Cohabitation Before Marriage = Higher Chance of Divorce

[Fausto]

Originally posted by: conjur

Originally posted by: MercenaryForHire

Originally posted by: conjur

Originally posted by: MercenaryForHire

Originally posted by: Savij

Here's a good one for you: SOUTHERN PEOPLE SHOULD NOT BE ALLOWED TO GET MARRIED

Hey, I already used Stupid people! :| :|



- M4H

:| :| :|


Come on down here, biotch!

If you don't quit talking all that smack, I will - and I'll bring the cold weather with me! :evil:

- M4H

<---- turns tail and runs

Bah. Michigan-bred persons do not fear your puny Canadian "weather". Bring it, bi0tch! :|

 

[MercenaryForHire]

Originally posted by: Fausto

Originally posted by: conjur

Originally posted by: MercenaryForHire

Originally posted by: conjur

Originally posted by: MercenaryForHire

Originally posted by: Savij

Here's a good one for you: SOUTHERN PEOPLE SHOULD NOT BE ALLOWED TO GET MARRIED

Hey, I already used Stupid people! :| :|



- M4H

:| :| :|


Come on down here, biotch!

If you don't quit talking all that smack, I will - and I'll bring the cold weather with me! :evil:

- M4H

<---- turns tail and runs

Bah. Michigan-bred persons do not fear your puny Canadian "weather". Bring it, bi0tch! :|

<stupid Final-Fantasy style CG animation> *beavers fly from sky*
Super Beaver Pelt Assault!



- M4H

 

[notfred]

I didn't read the whole thread, so this may have already been mentioned, but:

In countries with arranged marriages, divorce rates are much lower than those here in the US. Do you think it's because it's advantageous not to meet your wife until the day you marry her? Do you think that maybe, possibly, the same people that are willing to live together before marriage are also less likely to have the viewpoint that divorce is morally wrong, and therefore should be avoided at all costs, including their own happiness?

 

[Fausto]

Originally posted by: notfred
I didn't read the whole thread, so this may have already been mentioned, but:

In countries with arranged marriages, divorce rates are much lower than those here in the US. Do you think it's because it's advantageous not to meet your wife until the day you marry her?

I know a few people who've had arranged marriages. AFAIK, the low divorce rate is because you become social pond scum if you do divorce; this is especially true for the women who are essentially "damaged goods" for the rest of their lives.

Do you think that maybe, possibly, the same people that are willing to live together before marriage are also less likely to have the viewpoint that divorce is morally wrong, and therefore should be avoided at all costs, including their own happiness?

Sure. That's kinda the other side of the coin from religious persons who might stick out a bad marriage due to the belief that divorce is even worse from a moral standpoint.

 

[gopunk]

on another note, i think i read somewhere that arranged marriages are less likely to get divorced... just food for thought. maybe we should go that route...

 

[MercenaryForHire]

Originally posted by: Fausto

Originally posted by: notfred
I didn't read the whole thread, so this may have already been mentioned, but:

In countries with arranged marriages, divorce rates are much lower than those here in the US. Do you think it's because it's advantageous not to meet your wife until the day you marry her?

I know a few people who've had arranged marriages. AFAIK, the low divorce rate is because you become social pond scum if you do divorce; this is especially true for the women who are essentially "damaged goods" for the rest of their lives.

Do you think that maybe, possibly, the same people that are willing to live together before marriage are also less likely to have the viewpoint that divorce is morally wrong, and therefore should be avoided at all costs, including their own happiness?

Sure. That's kinda the other side of the coin from religious persons who might stick out a bad marriage due to the belief that divorce is even worse from a moral standpoint.

Remember ladies, even if your man is an abusive alcoholic adulterist, you can't divorce him or you're going to Hell!

- M4H

 

[SP33Demon]

Originally posted by: gopunk
on another note, i think i read somewhere that arranged marriages are less likely to get divorced... just food for thought. maybe we should go that route...

Arranged marraiges only work b/c the parents have all the power. Would you want to be disowned by your family for breaking an arranged marraige? Remember, in these cultures, family is a tightly knit institution and your reputation is important. If you're unhappy, have an affair on the side, but it's a cardinal sin to get a divorce. It's sad that the parents hold all of the cards in these cultures.

 

[bozack]

I have talked with a few professionals on this subject right before my marriage and the concensus was that 1. a major factor is that many who don't live together before marriage are of a religious belief that it is wrong and generally this conincides with divorce being *wrong* and 2. it was seen that people who live together for under 2 years were very likely of divorce yet those who are over 2 years were much less than those who never lived together before...

I agree for many the *renters* agreement might come into play, but there are also those who go into living together as if they were already married...

 

[luv2chill]

Probably already been said, but the conclusion to be drawn from this study should be:

People who are agreeable to cohabitatation are more likely to be also agreeable to divorce than people who are not agreeable to cohabitation.

That's all this study really says. Anything else is someone's opinion.

l2c

 

[SP33Demon]

Originally posted by: luv2chill
Probably already been said, but the conclusion to be drawn from this study should be:

People who are agreeable to cohabitatation are more likely to be also agreeable to divorce than people who are not agreeable to cohabitation.

