Can gays be into macho stuff?

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of course. so can women. and straight men can be into feminine things. there may be typical behaviors, but there are no 'rules'

waste of time trying to even generalize/stereotype, will always be exceptions
 

zinfamous

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Originally posted by: scorpious
Originally posted by: swbsam
God, I hate sports, other than bowling.... Does that make me gay?

Do you remember shortly after he female-lib movement, how women were ULTRA feminist, as way of empowerment? Burning bras, refusing to shave, etc. etc. The gay "personality" is kinda like that. In 20 years we'll have more gays admitting that they love a good basketball game and wearing stuff that's not sequenced.

I will add, you only notice the fem gays because they're fem. If they weren't, how would you know or care? Like I don't put out straight vibes, nor do I talk about straight issues.. in fact, i'm pretty culturally "gay"

Let's fucking get this party started.

LoL, no shit....
 

GeekDrew

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:roll: Off of the top of my head, I know three general contractors that are gay, two auto mechanics, several law enforcement officers and firemen, a few financial auditors, a personal gym trainer, a bartender, a couple of machinists, a couple warehouse managers, and more IT-related than I can count. None of them talk with a lisp or are any more effeminate than the average straight guy.
 
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Originally posted by: barfo
I mean blue collar like macho stuff, I don't think I've ever known of a gay that's fan of Nascar, trucks, muscle cars, DIY home repairs?

Really? I was pretty sure Nascar is the gayest thing on the planet.
 

lxskllr

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I've known a couple of construction workers I've suspected of being gay. They drove big trucks, watched NASCAR, and drank beer. You also wouldn't have wanted to start shit with them, because they'd have beat you into the ground.
 

queenrobot

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Originally posted by: barfo
I mean blue collar like macho stuff, I don't think I've ever known of a gay that's fan of Nascar, trucks, muscle cars, DIY home repairs?

The gay guy I jam closest to doesn't like any of those things really. He does like to camp, fish, drink beer and watch football though.
 

moshquerade

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Originally posted by: Mide
What a foolish question...let me guess, you're Christian.

:thumbsdown:

don't go down Generalization Street again. save that for another thread.
 

destrekor

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Originally posted by: moshquerade
ffs, enough of these kinda threads. they are men. they have a penis just like you do. nuff said.

well no offense to any, but seriously... some I'd barely call men, other than the physical parts mind you. ;) that voice, certain style of walking, the drama, hell some with make up. That ain't right by any stretch. Sorry. It's not the sexual preference either, it's that creepy life style. There's being a true metrosexual type person, but taking it past that line scares me.

But the gays or bi's that are built like beasts, have the typical male interests (doesn't have to be macho. i've known muscular friends, and while I am not quite the level of muscular but same category, who all enjoy tech and computers. all the same).
What I'm saying by that, I don't care what someone chooses to want to prefer in bed (on an animal level, I do deeply care, but not on a social level, and hell... some strange natural form of population control in large primate populations? whatever ;)), but don't flaunt it in my face and deeply disturb many. be cool and nonchalant about it. And hell... I don't get the idea of wanting to be gay, and going after a gay guy that's more feminine that most women. Baffling.
 

swbsam

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Originally posted by: destrekor
Originally posted by: moshquerade
ffs, enough of these kinda threads. they are men. they have a penis just like you do. nuff said.

well no offense to any, but seriously... some I'd barely call men, other than the physical parts mind you. ;) that voice, certain style of walking, the drama, hell some with make up. That ain't right by any stretch. Sorry. It's not the sexual preference either, it's that creepy life style. There's being a true metrosexual type person, but taking it past that line scares me.

But the gays or bi's that are built like beasts, have the typical male interests (doesn't have to be macho. i've known muscular friends, and while I am not quite the level of muscular but same category, who all enjoy tech and computers. all the same).
What I'm saying by that, I don't care what someone chooses to want to prefer in bed (on an animal level, I do deeply care, but not on a social level, and hell... some strange natural form of population control in large primate populations? whatever ;)), but don't flaunt it in my face and deeply disturb many. be cool and nonchalant about it. And hell... I don't get the idea of wanting to be gay, and going after a gay guy that's more feminine that most women. Baffling.

