Do you know any one in an arranged marriage?

[HybridSquirrel]

Sorta, more like a brainwashed marriage. Girl got knocked up by a Mormon, Mormon said they had to get married, got married, gave kid up for adoption anyway, moved to Utah and now the guy has 2 other live-in wives.

 

[alfa147x]

How long did it take for your grandparents from both sides to reconcile?

I fucking hate my dads side. My mothers side (upperclass) was way more excepting. My father's side was a whole mess. They accused my dad of gold digging and crap like that. Just his 9 other siblings my dad's parents had no problem.
They ended up moving to the USA 5 years later.
Still have to put up with their crap. My Dad's father wrote and unofficial will leaving all of his stuff to me (I was just born) and my dad's siblings sued saying that it was a fake will. I occasionally get death threats and crap like that from them.


Fun stuff 😀

 

[HybridSquirrel]

Alfa your family sounds like atot 😀

 

[alfa147x]

Alfa your family sounds like atot 😀

My family is awesome! I don't consider my dad's side family :\ Don't really have to deal with them much. My dad does a good job of keeping them from me and my little sister.

 

[busydude]

I fucking hate my dads side. My mothers side (upperclass) was way more excepting. My father's side was a whole mess. They accused my dad of gold digging and crap like that. Just his 9 other siblings my dad's parents had no problem.
They ended up moving to the USA 5 years later.
Still have to put up with their crap. My Dad's father wrote and unofficial will leaving all of his stuff to me (I was just born) and my dad's siblings sued saying that it was a fake will. I occasionally get death threats and crap like that from them.


Fun stuff 😀

Haha.. that is to be expected. 😛 People who accuse some one for gold digging.. are gold diggers IRL.

I think my parents are a bit more forgiving.. they know I am in a relationship, but we haven't talked about any future plans.. next time I visit India.. I should discuss with them in a non confrontational manner. I hope it goes smoothly.

 

[jonks]

Doesn't strike me as a terrible tradition as long as the participation by all parties is entirely voluntary...Throughout most of history, society has run on some form of arranged marriage. it's very ethnocentric of us to assume that it's absolutely utterly wrong

The reason it's considered utterly wrong is because for 99% of history there was nothing voluntary about it. And today, if your parents/family tell you they will disown and disinherit you if you don't marry so and so, that's not voluntary either.

 

[BladeVenom]

BladeVenom-

Is me calling the Taliban subhuman animals for their treatment of women just another example of me being close-minded?

🙄 Why not just go full Godwin. That kind of analogy proves you're not being open minded or reasonable.

 

[alfa147x]

Haha.. that is to be expected. 😛 People who accuse some one for gold digging.. are gold diggers IRL.

I think my parents are a bit more forgiving.. they know I am in a relationship, but we haven't talked about any future plans.. next time I visit India.. I should discuss with them in a non confrontational manner. I hope it goes smoothly.

I told my mother I want to buy a handgun. She flipped her shit.

 

[busydude]

I told my mother I want to buy a handgun. She flipped her shit.

That would be sex before marriage in my case.

2nd place goes to me admitting drinking beer.

 

[nick1985]

🙄 Why not just go full Godwin. That kind of analogy proves you're not being open minded or reasonable.

🙄

 

[Patranus]

Yes, several people and their marriages are going strong.

Even though the marriages are arranged, cultural issues put a strong bond on the marriage then what the current "me me me" generation believes in the United States.

 

[Saint Nick]

So, here's a question.

Lots of Indian girls at my school and in my grad program, there's only couple pretty good looking ones. Hypothetically, could I ask them out or would I get turned down? I figure I would because they are in some sort of arranged marriage.

I've sort of always assumed that students from India are boring, traditionalistic type of people. And, I'm assuming that everyone from India is Muslim. I know, generalization is wrong, etc etc, but that's only because that is how I've experienced people from India. I've never met an Indian that smoked (cigs or bud), drank, or really was social at all.

 

[Patranus]

So, here's a question.

Lots of Indian girls at my school and in my grad program, there's only couple pretty good looking ones. Hypothetically, could I ask them out or would I get turned down? I figure I would because they are in some sort of arranged marriage.

I've sort of always assumed that students from India are boring, traditionalistic type of people. And, I'm assuming that everyone from India is Muslim. I know, generalization is wrong, etc etc, but that's only because that is how I've experienced people from India. I've never met an Indian that smoked (cigs or bud), drank, or really was social at all.

Why would you want to ask someone out that doesn't have any similar interests to you if you enjoy smoking and drinking?

 

[dabuddha]

So, here's a question.

Lots of Indian girls at my school and in my grad program, there's only couple pretty good looking ones. Hypothetically, could I ask them out or would I get turned down? I figure I would because they are in some sort of arranged marriage.

