was available>, but HECK NO for reasons apparent)

take a risk man!! i say go for it...nothing wrong with best friend's sister...in fact, he can put in a good word for you

 

[DaShen]

Originally posted by: GeneValgene

Originally posted by: DaShen

Originally posted by: DPmaster
Definitely hold on to her then. I've got a cousin that can't even rent movies unless his wife lets him. He's definitely whipped. I've seen marriages like that and to me, that sucks.

I have seen the same thing. My sister is that way. <shudders> She is so controlling it is ridiculous. The sad thing is, she doesn't even see it.

hahaha this totally reminds me of this pablo francisco bit

pablo on crazy women

She isn't crazy. She is actually pretty reasonable, and such, but she always, and I mean always, has to be in control. But she is a very nice person. I mean, she is my sister, and cool, but sometimes I feel she needs to take a chill pill.

 

[DaShen]

Originally posted by: Jikininki
lol..maybe it'd be easier for me if i was a man. But i know I'm not the only person out there with parents like this. It's just part of being in a traditional (aka. backwards) household where girls are supposed to stay home and take care of the parents and be polite and sweet and chaste and boys go out and work and come and go as they please. Basically, my dad just worries too much so he thinks it's better to keep me locked up at home than to risk me going out and possibly die in a car accident or get raped in a dark alley. blah blah blah.

I will probably be an overprotective parent, myself. Sucks, but maybe it is time to move out.

"So, Bill, while you are waiting on my daughter, you want to talk, I want to show you my gun collection."

 

[Jikininki]

Originally posted by: crownjules

Originally posted by: Jikininki

Originally posted by: crownjules

Originally posted by: Jikininki
I am 22. I'm in a serious relationship that's very quickly heading down the toilet. But we've decided to hold on and keep trying anyway which is probably a REALLY bad idea.

I don't think I'm fit to be single. If I was allowed to go out to clubs and bars more (parents are too strict) I might enjoy being single. But at the same time I'm the type of person who enjoys sitting at home cuddling on the couch watching tv with my s.o and not doing anything else. So I guess I wouldn't like being single.

Whooooah, back the truck up Frank. You're 22 and your parents tell you that you can't go to bars/clubs? Tell them to fcuk off. I mean, as long as your curteous about coming in quietly and not disturbing them at late hours then they shouldn't be telling you at this point in your life what you can and can't do. You are basically your own man at 18, very much so at 21.

lol..maybe it'd be easier for me if i was a man. But i know I'm not the only person out there with parents like this. It's just part of being in a traditional (aka. backwards) household where girls are supposed to stay home and take care of the parents and be polite and sweet and chaste and boys go out and work and come and go as they please. Basically, my dad just worries too much so he thinks it's better to keep me locked up at home than to risk me going out and possibly die in a car accident or get raped in a dark alley. blah blah blah.

Heh, whoops. Edited my post to reflect the proper gender. Same applies. We don't live in the 50s anymore.

yea..well my dad lives in his own decade. the really sad part though..I just can't bring myself to defy him. I was raised to do as I'm told..and by now both parents have instilled enough fear in me (of THEM) that I'd rather just suffer their strictness and not cause a problem in the family.

At least I'm allowed to HAVE a bf..and to have a job. So I'm out of the house enough that I can still do fun things. I just wish I didn't have a curfew..and a leash. And I hate having to lie about things I do or places I go. Oh wells...if i'm still at home when I'm 30 then I'll panic. But for now..i'll just settle for being unhappy with free food and shelter and the occasional temporary removal of my imaginary leash. hehe.

 

[Inspector Jihad]

Originally posted by: MisterJackson

Originally posted by: Inspector Jihad

Originally posted by: MisterJackson

Originally posted by: Inspector Jihad

Originally posted by: pontifex

Originally posted by: MisterJackson

Originally posted by: pclstyle

Originally posted by: MisterJackson

Originally posted by: DaShen

Originally posted by: MisterJackson
There's something to be said about daily (sometitwice and thrice daily) sex.

OH SNAP :Q.... You da man, MisterJackson. epenis++

Man, you just wouldn't believe me if I told you (but I will anyway ).

this girl I'm with now said I can have it WHENEVER I want, WHENEVER. I said "What about if you're asleep?"....she said "Have at it, I don't mind."! I said "Should I wake you first?", she said "No, just go ahead, it'll wake me up.".