The question is why does it bother you, their flaunting it? Remember, gays have been in the closet for centuries - burned alive in some cultures, discriminated against since the beginning of time. Now the discussion is starting for equality and we, as a society, are beginning to accept them. While it may annoy you, why not just let them have their sissy coming out party?

Honestly, I'm as pro-gay as can be but cringe whenever I see guys make out. But I bet people cringe when they watch me and my wife make out - i'm a fat, hairy indian dude after all.. My reaction is instinctual, but I have no right to tell them not to make out .. How about you just let gays be, unless they grab your cock?
 

n yusef

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Originally posted by: sourceninja
I've only known a handful of gays. But all of them were normal before a summer vacation in high school. Then something happend that caused their voices to raise their hand motions to become all odd and their maturity to regress to that of a 14 year old girl.

I have yet to meet someone who was gay that I did not suspect was gay. I'm assuming there is something about being gay that changes you in every single way.

I think you're interpretting this incorrectly. Maybe coming out didn't make these men feminine, but that they always were, and repressed their femininity just like they repressed their sexuality. Instead of seeing fem as persona and butch ("regular") as natural, maybe fem is natural and butch is persona, for the men you know.
 

nakedfrog

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Originally posted by: swbsam
Honestly, I'm as pro-gay as can be but cringe whenever I see guys make out. But I bet people cringe when they watch me and my wife make out - i'm a fat, hairy indian dude after all.. My reaction is instinctual, but I have no right to tell them not to make out .. How about you just let gays be, unless they grab your cock?

I would dispute that your reaction is instinctual.
 

Barfo

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Originally posted by: GeekDrew
:roll: Off of the top of my head, I know three general contractors that are gay, two auto mechanics, several law enforcement officers and firemen, a few financial auditors, a personal gym trainer, a bartender, a couple of machinists, a couple warehouse managers, and more IT-related than I can count. None of them talk with a lisp or are any more effeminate than the average straight guy.

Thanks, I guess people aren't open about their homosexuality around here. The only gays I'm acquainted with are the suave metrosexual kind.

Originally posted by: Mide
What a foolish question...let me guess, you're Christian.

Agnostic.
 

swbsam

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Originally posted by: nakedfrog
Originally posted by: swbsam
Honestly, I'm as pro-gay as can be but cringe whenever I see guys make out. But I bet people cringe when they watch me and my wife make out - i'm a fat, hairy indian dude after all.. My reaction is instinctual, but I have no right to tell them not to make out .. How about you just let gays be, unless they grab your cock?

I would dispute that your reaction is instinctual.

You're probably right, I'm honestly just trying to play devil's advocate. I don't personally feel that there's anything inherently wrong with having a gut reaction to homosexual behavior, but I feel that acting on that reaction (whether physical or legislative) is what's wrong.
 

Platypus

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Originally posted by: nakedfrog
Originally posted by: swbsam
Honestly, I'm as pro-gay as can be but cringe whenever I see guys make out. But I bet people cringe when they watch me and my wife make out - i'm a fat, hairy indian dude after all.. My reaction is instinctual, but I have no right to tell them not to make out .. How about you just let gays be, unless they grab your cock?

I would dispute that your reaction is instinctual.

I find any PDA to be tasteless no matter the sex or preference.
 

Red Squirrel

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Depends, in a gay couple you might have one that is the "man" while the other is the "woman", that one will be the true i love you, while the other might be somewhat manly. I doubt either would go as far as doing house work though. You might break a nail. :eek:
 

n yusef

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Originally posted by: RedSquirrel
Depends, in a gay couple you might have one that is the "man" while the other is the "woman", that one will be the true i love you, while the other might be somewhat manly. I doubt either would go as far as doing house work though. You might break a nail. :eek:

This top/bottom shit is misogynistic and not representative of millions of homosexual relationships.
 

Platypus

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Originally posted by: RedSquirrel
Depends, in a gay couple you might have one that is the "man" while the other is the "woman", that one will be the true i love you, while the other might be somewhat manly. I doubt either would go as far as doing house work though. You might break a nail. :eek:

are you fucking serious with this reply?
 

