**confirmed** kissing on the first date? a-ok!

[Angrymarshmello]

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<< and did some hardcore making out in another. I think it's ok. >>



I'll bet you do. lol >>



Having a chick who is more aggressive than you (and 9 years older to boot) is pretty nice

 

[dbzwukan]

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<< i've bang a couple girls on the first date.... turns out they are sluts.....good thing they give out condoms in my high school. >>



i bet you're proud of yourself. it's not hard to tell you are still in high school. >>


of course, i have a couple of friends from college who want to date my hs chick friends... it fun to be in hs.... i hope things pick up in college.

 

[nihil]

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<<

<< i've bang a couple girls on the first date.... turns out they are sluts.....good thing they give out condoms in my high school. >>



i bet you're proud of yourself. it's not hard to tell you are still in high school. >>


of course, i have a couple of friends from college who want to date my hs chick friends... it fun to be in hs.... i hope things pick up in college. >>



i was commenting on your immaturity. not your social life.

 

[pillage2001]

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<<

<<

<< i've bang a couple girls on the first date.... turns out they are sluts.....good thing they give out condoms in my high school. >>



i bet you're proud of yourself. it's not hard to tell you are still in high school. >>


of course, i have a couple of friends from college who want to date my hs chick friends... it fun to be in hs.... i hope things pick up in college. >>



i was commenting on your immaturity. not your social life. >>



busted.

 

[dbzwukan]

HELLO, i'm still in HS..so it is okay...
at lease i don't talk like some people who use 'l33t' and other crap not found in a dictionary.

 

[Ronstang]

<< at lease i don't talk like some people who use 'l33t' and other crap not found in a dictionary. >>



Here here, I'll give you that one because I personally can't stand "idiot speak".

 

[nihil]

<< HELLO, i'm still in HS..so it is okay...
at lease i don't talk like some people who use 'l33t' and other crap not found in a dictionary. >>



no excuses. no soup for you!!!

 

[RGN]

<< HELLO, i'm still in HS..so it is okay...
at lease i don't talk like some people who use 'l33t' and other crap not found in a dictionary. >>



h3y, y0u 4r3 4n 1mm47ur3 l177l3 pun|<. d0n7 74l|< l1|<3 7h47 4b0u7 |\/|3. @55.

 

[nihil]

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<< HELLO, i'm still in HS..so it is okay...
at lease i don't talk like some people who use 'l33t' and other crap not found in a dictionary. >>



h3y, y0u 4r3 4n 1mm47ur3 l177l3 pun|<. d0n7 74l|< l1|<3 7h47 4b0u7 |\/|3. @55. >>



/me grabs his "idiot-speak" decoder.

 

[JonathanM]

I have also never been on a date.

 

[kami]

i have kissed on all my first dates!! not big sloppy come hither kisses though, just pecks.



<< I don't think it's "wrong" but I think it can complicate things quickly. Getting to know who someone really is can often be easier without that physical aspect at first. For myself, kissing someone means I love them, so I would never kiss someone who I didn't first say, "I love you" to. I doubt I'm going to know the person well enough to say that on a first date, hence no kiss. If the person wants to kiss me, we probably have different definitions of what a kiss means and how important it is. I feel more comfortable abiding by my standard and definition so I'll stick to it. Fortunately, the only guy I've dated pretty much shared my ideals about physicalness and what it meant, and we talked a little about what discrepencies there were.
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Umm...i feel the exact same, except replace "kiss" with "sex" :Q

 

[Instagib]

<< Be a pimp, wait till the girl kisses you. >>




HAHA

 

[RGN]

<< /me grabs his "idiot-speak" decoder. >>



should I be ashamed that I can type that as fast as normal w0rds?

 

[A5]

I'm ashamed that I can read that faster than Spanish(my second language...which I actually have a CLASS in )

 

[AreaCode707]

<< i have kissed on all my first dates!! not big sloppy come hither kisses though, just pecks.



<< I don't think it's "wrong" but I think it can complicate things quickly. Getting to know who someone really is can often be easier without that physical aspect at first. For myself, kissing someone means I love them, so I would never kiss someone who I didn't first say, "I love you" to. I doubt I'm going to know the person well enough to say that on a first date, hence no kiss. If the person wants to kiss me, we probably have different definitions of what a kiss means and how important it is. I feel more comfortable abiding by my standard and definition so I'll stick to it. Fortunately, the only guy I've dated pretty much shared my ideals about physicalness and what it meant, and we talked a little about what discrepencies there were.
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Umm...i feel the exact same, except replace "kiss" with "sex" :Q >>



Well, I'll up the ante a little then, if you replace "kiss" with "sex", then for me to feel comfortable about it, I'd have to replace the idea of "love" with the idea of "marriage". If, for me, kissing is a sign of love, sex for you is that sign of love. For me, sex is a sign for the amount of love and committment that goes into marriage. What is your sign for that? The marriage itself?