I've sort of always assumed that students from India are boring, traditionalistic type of people. And, I'm assuming that everyone from India is Muslim. I know, generalization is wrong, etc etc, but that's only because that is how I've experienced people from India. I've never met an Indian that smoked (cigs or bud), drank, or really was social at all.

If you haven't met any Indians that smoke and/or drink, you haven't met any "real" indians 😉 Plus your assumption is completely wrong 🙂

 

[mOeeOm]

The only reason arranged marriages keep going is because it is so hard to get out of it, even if you are miserable and depressed. It is not a good idea.

 

[busydude]

So, here's a question.

Lots of Indian girls at my school and in my grad program, there's only couple pretty good looking ones. Hypothetically, could I ask them out or would I get turned down? I figure I would because they are in some sort of arranged marriage.

I've sort of always assumed that students from India are boring, traditionalistic type of people. And, I'm assuming that everyone from India is Muslim. I know, generalization is wrong, etc etc, but that's only because that is how I've experienced people from India. I've never met an Indian that smoked (cigs or bud), drank, or really was social at all.

I am sorry man, but your generalization is pathetic.

 

[Saint Nick]

If you haven't met any Indians that smoke and/or drink, you haven't met any "real" indians 😉 Plus your assumption is completely wrong 🙂

Fair enough, I was hoping someone on here would shatter my views. I feel like they'd be fun to hang out with, but they seem so reserved and boring at school...

 

[alfa147x]

That would be sex before marriage in my case.

2nd place goes to me admitting drinking beer.

My mother does not know of the first. She knows of the 2nd.

 

[mOeeOm]

So, here's a question.

Lots of Indian girls at my school and in my grad program, there's only couple pretty good looking ones. Hypothetically, could I ask them out or would I get turned down? I figure I would because they are in some sort of arranged marriage.

I've sort of always assumed that students from India are boring, traditionalistic type of people. And, I'm assuming that everyone from India is Muslim. I know, generalization is wrong, etc etc, but that's only because that is how I've experienced people from India. I've never met an Indian that smoked (cigs or bud), drank, or really was social at all.

Most people from India are not muslim and will do all of that. Just have to find one.

 

[Saint Nick]

I am sorry man, but your generalization is pathetic.

Kind of like how your magic 4 year long LDR with your woman is? Because you are too "busy"? I mostly came here looking for someone to shatter my view on it, not get attacked. Buzz off.

 

[nageov3t]

at my last job, I worked with an Indian girl who was in one (well, she was got married like the same month I quit).

I heard from old coworkers that it didn't work out because she, having lived in the US since she was an adolescent, was much too liberal for her fresh off the boat husband.

 

[busydude]

Kind of like how your magic 4 year long LDR with your woman is? Because you are too "busy"? I mostly came here looking for someone to shatter my view on it, not get attacked. Buzz off.

No need to get defensive man.. and I really mean it.. it was pathetic.

So, here's a question.

Lots of Indian girls at my school and in my grad program, there's only couple pretty good looking ones. Hypothetically, could I ask them out or would I get turned down? I figure I would because they are in some sort of arranged marriage.

I've sort of always assumed that students from India are boring, traditionalistic type of people. And, I'm assuming that everyone from India is Muslim. I know, generalization is wrong, etc etc, but that's only because that is how I've experienced people from India. I've never met an Indian that smoked (cigs or bud), drank, or really was social at all.

There are two kinds.. 1) who are born/raised in the US.. like alfa. 2) FOB, like me.

Category 1, are just like normal Americans. The main difference lies with the way their parents raise their children. They will have a hard time getting together with FOB Indians of their same age.. just like normal Americans.

What you are referring to is FOB's.. who come from a traditional rural family.. and are likely to be experiencing culture shock that lasts forever.

 

[alfa147x]

No need to get defensive man.. and I really mean it.. it was pathetic.



There are two kinds.. 1) who are born/raised in the US.. like alfa. 2) FOB, like me.

Category 1, are just like normal Americans. The main difference lies with the way their parents raise their children. They will have a hard time getting together with FOB Indians of their same age.. just like normal Americans.

What you are referring to is FOB's.. who come from a traditional rural family.. and is likely to be experiencing culture shock that lasts forever.

This is true. I was born in India but very American. So American that I find it hard to get along with other Indian people.

 

[Imp]

Ya, only one I knew was from Sri Lanka. It was a guy, so on weekends he went to the mall/amusement parks to check out the ladies...

 

[HybridSquirrel]

This is true. I was born in India but very American. So American that I find it hard to get along with other Indian people.

Do you break out into random song and dance when ever a fortunate or unfortunate circumstance strikes you?