I have trouble keeping up with her. I'M the one who says "I'm tired" or "I'm not in the mood" (only if 24, Lost, The Sheild, or House are on), but she usually talks me into it anyway. She says I can watch TV while she takes care of things. I can't argue with that.

So yes DaShen, I smack you and all others in the face with my huge e-penis!!!! BWUHAHAHAH!

cialis, brother.

don't let the woman go telling her friends you're a big pansy.

Oh no!, I never deny her, I just ask for a few minutess to recoup. She actually asked if I take Viagra, which I don't, because our record for one Sunday was 10 times!

Trust me, her friends actually are asking to join in and she's considering it too.

ok, ok, we get it. damn dude...nothing like bragging on an internet forum...

pics of said slut?

You've never met your Mom?

pics of said slut?

Maybe you don't get it when an obvious insult is presented to you, so let me spell it out for you:

said slut = your Mom


let's end it here okay?

oh...it was bad joke...sorry, i couldnt tell.

 

[GeneValgene]

Originally posted by: DaShen

Originally posted by: GeneValgene

Originally posted by: DaShen

Originally posted by: DPmaster
Definitely hold on to her then. I've got a cousin that can't even rent movies unless his wife lets him. He's definitely whipped. I've seen marriages like that and to me, that sucks.

I have seen the same thing. My sister is that way. <shudders> She is so controlling it is ridiculous. The sad thing is, she doesn't even see it.

hahaha this totally reminds me of this pablo francisco bit

pablo on crazy women

She isn't crazy. She is actually pretty reasonable, and such, but she always, and I mean always, has to be in control. But she is a very nice person. I mean, she is my sister, and

i didn't mean to compare our sister to the comedic bit. just the talk of controlling women reminded me of that pablo francisco comedy set

 

[DaShen]

Originally posted by: GeneValgene

Originally posted by: DaShen

Originally posted by: torpid
DaShen, you should reword your poll to reflect what you are saying. You appear to be asking, would you rather be single or in an unfulfilling relationship? That seems to be what you are asking based on your posts. You say you haven't found a person you'd want to be in a relationship long term with, well neither have I, but that doesn't mean I don't want to find such a person and get into a long term relationship. Based on relationships I've had, I'd rather have been single because the match was not right.

There may be some people who would rather be in an unfulfilling relationship than single, because they like the daily life and whatever else.

But the thing is that I am not actively looking for a relationship. There is the key difference. I know some people who are single and enjoy it, but they are actively looking to date someone. I want a good relationship with someone, but I figure if it happens, it happens. I am not the type of person who will be interested enough in a person just for looks to ask them out, I would rather know them first. So when I find a girl that I have met that I notice who treats everyone with respect, doesn't use Christianity as a weapon (live in the Bible Belt. :roll: I am all for witnessing and such, but I hate the"Pat Robertson" type ), isn't controlling (I haven't found many of these), and overall a decent human being, that I notice, I will attempt to not be single anymore. I found a few girls like that in college, but I had terrible timing, and I thought about it too much (took a too analytical approach). If I wanted to be in a relationship, half the girls I know would have already been asked out by me since I try to surround myself with decent, cool people, but it just doesn't click, or when it does, off-limits.

2 girls off-limits for me is my best friend's sister (not Christian and again, my best friend's sister, HECK NO), and my boss' daughter (Christian, great girl, pretty... <even my boss expressed that her daughter was available>, but HECK NO for reasons apparent)

take a risk man!! i say go for it...nothing wrong with best friend's sister...in fact, he can put in a good word for you

I don't think he would be cool with that, and anyways she isn't Christian, I know that may make me sound like a bigot, but I have found that it becomes a problem in relationships I have seen where people believe in two fundementally different things.

She is a really sweet and nice girl though, and quite pretty, but I don't think it would work out. Her mom is a little nutso anyways. Me and my friend have been friends for quite a long time, and I can tell you his mom scares me sometimes.

 

[DaShen]

Originally posted by: GeneValgene

Originally posted by: DaShen

Originally posted by: GeneValgene

Originally posted by: DaShen

Originally posted by: DPmaster
Definitely hold on to her then. I've got a cousin that can't even rent movies unless his wife lets him. He's definitely whipped. I've seen marriages like that and to me, that sucks.