EvilYoda

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Originally posted by: Platypus
Originally posted by: RedSquirrel
Depends, in a gay couple you might have one that is the "man" while the other is the "woman", that one will be the true i love you, while the other might be somewhat manly. I doubt either would go as far as doing house work though. You might break a nail. :eek:

are you fucking serious with this reply?

Sadly, I'm pretty sure he is.
 

swbsam

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Originally posted by: n yusef
Originally posted by: RedSquirrel
Depends, in a gay couple you might have one that is the "man" while the other is the "woman", that one will be the true i love you, while the other might be somewhat manly. I doubt either would go as far as doing house work though. You might break a nail. :eek:

This top/bottom shit is misogynistic and not representative of millions of homosexual relationships.

I don't think that gender roles are, by nature, misogynistic or "top/bottom." They started from one gender being better at one thing, men being better hunters and women better homemakers. I'm very glad that these gender roles are being eliminated in time - that's progress. But I don't think it's misogynistic. Honestly, many gay couples I know have a division of duties - one person's better at one thing than the other. I don't see how that's sexist. Tying those roles to gender is perhaps not very enlightened (i.e. only women cook, only men fix things), but it's not really something to get huffy about... We're proving those gender classifications wrong every day, but I'd honestly prefer a male fire fighter if my house was on fire. Call me sexist!
 

nakedfrog

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Originally posted by: Platypus
Originally posted by: nakedfrog
Originally posted by: swbsam
Honestly, I'm as pro-gay as can be but cringe whenever I see guys make out. But I bet people cringe when they watch me and my wife make out - i'm a fat, hairy indian dude after all.. My reaction is instinctual, but I have no right to tell them not to make out .. How about you just let gays be, unless they grab your cock?

I would dispute that your reaction is instinctual.

I find any PDA to be tasteless no matter the sex or preference.

Does that include sex in public, or just making out?
 

Platypus

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Originally posted by: nakedfrog
Originally posted by: Platypus
Originally posted by: nakedfrog
Originally posted by: swbsam
Honestly, I'm as pro-gay as can be but cringe whenever I see guys make out. But I bet people cringe when they watch me and my wife make out - i'm a fat, hairy indian dude after all.. My reaction is instinctual, but I have no right to tell them not to make out .. How about you just let gays be, unless they grab your cock?

I would dispute that your reaction is instinctual.

I find any PDA to be tasteless no matter the sex or preference.

Does that include sex in public, or just making out?

lol
 

n yusef

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Originally posted by: swbsam
Originally posted by: n yusef
Originally posted by: RedSquirrel
Depends, in a gay couple you might have one that is the "man" while the other is the "woman", that one will be the true i love you, while the other might be somewhat manly. I doubt either would go as far as doing house work though. You might break a nail. :eek:

This top/bottom shit is misogynistic and not representative of millions of homosexual relationships.

I don't think that gender roles are, by nature, misogynistic or "top/bottom." They started from one gender being better at one thing, men being better hunters and women better homemakers. I'm very glad that these gender roles are being eliminated in time - that's progress. But I don't think it's misogynistic. Honestly, many gay couples I know have a division of duties - one person's better at one thing than the other. I don't see how that's sexist. Tying those roles to gender is perhaps not very enlightened (i.e. only women cook, only men fix things), but it's not really something to get huffy about... We're proving those gender classifications wrong every day, but I'd honestly prefer a male fire fighter if my house was on fire. Call me sexist!

The supposed gender rolls in homosexual relationships are nearly always misogynistic. In these threads about gay men, being "normal," i.e. masculine as valued above being a "i love you" or a "queen" or "flamboyant" or "fem." In gay male relationships, penetrating in anal sex is seen as more respectable than being penetrated. This view is even maintained by some queers, and that's unfortunate.

Valuing masculinity above femininity is misogynistic, and it's disappointing that this is the premise underlying two threads.
 

destrekor

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Originally posted by: swbsam
Originally posted by: destrekor
Originally posted by: moshquerade
ffs, enough of these kinda threads. they are men. they have a penis just like you do. nuff said.

well no offense to any, but seriously... some I'd barely call men, other than the physical parts mind you. ;) that voice, certain style of walking, the drama, hell some with make up. That ain't right by any stretch. Sorry. It's not the sexual preference either, it's that creepy life style. There's being a true metrosexual type person, but taking it past that line scares me.

