Originally posted by: PhoenixOrion
Did I make a terrible mistake?
-I don't think you did. As selfish as this may sound, you have to take care of your stuff first, career, education, family or whatever that you need to do.
Originally posted by: bennylong
Originally posted by: MsDaisy
:brokenheart:
I have been dating the greatest guy on earth off and on (we've been long distance across the country during college) for two years. We lived together this summer and last summer and he's everything I could ask for. However, he's already headed off to law school and I got a terrific job offer (which will guarantee me getting into grad school in 1-2 years when I apply) on the other coast.
I care about him so much and love a lot but I just can't do a long distance relationship anymore. It was hard the past 2 years we'd been dating and it's just too painful seeing him after long stretches of time... I just couldn't do it longer. Furthermore, I tried getting a job near his law school but the employment opportunities and the research experience I'm going to gain from this job I have are tremendous and I'm excited to be working here.
So we decided to break up and did it this morning. However... I've been crying for the last 5hours straight, and am seriously scaring myself with how much grief I'm experiencing. If this was the 'right' decision, why do I feel so horrible? Did I make a terrible mistake? Will I ever find anyone as great as him?
....heartbroken....
what is more important to you? Love or career? seems like you made your choice
Originally posted by: dug777
Originally posted by: flawlssdistortn
Since when is "working out" equated only with lifting weights? I run and swim frequently, and I find it to be very therapeutic. Gives me a chance to clear my head.Originally posted by: dug777
Dude, apparently she is a chick, so getting huge biceps isn't exactly going to make her feel great.
I wouldn't call going for a run 'working out'I'd call it going for a run. (or alternatively destroying your knees
). I'd call going for a swim..guess what...going for a swim
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Originally posted by: bennylong
Yea, why do people put some much effort into their job and not love? You can always find a new job, but you can't always find someone to love. Damn those feminist and their career oriented value.
Originally posted by: jbourne77
Originally posted by: dug777
Originally posted by: flawlssdistortn
Since when is "working out" equated only with lifting weights? I run and swim frequently, and I find it to be very therapeutic. Gives me a chance to clear my head.Originally posted by: dug777
Dude, apparently she is a chick, so getting huge biceps isn't exactly going to make her feel great.
I wouldn't call going for a run 'working out'I'd call it going for a run. (or alternatively destroying your knees
). I'd call going for a swim..guess what...going for a swim
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I think most people classify "working out" as any activity that is devoted to their own physical betterment. I run, play tennis, lift weights, and cycle. It's all "working out" in my book.
Originally posted by: MsDaisy
:brokenheart:
I have been dating the greatest guy on earth off and on (we've been long distance across the country during college) for two years. We lived together this summer and last summer and he's everything I could ask for. However, he's already headed off to law school and I got a terrific job offer (which will guarantee me getting into grad school in 1-2 years when I apply) on the other coast.
I care about him so much and love a lot but I just can't do a long distance relationship anymore. It was hard the past 2 years we'd been dating and it's just too painful seeing him after long stretches of time... I just couldn't do it longer. Furthermore, I tried getting a job near his law school but the employment opportunities and the research experience I'm going to gain from this job I have are tremendous and I'm excited to be working here.
So we decided to break up and did it this morning. However... I've been crying for the last 5hours straight, and am seriously scaring myself with how much grief I'm experiencing. If this was the 'right' decision, why do I feel so horrible? Did I make a terrible mistake? Will I ever find anyone as great as him?
....heartbroken....
Originally posted by: jbourne77
Originally posted by: bennylong
Originally posted by: MsDaisy
:brokenheart:
I have been dating the greatest guy on earth off and on (we've been long distance across the country during college) for two years. We lived together this summer and last summer and he's everything I could ask for. However, he's already headed off to law school and I got a terrific job offer (which will guarantee me getting into grad school in 1-2 years when I apply) on the other coast.
I care about him so much and love a lot but I just can't do a long distance relationship anymore. It was hard the past 2 years we'd been dating and it's just too painful seeing him after long stretches of time... I just couldn't do it longer. Furthermore, I tried getting a job near his law school but the employment opportunities and the research experience I'm going to gain from this job I have are tremendous and I'm excited to be working here.
So we decided to break up and did it this morning. However... I've been crying for the last 5hours straight, and am seriously scaring myself with how much grief I'm experiencing. If this was the 'right' decision, why do I feel so horrible? Did I make a terrible mistake? Will I ever find anyone as great as him?
....heartbroken....
what is more important to you? Love or career? seems like you made your choice
That's extremely naive and over-simplified. Are you even old enough to drive?
Originally posted by: jbourne77
Originally posted by: bennylong
Yea, why do people put some much effort into their job and not love? You can always find a new job, but you can't always find someone to love. Damn those feminist and their career oriented value.
Because not everyone is like you. Some people want more out of life than just a relationship with a partner. Some people have other needs, motivations, and aspirations. Some people have the need to feel like their contributing on a grander scale or they feel the need to achieve certain goals in their life outside of one-on-one relationships.
I love my wife, and my marriage is very important to me. However, I *need* (not "want"... NEED) more out of life than just a fulfilling relationship with my spouse. Careers, for some people, are inherently important to them. It's not a decision they're making, it's just who they are. You need to be accepting of that, because we weren't all formed from the same damn cookie cutter. You're not more noble and respectable just because you're willing to sacrifice everything else for the person you love. That's just who you are. It's how you're wired. Someone else might be wired to place more emphasis on teaching, or contributing to science. That doesn't make them less deserving of a love life. It's just how they're wired.
Get off your high horse.
Your country bumpkin will be marrying you because you are an American with money. How is that different, dumbass?Originally posted by: bennylong
Originally posted by: flawlssdistortn
Well I suppose this confirms your theory about modern women :disgust:Originally posted by: bennylong
what is more important to you? Love or career? seems like you made your choice
damn straight. so many women in their 30's and single with a 6 figure income but haven't realized what's more important in life.
I'm going to China and marry me some country bumpkin where they value family more than $$$$ g' yall shiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiit.
Originally posted by: Mwilding
Your country bumpkin will be marrying you because you are an American with money. How is that different, dumbass?Originally posted by: bennylong
Originally posted by: flawlssdistortn
Well I suppose this confirms your theory about modern women :disgust:Originally posted by: bennylong
what is more important to you? Love or career? seems like you made your choice
damn straight. so many women in their 30's and single with a 6 figure income but haven't realized what's more important in life.
I'm going to China and marry me some country bumpkin where they value family more than $$$$ g' yall shiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiit.
Originally posted by: LolaWiz
Originally posted by: moshquerade
nice first post.
aren't there any other boards out there for you to talk about relationship issues?
contrary to popular belief this isn't supposed to be that kind of board.
interesting.... one post... no response.... a GIRL... and a post about an end of a relationship as an entrance into a "computer off topic" forum... interesting.
(sorry for being so b!tchy this morning.)