 

[b0mbrman]

I've got no hard and fast rule for anything...if it feels right, I go for it...

 

[kami]

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<< i have kissed on all my first dates!! not big sloppy come hither kisses though, just pecks.



<< I don't think it's "wrong" but I think it can complicate things quickly. Getting to know who someone really is can often be easier without that physical aspect at first. For myself, kissing someone means I love them, so I would never kiss someone who I didn't first say, "I love you" to. I doubt I'm going to know the person well enough to say that on a first date, hence no kiss. If the person wants to kiss me, we probably have different definitions of what a kiss means and how important it is. I feel more comfortable abiding by my standard and definition so I'll stick to it. Fortunately, the only guy I've dated pretty much shared my ideals about physicalness and what it meant, and we talked a little about what discrepencies there were.
>>


Umm...i feel the exact same, except replace "kiss" with "sex" :Q >>



Well, I'll up the ante a little then, if you replace "kiss" with "sex", then for me to feel comfortable about it, I'd have to replace the idea of "love" with the idea of "marriage". If, for me, kissing is a sign of love, sex for you is that sign of love. For me, sex is a sign for the amount of love and committment that goes into marriage. What is your sign for that? The marriage itself? >>



Yeah I guess so. I am a firm believer that relationships are better when they're more physical. It could be from my own bad experiences, though. With my first girlfriend, I was way too shy and I guess you could say totally passive. Barely made any moves...and then that first kiss was just built up to be too much and it ended up being somewhat awkward. Now I just like being more open...i feel closer to a person when I can be physical and I'm not just talking about sex. You could say physical closeness is a cop-out when compared to real emotional closeness, and it is, but I think the physical aspect (including sex) enhances the emotional side greatly.

 

[AreaCode707]

<< Yeah I guess so. I am a firm believer that relationships are better when they're more physical. It could be from my own bad experiences, though. With my first girlfriend, I was way too shy and I guess you could say totally passive. Barely made any moves...and then that first kiss was just built up to be too much and it ended up being somewhat awkward. Now I just like being more open...i feel closer to a person when I can be physical and I'm not just talking about sex. You could say physical closeness is a cop-out when compared to real emotional closeness, and it is, but I think the physical aspect (including sex) enhances the emotional side greatly. >>



Okay, I can definitely agree with what you're saying here. In my mind, there are four aspects to a relationship - intellectual, emotional, physical, and spiritual, in no order of importance. I think that in a good relationship, those needs are being met to the best of each person's ability, bounded by the appropriate levels of how committed the relationship is (e.g. IMO, sex is a physical need that should be met in a relationship with a commitment level of 'married').

 

[gopunk]

it's just a kiss!

oh sure, it's just a kiss now. but then it leads on to groping, and making out, and before you know it, people will be having sex before they're even married! :Q

 

[Deeko]

My first date with my girlfriend was November 18. We were officially 'going out' December 2. First kiss was December 7.

 

[datalink7]

<< it's just a kiss!

oh sure, it's just a kiss now. but then it leads on to groping, and making out, and before you know it, people will be having sex before they're even married! :Q >>



Oh the inhumanity!:Q

 

[notfred]

I think that, if the date went well, a goodnight kiss is perfectly acceptable. That's about it, though. Otherwise it jsut seems like the first date is basically in introduction, and you don't kiss people till after you've been introduced

 

[Xenon14]

I feel that it's not whether it's a first date or not, it's how the two people feel about each other. If they have feelings for each other...kiss, more than once if you want. If you don't have these feelings, no point in kissing. I don't understand those that simply say "no, I don't kiss on the first date" Makes no logical sense to me that a person more or less predetermines his/her feelings before even going out with someone. I find that type of behavior rather shallow.

 

[Daniel]

I've gone out with people before that I knew beforehand, we already were pretty comfortable together. In that case then I think it isn't a problem if you are both fine with it.

 

[Jfur]

I like it when a man kisses me on a first date. But only the cheek (face cheek)