That's all this study really says. Anything else is someone's opinion.

l2c

Good point... :beer:

 

[skychief]

I really don't belive it matters one way or the other. I think the problem lies in the mentality of people today. Marriage just doesn't hold the sanctity it once had. Sadly, I belive that many people go into it with the belief that if it doesn't work out that divorce is always an option or at least they subconciously hold that belief. Many belive that marriage is just the next logical step in a relationship and will become husband and wife never really understanding the stress that will come with it. Finally, I think that most people today are just not as mentally strong as past generations and opt to get out of a stressful situation without ever really putting up a fight. Of course there are the exceptions such as abuse or infidelity where divorce may be the only "true" option.

 

[Red Dawn]

I belive that many people go into it with the belief that if it doesn't work out that divorce is always an option

Thank God for that option. Could you imagine getting married and your spouse turning into some nasty creature before your eyes and having to spend the rest of what would be a miserable life with it? How about marrying a beautiful lady and she turned out to be a 500 lbs ball breaking behemoth and you have no out? What if you had 3 rat bastard children that should have been drowned at birth, could you imagine having to live with those vermin?

 

[ibintegra]

Originally posted by: MercenaryForHire

Originally posted by: Fausto

Originally posted by: notfred
I didn't read the whole thread, so this may have already been mentioned, but:

In countries with arranged marriages, divorce rates are much lower than those here in the US. Do you think it's because it's advantageous not to meet your wife until the day you marry her?

I know a few people who've had arranged marriages. AFAIK, the low divorce rate is because you become social pond scum if you do divorce; this is especially true for the women who are essentially "damaged goods" for the rest of their lives.

Do you think that maybe, possibly, the same people that are willing to live together before marriage are also less likely to have the viewpoint that divorce is morally wrong, and therefore should be avoided at all costs, including their own happiness?

Sure. That's kinda the other side of the coin from religious persons who might stick out a bad marriage due to the belief that divorce is even worse from a moral standpoint.

Remember ladies, even if your man is an abusive alcoholic adulterist, you can't divorce him or you're going to Hell!

- M4H

Hate to rain on your parade but that's not true. If your husband/wife is an adulter, then you can get a divorce.

 

[conjur]

Originally posted by: ibintegra

Originally posted by: MercenaryForHire

Originally posted by: Fausto
Sure. That's kinda the other side of the coin from religious persons who might stick out a bad marriage due to the belief that divorce is even worse from a moral standpoint.

Remember ladies, even if your man is an abusive alcoholic adulterist, you can't divorce him or you're going to Hell!

- M4H

Hate to rain on your parade but that's not true. If your husband/wife is an adulter, then you can get a divorce.

I highly recommend taking your sarcasm meter in for its annual servicing.

 

[phantom309]

Originally posted by: Red Dawn

I belive that many people go into it with the belief that if it doesn't work out that divorce is always an option

Thank God for that option. Could you imagine getting married and your spouse turning into some nasty creature before your eyes and having to spend the rest of what would be a miserable life with it? How about marrying a beautiful lady and she turned out to be a 500 lbs ball breaking behemoth and you have no out? What if you had 3 rat bastard children that should have been drowned at birth, could you imagine having to live with those vermin?

Point taken, but if your wife turns into a monster you probably did something to help make her that way. If your kids are rat bastards, you DID do something to make them that way - and to abandon them like that is cowardly and wrong.

Really, I think Geekbabe nailed it. The divorce rate is so high because women no longer have to rely on their husbands for their livelihood - and this makes them a lot less willing to put up with abuse and bad behavior. Fifty years ago a woman who divorced could look forward to a lifetime of secretary, typing-pool and waitress jobs, the loss of their social circle, a certain amount of contempt from family and church, and a whole lot of loneliness.

Although I certainly agree that too many people today end their marriages for frivolous reasons, I see the main driving force behind the divorce trend - equality - as a fundamentally good thing. Maybe fifty years from now, men and women will have found a way to treat each other with respect and understanding, and they'll stay married because they want to, not out of economic need, or because some imaginary bearded white male in the sky ordered them to.

 

[Red Dawn]

Originally posted by: phantom309

Originally posted by: Red Dawn

I belive that many people go into it with the belief that if it doesn't work out that divorce is always an option

Thank God for that option. Could you imagine getting married and your spouse turning into some nasty creature before your eyes and having to spend the rest of what would be a miserable life with it? How about marrying a beautiful lady and she turned out to be a 500 lbs ball breaking behemoth and you have no out? What if you had 3 rat bastard children that should have been drowned at birth, could you imagine having to live with those vermin?

Point taken, but if your wife turns into a monster you probably did something to help make her that way. If your kids are rat bastards, you DID do something to make them that way -

Yeah I married your mother!

 

[spidey07]

Although I certainly agree that too many people today end their marriages for frivolous reasons, I see the main driving force behind the divorce trend - equality - as a fundamentally good thing. Maybe fifty years from now, men and women will have found a way to treat each other with respect and understanding, and they'll stay married because they want to, not out of economic need, or because some imaginary bearded white male in the sky ordered them to.

nah. Divorce rate is so high because woman want it all.

 

[thomsbrain]

you guys need a lesson on cause and effect.

there's no evidence that living together before marrying MAKES you more likely to divorce.

people who think it's ok to live together before marriage are also more likely to not have a stick up their ass about divorce. of course they divorce more!

edit: thanks wink, you beat me to it, AND had quotes from the study itself. good work.

 

[SackOfAllTrades]

There is only one true cause for high divorce rates: women need therapy.