I have seen the same thing. My sister is that way. <shudders> She is so controlling it is ridiculous. The sad thing is, she doesn't even see it.

hahaha this totally reminds me of this pablo francisco bit

pablo on crazy women

She isn't crazy. She is actually pretty reasonable, and such, but she always, and I mean always, has to be in control. But she is a very nice person. I mean, she is my sister, and

i didn't mean to compare our sister to the comedic bit. just the talk of controlling women reminded me of that pablo francisco comedy set

No big deal

 

[torpid]

Hm sounds like we need more poll options. One option would be single and like being alone, another being want to remain single but like dating casually, and then the relationshippy ones.

 

[GeneValgene]

Originally posted by: DaShen

Originally posted by: GeneValgene

Originally posted by: DaShen

Originally posted by: torpid
DaShen, you should reword your poll to reflect what you are saying. You appear to be asking, would you rather be single or in an unfulfilling relationship? That seems to be what you are asking based on your posts. You say you haven't found a person you'd want to be in a relationship long term with, well neither have I, but that doesn't mean I don't want to find such a person and get into a long term relationship. Based on relationships I've had, I'd rather have been single because the match was not right.

There may be some people who would rather be in an unfulfilling relationship than single, because they like the daily life and whatever else.

But the thing is that I am not actively looking for a relationship. There is the key difference. I know some people who are single and enjoy it, but they are actively looking to date someone. I want a good relationship with someone, but I figure if it happens, it happens. I am not the type of person who will be interested enough in a person just for looks to ask them out, I would rather know them first. So when I find a girl that I have met that I notice who treats everyone with respect, doesn't use Christianity as a weapon (live in the Bible Belt. :roll: I am all for witnessing and such, but I hate the"Pat Robertson" type ), isn't controlling (I haven't found many of these), and overall a decent human being, that I notice, I will attempt to not be single anymore. I found a few girls like that in college, but I had terrible timing, and I thought about it too much (took a too analytical approach). If I wanted to be in a relationship, half the girls I know would have already been asked out by me since I try to surround myself with decent, cool people, but it just doesn't click, or when it does, off-limits.

2 girls off-limits for me is my best friend's sister (not Christian and again, my best friend's sister, HECK NO), and my boss' daughter (Christian, great girl, pretty... <even my boss expressed that her daughter was available>, but HECK NO for reasons apparent)

take a risk man!! i say go for it...nothing wrong with best friend's sister...in fact, he can put in a good word for you

I don't think he would be cool with that, and anyways she isn't Christian, I know that may make me sound like a bigot, but I have found that it becomes a problem in relationships I have seen where people believe in two fundementally different things.

She is a really sweet and nice girl though, and quite pretty, but I don't think it would work out. Her mom is a little nutso anyways. Me and my friend have been friends for quite a long time, and I can tell you his mom scares me sometimes.

oops...i didn't catch that part. yea...that can be a big deal.

but just remember...if you analyze a situation/person too much, you will always find negatives or faults- no such thing as the perfect girl. just be sure of the most important things you want, and take a risk. you may be surprised

 

[puffff]

Originally posted by: torpid
DaShen, you should reword your poll to reflect what you are saying. You appear to be asking, would you rather be single or in an unfulfilling relationship? That seems to be what you are asking based on your posts. You say you haven't found a person you'd want to be in a relationship long term with, well neither have I, but that doesn't mean I don't want to find such a person and get into a long term relationship. Based on relationships I've had, I'd rather have been single because the match was not right.

There may be some people who would rather be in an unfulfilling relationship than single, because they like the daily life and whatever else.

I would be far happier in a long term fulfilling relationship than being single. i'd say i'm always on the lookout for that ideal partner. i dont put an emphasis on what age i'd like to be to get married, if the right person came along this year, i wont base my decision on 'i'm only 26, i dont think i should be in the married stage of life until i'm 30'. nor, when i'm 40, will i think 'oh ******, all my friends are hitched, i'd better find someone so i wont be left behind' and rush into something.

do i enjoy being single? yes. enjoy the advantages of being a bachelor while i'm in that category. but when the right person comes along, i'll happily take the next step.

 

[BriGy86]

20, single, i don't HATE being single but i would rather have some one

and as for "being tied down" if thats the way you feel you may not be with the right person

 

[PimpJuice]

You guys that use sex as an argument.......just because youre not married doesnt mean you dont have sex. I always see the same married guys complaining that the sex isnt as frequent after a couple years of marriage. You can have as much sex as you want when youre single as when youre married, except you have more options.

 

[fitzov]

I think you would have had to have been married at least once to know the difference. It's not the same just seeing other peoples' marriages.