Cheating or not cheating?

[edmundoab]

Originally posted by: huesmann
Who said anything about there being any sexual attraction here? They hung out, that's all.

in that case without sexual attraction. Then there is nothing wrong with it as explained by 91TTZ (works for the same sex part)

not for the opposite sex

 

[ucdbiendog]

Originally posted by: AdamSnow
Not cheating if nothing happened...

BUT : I'd be pissed if my girlfriend did that.

Q4T!!

 

[Scarpozzi]

Is she hot? Pics STAT!!!!

Also, why did nothing happen? You're supposed to play dumb and say, "You don't have a boyfriend....quit joking around....." When she actually takes the bait, accuse her of being a cheater.

 

[Liviathan]

I say no...can't people just hang out and be friends.

 

[Azrael13]

Originally posted by: sixone
It is cheating: she is putting time and effort into building a relationship with you, which she could be devoting to her relationship with him. Whether he knows about it or not, whether there's physical contact or not, doesn't make a jot of difference.

I couldn't have said it better myself!

 

[edmundoab]

Originally posted by: Liviathan
I say no...can't people just hang out and be friends.

if they are both single , then yes, your statement is reasonable.

 

[91TTZ]

Originally posted by: Azrael13

Originally posted by: sixone
It is cheating: she is putting time and effort into building a relationship with you, which she could be devoting to her relationship with him. Whether he knows about it or not, whether there's physical contact or not, doesn't make a jot of difference.

I couldn't have said it better myself!

Since you're the only one geographically close to the original poster, do us a favor and slap him on the back of the head for being such a stooge!

 

[dquan97]

women cheat by sharing emotionally, men cheat physically

 

[Azrael13]

Originally posted by: 91TTZ
Since you're the only one geographically close to the original poster, do us a favor and slap him on the back of the head for being such a stooge!

consider it done!

 

[jaedaliu]

Originally posted by: sixone

Originally posted by: Feneant2
I will keep this short as people hate long thread.

I am close with our student at work, we spend a lot of time together and there is a lot of harmles flirting going on.

Last Friday, we spent the evening together, we went out to eat, hung out around town a bit and then went back to my place to watch a movie. There was no physical contact involved.

Now, I am single but she is not. To this, my coworker says she is cheating (his girlfriend concurs), but I say it is not.

Vote away so I can rub it in his ugly Anandtech reading face. (he is reading this post now)

It is cheating: she is putting time and effort into building a relationship with you, which she could be devoting to her relationship with him. Whether he knows about it or not, whether there's physical contact or not, doesn't make a jot of difference.

wow, must be difficult to date you. ANYTHING could be considered cheating if it's not time spent improving the relationship.

 

[edmundoab]

Originally posted by: jaedaliu

Originally posted by: sixone

Originally posted by: Feneant2
I will keep this short as people hate long thread.

I am close with our student at work, we spend a lot of time together and there is a lot of harmles flirting going on.

Last Friday, we spent the evening together, we went out to eat, hung out around town a bit and then went back to my place to watch a movie. There was no physical contact involved.

Now, I am single but she is not. To this, my coworker says she is cheating (his girlfriend concurs), but I say it is not.

Vote away so I can rub it in his ugly Anandtech reading face. (he is reading this post now)

It is cheating: she is putting time and effort into building a relationship with you, which she could be devoting to her relationship with him. Whether he knows about it or not, whether there's physical contact or not, doesn't make a jot of difference.

wow, must be difficult to date you. ANYTHING could be considered cheating if it's not time spent improving the relationship.

wont say ANYTHING is wrong
specific activities, and most important how its done, a one on one or a group kind

 

[nitsuj3580]

Originally posted by: ggnl

Originally posted by: edmundoab

Originally posted by: oldsmoboat
I say no. It's perfectly fine for men and women to be friends.

that case is practically a date already
friends don't do a one on one with so many events especially when at least one party is attached.
where is the line drawn then between friends and lovers?

So if I go to dinner and a movie with my male friend, does that make us gay lovers?

Why would it be any different if my friend happened to be a female?

I know it's a hard concept for jealous boyfriends to handle, but women can have male friends that are just friends.

exactly, I know my g/f and her female roomy that also has a b/f has invited my friend over to watch a movie when I was out of town because they like him as a friend.

Do I feel threatened by it or pissed off? No

 

[spaceman]

in my book,yes.

 

[edmundoab]

Originally posted by: nitsuj3580

Originally posted by: ggnl

Originally posted by: edmundoab

Originally posted by: oldsmoboat
I say no. It's perfectly fine for men and women to be friends.

that case is practically a date already
friends don't do a one on one with so many events especially when at least one party is attached.
where is the line drawn then between friends and lovers?

So if I go to dinner and a movie with my male friend, does that make us gay lovers?

Why would it be any different if my friend happened to be a female?

I know it's a hard concept for jealous boyfriends to handle, but women can have male friends that are just friends.

exactly, I know my g/f and her female roomy that also has a b/f has invited my friend over to watch a movie when I was out of town because they like him as a friend.

Do I feel threatened by it or pissed off? No

that is a different situation

 

[Azrael13]

The Original Poster forgot to add that a stroll through the petstore followed their dinner out.

That is very much a "couple" thing in my book. (I don't take my guy friend for a stroll in the pet store)

 

[DeadByDawn]

Pet store? Damn, they might as well be bonin right now!

 

[lightpants]

Remember, if you don't do her, the terrorists win.

 

[edmundoab]

Originally posted by: Azrael13
The Original Poster forgot to add that a stroll through the petstore followed their dinner out.

That is very much a "couple" thing in my book. (I don't take my guy friend for a stroll in the pet store)

sounds clearer and clearer now with the follow up
Male sense seldom go wrong with respect to this situation hehe =)

 

[eigen]

Originally posted by: dquan97
women cheat by sharing emotionally, men cheat physically

QFT

 

[NakaNaka]

She's only cheating if she is not honest w. her bf about it.

 

[elektrolokomotive]

Depends on whether there's any deception involved.

 

You're a supervisor and she's a student employee?

That is wrong.

 

[sixone]

Originally posted by: jaedaliu

wow, must be difficult to date you. ANYTHING could be considered cheating if it's not time spent improving the relationship.

Not that you need to worry. Good reading comprehension skills are non-negotiable.

 

[randomlinh]

Originally posted by: Azrael13
The Original Poster forgot to add that a stroll through the petstore followed their dinner out.

That is very much a "couple" thing in my book. (I don't take my guy friend for a stroll in the pet store)

heh, you know, i did just that w/ a friend of mine yesterday. granted, i do take interest in her... it's just not mutual 🙁

 

[DainBramaged]

Originally posted by: TechITguy
Yes she is.