Can a regular guy get a really hot smart girl?

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DaShen

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Yes, very possible :)
But the guy has to be genuinely a good guy and not an ass who is manipulating the situation to attract a real stand up girl and keep her.
 
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CptObvious

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I'd say it's possible, but the guy has to have an outgoing personality and few insecurities. One of my friends is about a marry a girl who in my opinion, would otherwise be out of his league looks-wise, but the guy fits the above characteristics. Also, he's a future doctor.
 
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Riverhound777

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Wow you people are sad... It is all in your head! If you think your not worthy, than your not. It is all your self perception and how you portray yourself and believe in yourself. If you know you are an average looking guy but believe you are a great person, fun to be around, and very confident, than you can get pretty much any girl you want. But you have to believe you can.

Sure, a girl might cheat on you, that happens with really attractive men too, why would anyone think it doesn't? You could be Brad Pitt and still be cheated on, it has nothing to do with how you look or how rich you are. Either you are a wuss, or the girl is a whore.

The wuss part you can fix, the other is just bad luck, move on.

For you people who think you can only get someone equal to your looks, and that you need to settle, you are sad sad folks. Girls honestly don't care about looks as much as men. If you make them laugh and feel attraction for you, it really doesn't matter what you look like, so long as you don't stink or dress completely retarded. Hell if you are really confident and good with women, you could probably wear a clown costume to a bar and have more luck than some rich guy in a nice business suit who is a wuss and has no idea what he is doing.
 
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DaiShan

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Of course an average looking guy can go out with a more attractive girl. Here's a little secret, once you stop dating 18 year olds looks are less important, and sense of humor/personality etc are more important. A friend of mine just broke off a 3 year relationship with her SO because he has no ambition in life and is perfectly happy working at the movie theater and living with his parents with his history degree.
 
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vi edit

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Originally posted by: Chunkee
there are smart girls?

jC
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Smart yes, logical...not so much :p

And it's not just a one sided deal with looks. It's not just up to the "hot" partner to decide they want to stay with the normal one. It's also up to the "normal" one to decide if they are up to the maintenance of putting up with the comments, ridicule, and concerns of being with someone way out of their looks league.

How many times have you walked down a street and seen a hot girl hanging on a guy that looks like a pile of dog sh!t and thought to yourself "lucky her!". Or walk down a street and see a guy that looks like Brad Pitt with a girl that looks like Rosie O'Donnell and wonder "WTF!!?".

Society itself isn't easy on mismatches and it wears on a couple. Some can live with it, many can't. It wears you down when you constanty put up with comments and suggestions that so and so is too good looking or too nice for their significant other. Or that she is only with him for the money.

If you are very happy with the mate you are with, it's not settling. There is *ALWAYS* somebody better looking, smarter, funnier, wealthier, and a better cook out there. You could make the argument that you are always settling for someone else.
 
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fisheerman

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Originally posted by: SoftwareEng
Can a regular guy (ok-looking, pretty smart, good manners and salary) get a very cute/hot, smart girl and keep her? Or are all hot girls spoiled nowadays?
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This works if said guy was dating said girl before she was hottie.

Like highschool sweathearts.

If you are posting on this forum and you are not with a girl like above then NO you are out of luck.

Only other way is to hit the lotto or star in a movie.................

sorry

-fish

 
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Chunkee

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Originally posted by: vi_edit
Originally posted by: Chunkee
there are smart girls?

jC
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Smart yes, logical...not so much :p

And it's not just a one sided deal with looks. It's not just up to the "hot" partner to decide they want to stay with the normal one. It's also up to the "normal" one to decide if they are up to the maintenance of putting up with the comments, ridicule, and concerns of being with someone way out of their looks league.

How many times have you walked down a street and seen a hot girl hanging on a guy that looks like a pile of dog sh!t and thought to yourself "lucky her!". Or walk down a street and see a guy that looks like Brad Pitt with a girl that looks like Rosie O'Donnell and wonder "WTF!!?".

Society itself isn't easy on mismatches and it wears on a couple. Some can live with it, many can't. It wears you down when you constanty put up with comments and suggestions that so and so is too good looking or too nice for their significant other. Or that she is only with him for the money.

If you are very happy with the mate you are with, it's not settling. There is *ALWAYS* somebody better looking, smarter, funnier, wealthier, and a better cook out there. You could make the argument that you are always settling for someone else.
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i would take an okay looking chick over a hot one any day....IF she was not a high maintenance nag, a shallow biatch...and yapped her friggin stupid opinions all the time....eeeshh...

comes down to it, the face is buried in the pillow any ways..

:)

jC
 
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djheater

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Originally posted by: vi_edit


If you are very happy with the mate you are with, it's not settling. There is *ALWAYS* somebody better looking, smarter, funnier, wealthier, and a better cook out there. You could make the argument that you are always settling for someone else.
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Agreed.
What readers are missing here is that a feeling of matched attractiveness is necessary for happiness and stability. A relationship founded with one partner at a disadvantage is not stable and therefore must be unhappy.

Whom I settled for.
 
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JulesMaximus

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Yes. There's a girl I work with who is beautiful (tall, thin and athletic build, smokin' hot body and very pretty face), she's smart and driven and she just married a total boob. I honestly don't know what she sees in this guy. He's cocky, arrogant and abrasive...not to mention, short, and average looking at best. She'd be much better off with someone like me...at least I'm as tall as she is. ;):p
 
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rh71

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what, you've never felt bad for a girl on the other end of the spectrum before ? :D
 
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DaShen

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Originally posted by: DaiShan
Of course an average looking guy can go out with a more attractive girl. Here's a little secret, once you stop dating 18 year olds looks are less important, and sense of humor/personality etc are more important. A friend of mine just broke off a 3 year relationship with her SO because he has no ambition in life and is perfectly happy working at the movie theater and living with his parents with his history degree.
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QFT. Look for a girl who is mature and independant and if you are the same, no problems.

The thing is you have to be mature and independant as well. If you are, you won't be constantly looking for a girl and you will go after a girl only when you notice them for more than looks.

**EDIT**
BTW, threads like these in ATOT show how young the crowd in ATOT is. ;) :p
 
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CKent

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In a word, no. There might be exceptions, but much like winning the lottory, they're not something you can count on or even realistically hope for.
 
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