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Can a regular guy get a really hot smart girl?

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Originally posted by: SoftwareEng
Originally posted by: Sluggo
Yeah, but it makes the guy sofaking paranoid that everyone is out to steal his girl that eventually he goes insane.

Its like, ya know, like a well known fact.
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and that makes the guy much less attractive to the girl (the paranoid part, not the going insane)
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And if I may add, the insane part is pretty unappealing as well 😉
 
Originally posted by: SoftwareEng
Originally posted by: EvilYoda
Why should they? If you were a smart and good looking man, would you settle? Sure, "true love" and all that, but I doubt it.
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looks aren't everything... there's the compatibility, similar interests, shared experiences, etc... besides, don't people look more attractive after you fall in love with them anyway?

so yes I would "Settle".
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It's easy enough to say that you would settle, but if you were a good looking guy who could get pretty much any hot girl you wanted, how would you even meet and get to know that average girl in the first place?
 
Originally posted by: clickynext
Originally posted by: SoftwareEng
Originally posted by: EvilYoda
Why should they? If you were a smart and good looking man, would you settle? Sure, "true love" and all that, but I doubt it.
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looks aren't everything... there's the compatibility, similar interests, shared experiences, etc... besides, don't people look more attractive after you fall in love with them anyway?

so yes I would "Settle".
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It's easy enough to say that you would settle, but if you were a good looking guy who could get pretty much any hot girl you wanted, how would you even meet and get to know that average girl in the first place?
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Just start talking to someone at a party, I guess... but I wouldn't seek her out in the first place
 
Looks doesn't matter much as long as you look average or better. If she's had enough boyfriends (could be 1, could be 10s) and is willing to settle, as long as you can show that you care for her (but not too much) and you love her (not obsessively), she will stay with you. Love isn't about just loving her, but when to show it or when to give her space.
 
OF COURSE YOU CAN. Dude, you can do anything you want pretty much (within the realm of societies laws and such, but even then....😉 ). I'm average to slightly above average. I know when I go out there are guido looking guys that seem more attractive on the surface to girls, but I walk in a place like I own it and exude confidence. That's not something you can fake, but you should until you get in the habit of it.

As long as you're secure in yourself it will show through. I NEVER look at a girl as unobtainable. I recommend you find the most attractive girl you know and become her friend. This flies in the face of all logic, but it will pay off big in the end. Once she feels safe and comfortable around you she'll open up and tell you things about women most guys will never know. Also, there's a good chance she'll have hot friends and as you hang out with her you'll meet them. Just get out, do new things with as many different people as possible. Don't "hunt" for it though, what comes to you will come to you.

If you do land a hot chick that's half the battle. Just treat her well. Most girls can tell how a guy will treat them by looking at the relationship he has with his mother. Sex, is also a big deal for women, even though they say it isn't. Don't try to knock her brains out the first night. That first night should be all about her, not you. Take your time and make foreplay last as long as possible, THEN have sex. As time progresses, sex with her should only improve. It's always awkward to some degree or another the first time, and most women know this. Once you "learn her" though you can refine that game. The "first time" also ALWAYS gets reported back to her friends, so that's why it's important to get her close to climax before you do the deed and run the risk of being a "minute man". If she goes back to her friends bragging about how she couldn't walk afterwards they're only gonna want to meet you more, and that COULD get interesting for you.

Always take her out and HAVE FUN with her.

Don't worry about other guys hitting on her and losing her to them. If she cheats she was too shallow for you anyway. If she's happy with you she'll stay with you despite some guy trying to push up on her.

That is the biggest hurtle in dating a hot chick, there's always competition, and she usually has "guy friends". So if you can't deal with that you might as well give up.

Hope my babbling helped.
 
Nope.

I'm a regular guy (on the computer nerd side). I had a really hot, really smart girl. We hit it off big time and we were compatable on so many layers. Never was there any problem in our relationship. We dated 5 years. We were married 6 years. In that period, she cheated on me at least 3 times that I know of (who knows how many more). I finally was fed up and divorced her as there was nothing to save in that relationship.

Yes, a regular guy can get a really hot and really smart girl. Yes, he can marry her. But no, he can't compete with the dozens of guys that hit on her every day. Eventually she'll see that she can do better and fall in love with another.
 
Originally posted by: SoftwareEng
Can a regular guy (ok-looking, pretty smart, good manners and salary) get a very cute/hot, smart girl and keep her? Or are all hot girls spoiled nowadays?
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My fiance is hot and completely unspoiled (she was a farm girl...is perfectly happy with simple things). She is also fully independent and works as an Art Manager. I know I'm a lucky guy...and I dated a lot of girls before I found the right one.
 
Of course. If you don't believe you can, well, you're never going to get a girl like that.

But if you stop being a no-self-esteem having beyatch, you can get some pretty good looking girls. If they're smart or not, that depends on the girl .
 
I have seen a study which said that relationships are most stable when partners view themselves as equally attractive.

10's seek 10's 8's seek 8's, otherwise there are lingering fears and resentments which interfere with the stability of the relationship.

I suggest you go for a regular girl (ok-looking, pretty smart, good manners and salary) if you want to keep her.
 
You need a girl with the ugly duck syndrome.

Girl that was ugly through most of school and never learned that she developed into an attractive girl.

 
sorry to rehash much of what has already been said but NO. A 'regular guy' would indicate you make average salary and have average look. Would you honestly go look for a average girl with average intleligence if you were a stud with alot of money? If you say yes you're a true freak 🙂
 
Originally posted by: kaname
If you can knock her bottom out like nobody else can...then yeah, you can keep her.
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so, how do you discuss the topic of knocking her bottom? everytime i bring it up, she's like, 'that's exit only bud.'
 
Originally posted by: ElFenix
Originally posted by: kaname
If you can knock her bottom out like nobody else can...then yeah, you can keep her.
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so, how do you discuss the topic of knocking her bottom? everytime i bring it up, she's like, 'that's exit only bud.'
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Start with a finger. 😉

But I don't think he meant "bottom," literally.
 
Originally posted by: ElFenix
Originally posted by: kaname
If you can knock her bottom out like nobody else can...then yeah, you can keep her.
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so, how do you discuss the topic of knocking her bottom? everytime i bring it up, she's like, 'that's exit only bud.'
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I think you're reading that wrong man.....and a lot of women actually enjoy what you're talking about.....because it's "taboo".
 
Possible, but not probable.

People simply work the best mating up with others of similar looks/intelligence. That's just nature. Obviously there are some exceptions like wealth and convenience that can trump those natural selections, but as a whole it's just not a relationship that will last.

Mismatchings in looks and intelligence just leave the other person feeling shortchanged and wanting more.
 
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