The problem is that lots of American men, and let's confine ourselves here to American white men though the problem is far more universal and unrelated to race , have no idea of what being a man really means. In woke language their idea of being a man is actually toxic masculinity. For most men a real man is the Marlborough Man, the cowboy, the silent long suffering hero, a man so far from his feelings he might as well be dead. The ideal American man is a man with sever mental illness, a rock, an island, suffering massive internal loneliness and separation. Modern liberal women don't need them. They are dinosaurs and relics of the past. Women are looking for metrosexuals, men who are both men and women, men who can feel, who are tender and loving and nurturing, men who are psychologically sophisticated and understanding, you know, like me.

All your women are belong to us, except, of course, those who only feel alive when abused, the ones who grew up under Daddy's thumb.
American culture is a training ground for how to make beautiful young boys grow up sick, and for girls to worship them on their knees. But as usual, women are miles ahead. You know what woke women say, right. For a woman to succeed she has to be twice as talented a a man, but fortunately that's easy.
Can you feel the self hate? Get past that and everything will be fine. Give and expect nothing. A man who is a man has everything that he needs. American men are needy little boys, lots and lots of them.