Normally I agree with you RightIsWrong, but this is just ridiculous. Let me start by addressing your claim that the autistic child is required to attend mass to get into Heaven, first from your own quote (bolded for emphasis):
Catholics who attain the age of reason obliged to assist at Mass on every Sunday and Holy Day of Obligation. Only serious sickness or a serious obligation in charity or moral impossibly excesses one from this duty. To miss Mass without such a serious reason ends one's friendship with God and a person who does this is guilty of a mortal sin. The third commandment of the Decalogue and the first precept of the Church require Sunday Mass attendance. Of course, Sunday Mass is not only a Christian duty and a Catholic obligation, but it is an enormous privilege and a great source of joy. For a Catholic Sunday Mass should not just be part of the week but the heart of the week.
The child is excused because of
serious sickness. The parents are excused because of
a serious obligation in charity.
As if that weren't enough, we have further quotes from the Baltimore chapter of the Roman Catholic Church (thank you markgm):
A "serious reason" excusing one from the obligation of hearing Mass is any reason that makes it impossible or very difficult to attend Mass, such as severe illness, great distance from the Church, or the need of certain works that cannot be neglected or postponed.
The child is excused owing to
severe illness. The parents are excused owing to
the need of certain works that cannot be neglected or postponed (their need to care for their autistic child).
Bottom line, Catholic dogma dictates that these people are all still eligible for Heaven regardless of whether they attend church or not. Now I'd like to address some points you lay out in a different post:
Originally posted by: RightIsWrong
I think that the first issue is it is automatically assumed that the church is correct and accurate in its assessment of the situation.
1. Church makes claim that he spits - Parents deny that he actually spits but does make a face that appears that he might
2. Church makes claim that he urinates in church - Where does this take place? In the church bathroom where I would assume that the vast majority of all members have urinated up to and including the priest himself? In his pants? Does the church not allow those children that are not potty trained yet in its house of worship? What if he wore Depends or something else?
3. Church claims that parents do not discipline child - Maybe the priest was upset because he couldn't be disciplined the way that Catholic priests have been disciplining adolescent boys for the last couple of decades? Maybe the priest is just an ignorant fuck when it comes to children with disabilities and doesn't realize that no sort of discipline would correct behavior that is uncontrollable?
4. Church claims that he ran out and started two cars in the lot and revved the engines - Are the members that left their keys in their cars being disciplined and suspended from the church as well? If not, why?
5. Church claims that he assaulted a girl by pulling her onto his lap - Broke the Catholic rule of having it be a girl I guess
6. Church claims that he yells - Family says that they sat in "cry" room for noisy children
7. Church claims that he knocked the old folk over while exiting - Parents would exit with child prior to final hymn to avoid such issue
Why is the church automatically assumed to be telling the truth and accurately describing the situation with their track record? It sounds as if the parents were doing what it took to make the service as undisruptive as possible but the church itself was the one that couldn't deal with it.
1. I'll defer to the parents on this one, but it's certainly possible that the child is spitting. Regardless, even making spitting noises can be distracting in a ceremony that requires silence and reverence.
2. The parents admitted he had a problem with incontinence, so I'm guessing the urination takes place in his pants as he sits in the pew. Why else would the church even bring it up?
3. Disciplining an autistic child cannot be done in the same way as an average child, so the priest sounds like a blowhard here.
4. If the church is in a safe enough area that residents don't have to worry about their cars being stolen, then more power to them. Are you really making the claim that if someone breaks into your property, it's your fault for leaving it unlocked? That's absurd.
5. He pulled a girl into his lap. That's assault. I appreciate a good Catholic priest pedophile joke as much as anyone, but it doesn't make for a convincing argument, especially in a clear cut case of assault such as this.
6. The cry room for noisy children is where parents take children who are liable to cry. Children don't cry all the way through church, and typically the parents should be able to get them under control fairly quickly. A crying child is completely different from an autistic 13 year old who's larger than most of the parishioners and liable to get violent.
7. Just because the parents are trying to make concessions about arrival and departure times does not negate the fact that their child knocked other parishioners over. What about elderly people who want to leave early? Should they not be allowed? Or should they simply risk getting knocked over by a large autistic boy whose actions are completely unpredictable?
This child sounds too rambunctious to be allowed in public, and his large stature makes him dangerous and a serious liability to those around him. The church should have a right to prevent him from attending services if they feel it poses a reasonable risk to other worshippers, and it seems clear that it does. Let the parents educate him about the Bible at home and call that good for services for them. It's unreasonable of the parents to force others to deal with their potentially violent son just because they are misinterpreting Catholic dogma and refusing to seek special accomodations to keep their son away from other people.