Did I let him slip away?
- Thread starter MsDaisy
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Breakups suck. Such is life. If you couldn't come up w ith a way to live in the same area, it was going to happen eventually.
If this was the 'right' decision, why do I feel so horrible?
-Any breakup sucks and could be one of the worst feelings to go through.
Did I make a terrible mistake?
-I don't think you did. As selfish as this may sound, you have to take care of your stuff first, career, education, family or whatever that you need to do.
Will I ever find anyone as great as him?
-Definitely. You'll find another one like him in grad school, post grad, first job, second job, local grocery store, local bar/pub, book club, etc.
-Any breakup sucks and could be one of the worst feelings to go through.
Did I make a terrible mistake?
-I don't think you did. As selfish as this may sound, you have to take care of your stuff first, career, education, family or whatever that you need to do.
Will I ever find anyone as great as him?
-Definitely. You'll find another one like him in grad school, post grad, first job, second job, local grocery store, local bar/pub, book club, etc.
Wow, that was in extremely bad taste.
Welcome to ATOT MsDaisy. Sounds like you're having a rough day, huh. I know everything seems really bleak right now, but stick it out and soon things will start to get better. Did you make the right decision? I can't say, you'll have to figure that out for yourself. But let me say that many people who make huge, life-changing decisions to be with a bf or gf ultimately end up unhappy.
It's probably gonna hurt like hell for a while, but once you start working (working out helps too) I'm sure it will get easier.
TuxDave
Lifer
- Oct 8, 2002
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I'm sorry but I will never understand women. As a guy I find it very difficult to sympathize with the person breaking up with the other person. Did you at least sit down and talk with him to figure out long term plans in the relationship? He's going to finish law school when. He's gonna do what after that. How long do you plan on staying in this job. How do you plan to get back together. Without knowing whether or not you discussed this with him, it's hard for me to say whether or not this was a right decision. But then again, I'm a blunt person. This is how I feel.
you shouldve turned down the job...if he was what made you happy then you shouldve been with him. Life is about being happy.
Since when is "working out" equated only with lifting weights? I run and swim frequently, and I find it to be very therapeutic. Gives me a chance to clear my head.Originally posted by: dug777
Dude, apparently she is a chick, so getting huge biceps isn't exactly going to make her feel great.
damn straight. so many women in their 30's and single with a 6 figure income but haven't realized what's more important in life.
I'm going to China and marry me some country bumpkin where they value family more than $$$$ g' yall shiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiit.
Unless it was a committed long-term relationship, it's probably a bit foolish to give up something that affords you good opportunities to continue to date.
If you know he's the greatest guy in the world, well... which is more important to you?
One thing to be careful of (which we all go through during painful breakups) is that it will feel very lonely after you break up, no matter if you are the one calling it or the one getting dumped. Be strong, and don't just call the lonliness that is natural to feel after ending a relationship that you're used to, don't think that that means you have to get back together. You'll find someone else. If this is a legitimate topic starter, I'll do something really corny and keep both of you guys in my prayers.
Hope it works out for you.
If you know he's the greatest guy in the world, well... which is more important to you?
One thing to be careful of (which we all go through during painful breakups) is that it will feel very lonely after you break up, no matter if you are the one calling it or the one getting dumped. Be strong, and don't just call the lonliness that is natural to feel after ending a relationship that you're used to, don't think that that means you have to get back together. You'll find someone else. If this is a legitimate topic starter, I'll do something really corny and keep both of you guys in my prayers.
Hope it works out for you.
dug777
Lifer
- Oct 13, 2004
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Originally posted by: flawlssdistortn
Since when is "working out" equated only with lifting weights? I run and swim frequently, and I find it to be very therapeutic. Gives me a chance to clear my head.Originally posted by: dug777
Dude, apparently she is a chick, so getting huge biceps isn't exactly going to make her feel great.
I wouldn't call going for a run 'working out'
I'd call it going for a run. (or alternatively destroying your knees ). I'd call going for a swim..guess what...going for a swim 
Ciber
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- Nov 20, 2000
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So you are upset that you threw away years with the man you love over A JOB? lol...
And i'm gonna have to disagree with the consensus here, finding a job is A LOT easier than finding a good partner.
Btw, my fiancee and I did the whole long distance thing a lot longer, try almost 5 years, getting married this month. I think it was worth it to be with the person i want to be with. You could get fired next month and have lost him for nothing, heh.
Yea, why do people put some much effort into their job and not love? You can always find a new job, but you can't always find someone to love. Damn those feminist and their career oriented value.
Hello. You are a girl. I did not read your post because all I care about is that you pay attention to me because you are a girl on ATOT. If you are hot, I am the best man for you. If not, hopefully you are decent, and I am drunk. Then we can talk.
Kadarin
Lifer
- Nov 23, 2001
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There will always be what ifs and might-have-beens and did I do the right things, but you will find over time that real strength comes from within. You will find that your own sense of accomplishment and self worth is far better served by chasing your dreams rather than tying yourself to the fortunes of some guy.
Besides, you never know... Once he's out of law school and once you're out of grad school, your paths just may cross again. If not, you will find other people who are just as good. Look to the future in a positive way, as every day is new opportunity to grow.
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