But the gays or bi's that are built like beasts, have the typical male interests (doesn't have to be macho. i've known muscular friends, and while I am not quite the level of muscular but same category, who all enjoy tech and computers. all the same).
What I'm saying by that, I don't care what someone chooses to want to prefer in bed (on an animal level, I do deeply care, but not on a social level, and hell... some strange natural form of population control in large primate populations? whatever ;)), but don't flaunt it in my face and deeply disturb many. be cool and nonchalant about it. And hell... I don't get the idea of wanting to be gay, and going after a gay guy that's more feminine that most women. Baffling.

The question is why does it bother you, their flaunting it? Remember, gays have been in the closet for centuries - burned alive in some cultures, discriminated against since the beginning of time. Now the discussion is starting for equality and we, as a society, are beginning to accept them. While it may annoy you, why not just let them have their sissy coming out party?

Honestly, I'm as pro-gay as can be but cringe whenever I see guys make out. But I bet people cringe when they watch me and my wife make out - i'm a fat, hairy indian dude after all.. My reaction is instinctual, but I have no right to tell them not to make out .. How about you just let gays be, unless they grab your cock?

Well... I treat it just like that. They are free to be as sissy as they want to. I don't care. It disturbs me, but I won't get in their face about it. People do many things they have a right to do, that I find disturbing, but I just keep on walking or whatever. That's what freedom is, and they need to just get used to it. Not a single topic out there in the history of man, has EVER had every single person unified in a certain direction. They can do what they please, and yes some who are upset will cross the line in their reaction, but if it comes to the point of the issue simply offending people, but nothing happens - they should consider that a victory... that's as much as the gays will get. Because that's how much any pure freedom gets. Gun owners are universally loved around the country, people who abuse the first amendment are praised by everyone, it's a simple fact, especially in a country like ours where cultures vary greatly.

However, my original point: I don't care if a gay guy wants to flaunt he's gay. Well, I don't care period what they do. However, I am more accepting of a gay guy who acts like every other guy. And yes, every other guy acts differently, hell... some straight men act quite feminine. But that's perfectly acceptable to me in modern society, and if gays acted like everyone else, they'd blend right in. Maybe, yes, the extremely feminine gays go that route to stand out to be appealing to equally flamboyant gays, I dunno. But I do know that it just rattles me inside. I don't get it, because I guarantee these people didn't act like that until they made some personal decision to change into that style. And I don't get it.

But ultimately, why do I find it so deeply disturbing? I don't like seeing a male of our species act more feminine than almost every female I've ever known, and I don't know too many tom boys, and I sure as hell don't date the tom boys. ;) That simple issue is what hits so hard with me, because it confuses me in every way possible. I don't understand why a male would do that.

But I'm less socially minded and more animal minded. My society aspect makes me reason that, whatever... this is here to stay, they have a right to do what they want (we're not going to get into marriage here, hell I don't quite favor marriage in general, except for the government aspect which is beneficial, i.e. taxation), and I'm here to ensure citizens get to retain those rights, as rights are exclusive to groups, they are equal to all citizens.

But on my animal side, and I've said this before... I just don't get it. It's backwards, does nothing for the species, and I just don't understand that drive one bit. I know in the animal kingdom, bisexuality has been seen, and a few times where males are exclusively sticking to other males, but bisexuality is more common than that - and it's reasonable. Males are horny, females aren't around, well... gotta do something. That, and it's another way to express dominance/submissiveness in groups.

However, that's all I got to say for the animal nature part. That kind of reasoning isn't too popular in modern society these days, and leads to things like eugenics - which had popular support even here, until the Nazi's turned that one upside down. In theory its great, but in practice, you can't radically change it. To have been acceptable it would have to occurred from the very beginning. And we're so mixed up these days as a species, there is no changing it period. Everyone is carrying genetic material for some disorder, some problem, sometimes just as a carrier and not expressed. And I gotta cut this off eventually or I'm going to write another novel.... too late. :D